Dr Shiny Unsal identifies three reasons men withdraw emotionally: feeling criticized threatens their provider role, sensing a closed partner makes them feel inadequate, and perceiving control triggers a need for freedom. She recommends replacing criticism with appreciation, opening up emotionally, and giving space instead.
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3 reasons why men shut down. Combines the power of the mind with the wisdom of your heart, and it just helps you to unlock your potential. Hey everyone, welcome to my Shiny Minds Show. My name is Dr Shiny Unsal. I am the proud creator of Neuroshine Technology, the Shiny Minds Show, and your Neuroshine Coach. We're talking about 3 reasons why men shut down and they're not intimate with you anymore. In one of my videos, I talked about 3 reasons why she isn't intimate with you anymore, and now let's talk about 3 reasons why he isn't intimate with you anymore. And again, I'm gonna start with feminine energy qualities and masculine energy qualities, just to refresh your mind if you haven't watched that video as well. So feminine energy wants to be loved, masculine energy wants freedom. Feminine energy wants to be owned, masculine energy again wants freedom. Feminine energy makes small things big, masculine energy makes big things small. Feminine energy hangs on to things and masculine energy Just let's go. Feminine energy remembers stuff, right ladies? And masculine energy just forgets, including birthdays. Feminine energy wants to be understood. Masculine energy wants to be appreciated. Feminine energy wants to fill up the emptiness, whereas masculine energy wants to empty all that. Feminine energy is stimulated by praise And masculine energy is stimulated by a good challenge. You see the difference. It's like totally day and night. That's why it's important to understand where your energy is. And like I said before in my video, it doesn't matter if you are a woman or a man. You can still be a gorgeous woman and have a ton of masculine energy, and you can be a handsome good-looking men with a ton of feminine energy. It's important to see where you are because your energy level shows up in your relationship and tries to affect the way you communicate, you take action, and you co-create the relationship with your partner. And let's now talk about 3 reasons why men shut down because they might be feeling something is wrong with this energy levels. Ready? Let's go. First reason, they feel criticized. Okay. If they ever feel like they're being criticized, man, they're not going to like it. They are absolutely going to shut down because a man wants to provide, right? A man wants to solve problems. A man wants to be strong. He's a warrior, right? He just goes to war and fights and he gets stuff. And when you are criticizing that man, he's going to criticize himself for being criticized by you. And that doesn't feel right. And therefore, he's gonna shut down. What's your solution? You have a solution. Admire and appreciate your man. That's your solution. Instead of criticizing your man, The moment you catch yourself, hold it. Don't say it. Do not criticize. Instead, turn it into appreciation and admiration. How you're going to do that? Well, focus on the things that you admire about him. The minute you feel that, ah, let it go and focus on why you admire him and say that to him. Number 2, Feeling closed, that's about you. If you are closed and if you don't communicate with your man, he's gonna catch that and he's going to feel not enough because he's gonna feel, I cannot make my partner happy. And that is the biggest existential problem that a man can feel. Please don't let your man feel feel that way. So if you're thinking about a solution, I got one for you. Be open and playful. It never helps to close up and cut the communication. Be open, share everything with transparency, openly and authentically. Your man wants to love you, wants to make you happy, and your man wants to know how he can do that, and that's why you need to communicate with him, be open, and be playful in your feminine energy. The third reason why he may not be intimate with you anymore and he may be shut down is because he might be feeling controlled. If a feminine energy tries to control the masculine energy, duh, danger zone. Alarm, okay, red flag. A man never wants to be controlled. A man seeks his freedom. Remember, every part of the game, when you look at a masculine energy, they're all about freedom. They leave, they go seek out for freedom, they just want their space, and they are stimulated by challenge. So they want freedom. And when you try to control your man, You know what's gonna happen? You're gonna shut him down. And you will be wondering, what's going on? Why did he shut down? Why are we not intimate anymore? Well, because you might be controlling him and you may not even realize. So I have a solution for you. Give him freedom and love. Give him freedom. This is what he wants. Give it to him. And you might be wondering, how am I going to do that, Shiny? He always wants his freedom, his space. Well, that's a generalization. First, you need to catch your thinking, reframe your thinking around it. There is always a way. If you are creative enough, you're going to find a solution, I promise you. And when you think that way, that way meaning in terms of solutions, when you are able to communicate that with him, you're going to co-create a beautiful relationship where he feels free and loved and where you feel free and loved at the same time. So I hope this helped you. If you like it, please like this video and share it with your friends and also subscribe to my channel to hear more about relationships, personal growth, coaching, leadership, and emotional intelligence
