A partner who only takes, never gives back, and punishes you for setting boundaries is running you like an ATM. Watch for guilt-tripping, constant criticism, zero gratitude, and the demand that you over-function while they do nothing. Staying means burnout, resentment, and losing yourself.
This is a very toxic match. What they look like is they expect you're over functioning. They don't reciprocate care and they say that's just what a good partner does. They guilt you when you don't perform. They'll say something like I thought you loved me. They're never satisfied. You give 90% but they want 100%. Why is toxic? The taker feeds your performer loop. They love that you over give. They encourage it, they need it. And when you try to pull back, they make you feel like you're failing. That's not a partnership, that's exploitation. Red flag you should look out for is they rarely say thank you. Your effort is expected and it's not appreciated. They don't ask about your needs, they only care about their own needs. They get upset when you rest. They'll ask you something like why are you being lazy? They compare you to others saying things like my friend's boyfriend does this or my friend's boyfriend does that. What happens is that you burn out, you build resentment, you lose yourself and eventually you explode. Or they leave you for someone who gives even more. They avoid you in the relationship at all costs.
