SHAMSUDIN HAKIMI help you break the Love Pattern that keeps choosing the wrong person.

Is YOUR motivation actually sustainable? 🤔 See what happens when your whole world spins around...

9 Jan 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker critiques the practice of anchoring one's motivation to another individual rather than to personal values or vision. Using a specific example of a woman who first relied on her ex-partner and now on her son as her "inner compass," the speaker acknowledges the power of motherhood as a source of drive but warns of its fragility. The speaker asks probing questions about the future: what happens when the child is with his father, when he matures, or when the mother is alone without a person to guide her? The underlying claim is that motivation tied to external people is unsustainable and can lead to loss of purpose when those relationships change.

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I've lost that energy and that passion. But he makes me want to do it. Let me say that again. Her inner compass is always a person. Not her values, not her faith, not her vision for her life. A person. First it was her ex, now it's her son. And that's beautiful in a way. Motherhood is powerful. Using your child as motivation is real. But here's the problem. What happens when her son is with his dad? What happens when her son grows up? What happens on the nights when she's alone and there's no person to be her compass? She loses her sinner.