People who jump from relationship to relationship never learn who they are alone. Sharon, 25, has been in relationships since her teens and has a child but has no identity outside of being a girlfriend or mother. When you fuse your identity with being a partner, being single feels like disappearing.
If you went from relationship to relationship without a break. If you've never been single for more than a few months, your identity got fused with partnership. You don't know who you are alone, so you stay in loops because being alone feels like disappearing. Sharon was formation four and probably formation three. She's 25. She's been in relationships since she was a teenager. She has a child with her ex, and she's never discovered who she is outside of being someone's girlfriend or someone's mother. That's the early loop, and it's incredibly common.
