In this short two‑person conversation, Speaker A and Speaker B share their personal approach to handling difficult choices. Speaker A emphasizes starting with a foundational filter—specifically, their faith—and then consulting trusted individuals who share the same values to gain additional perspective. Speaker B focuses on clarifying the desired outcome and weighing pros and cons over various time horizons (one month, one year, five years, ten years). Both agree that a clear goal, aligned values, and a transparent decision‑making process help turn a tough decision into the right decision for the individual.
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First off, I think it's always important to go to whatever the foundation that you usually run your decision-making through, right? If I can say that, you know? Makes sense. So yeah, through your filters. So for us, our filters is our faith. So we go there first, right? If we have to make a tough decision that we can't figure out, then it's going to our foundation of our faith. What does it say there first? And then from there, if we maybe need a more specific answer, then we ask a person who, again, aligns with our values, aligns with our faith, aligns with and knows what we want in our futures, for our futures. And we allow them to speak into us so that we can get just other perspectives so that we can make the best decision on what it is. And sometimes it is, it's two difficult decisions, right? I talk about that all the time. Sometimes you come into forks in the road where it's like, tough decision and tough decision, you know, and so that's where, yeah, that's life, right? That's life. So it's being open and unoffendable, right, and transparent enough to be able to go to somebody who has your best interests at heart that can help you with those tough decisions when they come up.
Yeah, and I think ultimately it's tough decisions boils down to, for us, is outcome, you know, what outcome do we really want? Like, what do we want out of life or wherever we're going or what we're doing? And then from there, I really cannot really think of a time where we really had a tough decision because outcome was so clear.
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You have to weigh out the pros and cons. I would write it out and you have to look at the pros and cons and based on where you wanna be in a month from now, a year from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now, like, you have to make the right decision for you. 'Cause that's what I think it is. I think tough decisions just needs to be the right decision for that person. 'Cause decisions that we made ultimately sometimes is not the right decisions for most people. But for us, it was the right decision. Yes.
I love what you said, right? The tough decisions, they're still tough decisions, but you know what decision to make when there's a clarity of goal and a clarity of focus and direction and outcome that you want. Yeah, that's good.
