Shamsudin Hakim walks through a checklist for spotting whether people energize or drain you. Two key signs: you feel more yourself and energized after time together, not performed or exhausted, and they celebrate your growth and self-care, not just your hustle.
Sign 4. You feel more yourself and not less after spending time with them, do you feel more energized or more drained? More you or like you're performing, more valued or more useful? If more yourself, that's a green flag. If less yourself, that's a red flag. Sign number five. They celebrate your growth, not just your grind. Do they celebrate when you rest, or only when you work, set boundaries, or only when you say yes? Or do they celebrate you when you take care of yourself or only when you sacrifice for them?
