Someone spent years trying to fix a partner who didn't want fixing, ignored red flags, and lost them anyway to someone who accepted them as they were. The real problem wasn't the partner's brokenness but their own pattern of choosing broken people.
Let me tell you what happened when I finally saw Milo. I was a fixer. And for several years, I tried to save someone who didn't want to be saved. I ignore red flags. I made excuses. I told myself that she just needs time. She just needs the right kind of love. She needs my love. Because my love's going to heal her. It's going to save her. It's gonna help her to be the person that I see who she is. And I gave everything, and she still left for someone else, so someone who didn't try to fix her. And I was devastated. Not just because she left, but because I had wasted years. Years I could have spent building myself, Years I could have spent with someone who actually wanted to be with me. But here's what I learned. It wasn't about her. It was about me. I chose her because she was broken.
