Shane Yadao and his partner discuss how distraction is a pull toward repetitive behavior, and how building a discipline muscle through conscious choices reduces susceptibility. They argue that emotional attachment to goals, backed by logic, sustains motivation when initial desire fades.
Hopefully one day I get to the place of perfect execution and there's no distractions in my life, but I think that's just how, I don't know, I'm wired or people are wired. But again, going back to the emotional, or that question on emotions, how to control them, it's just knowing, right? It's like even though I feel like doing this or doing that or looking at this or, you know, going to the gym, working out, you know, more than I should be, because I think that's what it is, right? It's like all these things that pull at my desire, you know, or what does it mean? Not even desire, just my, it's all just, what's the word I'm looking for? Oh my gosh.
Your attention.
My attention, yeah, it's pulling at my attention. It's still just knowing that, okay, is that, even though it's pulling at my attention, like, do I need to go there? You know, and what's great is that going there too many times, you realize like, yeah, that doesn't get you to where you really wanna go, right? So it's just finally stop being insane, 'cause right, what's the definition insanity doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, you know, after time, right, building up that muscle going, okay, stop going there because this is what happens, do this instead, and having that muscle just keep flexing that muscle, it ends up being, you know, becoming something where you're not so distracted, or I wasn't so distracted. Yeah, I don't know.
Yeah, I think, I think, um, for, for me, because I, I feel when people hear the word distraction, they think like what Shane does, you know, whether it's playing hobbies or whatever. And Shane doesn't play hobbies, but you know what I'm saying? Like, I think people think about stuff like that. But for me, there was a season because I watched my husband be distracted on things instead of us progressing forward in life and moving forward in life, that actually got me distracted, you know? And so I had to learn that, you know, to just be— what, what the goal that I wanted to hit in my life I had to learn to stay focused and disciplined regardless of what, you know, because the silliest thing is that, oh, my husband's so distracted, and it's just like, well, how do you know? You must be distracted watching your husband, you know. And so I think through time though, I watched Shane because of now our family and responsibilities. I know that helped you stay focused for a season, and now I think that you earned, you know, semi the right to Have fun. No, just kidding.
But you know what, I think about this. I think about what got me distracted in the first place, because in the beginning, I think of anything when there's a strong desire for this outcome, you're not distracted, right? You're just, you're on point and on purpose. But then as time goes by and you don't, you know, you feel like you're not getting closer to the goal, then yeah, then now distractions are very tempting, right? Now it's easy to get distracted because that goal of what you were after in the first place doesn't seem tangible anymore. So it's like, okay, let me look over here and let me get fed over here. Let me win over here. Exactly. You just forget to, you know, you forget why you're doing what you're doing. And so bringing that back, because that's what it was. We'd have conversations. I think it's so important, right? The eliminate distractions. Just always remind yourself what you're doing, right? Always know why you're doing what you're doing.
That's why the emotion, the emotional attachment to what you're doing, it's so powerful because those emotions will drive you. There needs to be an emotional attachment.
Totally.
You want—
yeah, emotion backed by logic. Totally. Yeah.
