A partner who never initiates anything, always defers decisions, and leaves all planning and caretaking to you is draining the relationship. Over time you become their caretaker instead of their equal, exhausted and lonely. Watch for someone who rarely suggests dates, constantly says "you decide," and uses compliments to avoid responsibility.
Now, this match right here is a very draining match. What they look like is they don't take initiative. You have to plan everything. They don't contribute equally. You carry the load. They say whatever you want. No opinions, no input, no nothing. They just leave it all on you. They're comfortable with you doing everything. And they don't feel guilty. They're grateful, but that's all they are. Why is draining? The passive isn't malicious. They're just passive. They love that you take charge. They appreciate it. They say thank you, but they never step up. So you become the leader, the planner, the provider, the caretaker. And over time, you're exhausted and lonely because you don't have a partner. You have a dependent. Now, here's the red flags they rarely initiate. Whether it's dates, conversations or care, they defer to you on everything. They'll say things like, you decide. What do you want to do? They're comfortable with imbalance. They don't offer to help. They say you're so good at it, as a way to avoid doing it themselves.
