Shamsudin Hakim tells of a woman who looks successful but can't say aloud whether she'll divorce her separated husband. Speaking the decision would make it real, and she's not ready for that truth to exist outside her own mind.
So when you hear a story like this and look at it on paper and you see her life, you look at her and you would say that she is thriving, that she is doing great, way better than she was before. But the truth is, is that she couldn't answer one question. When I asked her, are you going to file for divorce? It's been 2 years and she couldn't answer that question yet. Not because she didn't know. She knew deep down, past the faith, past the fear, past the family history. Past everything that she was now thriving in, she knew the answer to that question. She just couldn't say it out loud because saying it out loud makes it real.
