A good partner won't praise your self-sacrifice. They'll push back. When Cedric kept skipping the doctor, his partner made him schedule the appointment instead of accepting his excuses about being busy. That's what a healthy match looks like.
She challenges his martyrdom, his sacrifices, so it's not in vain and he isn't able to enjoy it. Cedric says something that stood out to me. She's been waiting for me to schedule that doctor's appointment. You hear that? She didn't enable his I'll deal with it in a few months excuse. She didn't say, oh, you're busy, so I understand. She wanted him to take care of himself. She was relieved when he did. That's mess match number three. She doesn't validate his self sacrifice. A bad match for a performer is someone who says, wow, you worked so hard for us, you're amazing.
