In this conversational YouTube excerpt, two speakers discuss how to handle emotions by focusing on controlling actions rather than trying to suppress feelings. They describe emotions as useful indicators and sources of motivation, likening emotional regulation to building a muscle that strengthens over time. Personal anecdotes illustrate using frustration and desire to drive change, emphasizing that emotions should fuel forward movement rather than dictate behavior.
How do you control your emotions and keep them from getting in the way? You know, what I would say is like, you don't— I don't control my emotions, I control my actions. Yeah, just like— yeah, and I learned that from my wife. She definitely does not control her emotions and definitely not her actions either. But no, no, no, but I think it is— no, it's like, it's, it's not, you know, really when I just think about that, what it What I think about is, yeah, because I— right, there's not— it's not like, okay, this emotion is happening, stop that emotion from happening. It happens, but it doesn't make me stop the action that I should be taking. Yeah, you know what I mean? And so that's what it is. I think we all, you know, it's just a matter of controlling, continuing to control your actions, because emotions, I think they should be there, right? Emotions are indicators, right? But they shouldn't be dictators where they're going to be dictating your actions. And I think that's what we got decent at, not even good at, right? Like Yes, okay, even though I feel this way, it's a muscle. Yeah, a muscle that you build up over time for sure.
Yeah, it definitely is a muscle that you build, and I think that emotions are a good thing, you know. Emotions for us, through the frustration, is what actually forged us to push through and persevere through the things that we needed to go through. And even till this day, you know, we hit a certain place in our life where We kind of got comfortable and, you know, kind of wanted— we thought we wanted to chill. And I think at one point we're the most unhappiest, so we had to go back and be emotional.
That's right. I had to go jump back in my old car, you know, had to go drive back into our old apartment, you know. No, but yeah, it's so right on, right? It was the emotions of frustration and desiring more, and right, it was all the things that people are like, oh my gosh, I'm so frustrated. Like, we use all that stuff to propel us, fuel So it's using your emotions, I think, for what? For— to move forward.
