Shamsudin Hakim argues that dating tips won't help until you heal from past trauma. He tells a man named Marcus to see a therapist trained in male trauma before turning to dating coaches or podcasts. Healing comes first, dating advice second.
I'm not going to give Marcus dating tips. That would be like giving Veronica marriage advice while she's drowning. The dating tips come after the healing, not before. Here's what Marcus actually needs. And if you're a man who checks 6 or more on Monday's checklist, then this is for you too. Step 1, professional support. A therapist, specifically one trained in male trauma, not a dating coach, not a podcast, a professional who can hold space for what happened and help him process it safely.
