Can you describe yourself without mentioning a partner? If your identity is fused with relationships, you'll merge unhealthily with the next person instead of building together. Know who you are first.
Question number one. Do I know who I am outside of relationships? Can you describe yourself without mentioning a partner? Not I'm a loyal girlfriend. Not I'm looking for my person. But I'm someone who loves X values and is building Z. If your identity is still wrapped around partnership, if you don't know who you are when you're not with someone, you're not ready. You'll just fuse with the next person instead of building with them.
