Shamsudin Hakim explores what happens when two people who habitually fix others stop trying to rescue each other. He breaks down the difference between genuine care and codependency, and describes what healthy relating looks like when both partners have already done their own healing work.
They know the difference between care and codependency. They say, I see you trying to fix me. I don't need that. But I see your heart. Why it works. Two fixers who've healed can build something beautiful because they both understand the wound, the need to be needed, the fear of not being valuable. But they both learn I'm enough without fixing anyone. So they meet each other as whole people, not projects. Here's the green flags. They gently call you out, you're over functioning again. They reciprocate care without becoming. Becoming a dependent.
