A father who sacrifices everything until he breaks isn't helping his kids. They need to see him rest, take care of himself, stay whole. A dead architect can't build anything. Model strength by staying alive.
Your kids don't need a martyr. They need a father. A father who's whole, who models rest as strength, not weakness. Who shows them that real men take care of their bodies, not sacrifice them. You can break the cycle without breaking yourself. The village doesn't need a dead architect. It needs a living one. You're so focused on building for the next generation that you're forgetting you are the foundation. If you crumble, everything you build crumbles with you. Rest is not earned.
