Shamsudin Hakim explains why men who treat dates like hangouts and constantly defer to women end up friendzoned. Each rejection reinforces the belief they're not enough, but the real problem is they never learned to lead with confidence.
So he stays passive. He hangs out. He asks, what do you want to do? Instead of leading. He treats dates like friend hangouts, and women respond accordingly. You're really nice, but I just don't feel that way about you. And every time he hears, I just want to be friends, his brain confirms what the trauma installed. See, you're not enough. You're not man enough. Something is wrong with you. But nothing is wrong with him. He's a man who never had a safe space to become the version of himself that women are drawn to.
