SHAMSUDIN HAKIMI help you break the Love Pattern that keeps choosing the wrong person.

The 'doorway': What happens between leaving and living.

16 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment, host Shamsudin Hakim revisits key ideas from episode 10 of his series, namely the "doorway"—the transitional space between leaving a past situation and beginning a new life. He reminds listeners of the concepts of ambiguous loss, the three common traps (financial, hope, and faith), and a 10‑sign checklist designed to help people locate where they are within that doorway. He then shifts to a live coaching example, introducing Tonya, a client whose identity is deeply rooted in spirituality. Tonya’s daily routine includes church attendance, morning prayer, and seeking God’s guidance before making decisions, establishing her faith as the foundation for the upcoming coaching work.

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On the previous episode, episode 10, I taught you about the doorway, that space between leaving and living. I taught you about the ambiguous loss, about the 3 traps, the financial, the hope and faith, the 10-sign checklist that you could take in order to find out exactly where you are. Today, we go inside the coaching session. This is Tonya's session. Now let me paint the picture. Tonya is a spiritual woman. Her faith is her foundation. She goes to church on Sundays. She prays in the morning. She doesn't move without checking in with God first.