Shamsudin Hakim interviews a man who can list physical preferences but can't name what he actually wants in a partner. Asked about character or emotional safety, he says vague things like wanting somebody to hang out with. One line he says unlocks everything about his real values.
When I asked him about values, he was very vague. All he said was just somebody to hang out with. Faith doesn't really matter to me. What scares him about dating? He was silent. He didn't say anything. What does he want emotionally in a partner? He couldn't even give me an answer for that. He could tell me her height, but not what makes him feel safe with her. He could tell me her weight, but not what he values in her that they He could describe her body, but not her character or the morals that he wanted her to hold. And then he said the line that unlocked everything.
