In this 10‑minute self‑help video, Dr. Shiny Unsal AI, creator of Neuroshine technology, presents a concise coaching session on how to recognize and overcome poor listening habits. She frames listening as a two‑way street essential for effective communication and outlines five clear behavioral signs of a bad listener: (1) interrupting the speaker, (2) changing the topic before the speaker finishes, (3) treating conversation as a debate and trying to be right, (4) playing with electronic devices or multitasking, and (5) repeatedly asking the speaker to repeat themselves. For each sign she explains why it reflects a lack of attention, links it to an internal agenda or distraction, and offers a simple corrective action (e.g., pause before speaking, ask permission to shift topics, focus on presence, put devices away, and stay mentally engaged). The video concludes with a motivational appeal to improve listening skills, a call to share the content, and a promotion of further Neuroshine‑focused coaching videos on communication, NLP, and leadership development.
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5 signs you are not listening. It combines the power of the mind with the wisdom of your heart, and it just helps you to unlock your potential. Put your hands together for Gary Vaynerchuk! Hey everyone, welcome to my Shiny Minds Show. My name is Shiny Unsal AI. I am the proud creator of Neuroshine technology and your Neuroshine coach. Today we're going to talk about 5 signs you are not listening. Don't you feel annoyed when you feel like you're not heard or listened to? It's the same for others. People are going to feel annoyed if you're not listening to them and if they don't feel heard and appreciated, and that can create big communication problems. And you may not even realize you may not be a good listener. And I want to remind you, communication is a two-way street. You may be a master when you're selecting the right words and delivering your message effectively with your body language and tonality, and still yet, you may not be as good of a listener. Here are 5 signs that you're gonna understand you are not a good listener. Ready? Here's the first one. Interrupting. If you are interrupting people before they are done with their sentences, if you cannot wait until you make your own point, which means you're not a good listener. Interrupting also means that you have this agenda that is so inside of you, so burning for, for you to get it out. So it is making it hard for you to focus on what they are saying because you're just so lost in your mind. So if you ever catch yourself interrupting, pause and don't say anything. Give them some silence and some quiet time, some space. Okay. Number 2, changing topics. If you ever find yourself, you are changing topics when people are talking about something else, which means you're not a good listener. It might not be a very effective, attractive, or interesting topic for you, and still you need to give them respect. You need to be present for them. At least you can ask them, 'Are you done talking about this topic? Because I would love to discuss something else,' right? Complete what you're talking about, put an end to it, and then move on. Otherwise, you are going to be looked at as somebody who doesn't respect and who is not a good listener, which you don't want to be. Number 3, this one is an interesting one, debating. Communication is not a debate and you're not trying to be right. You're not trying to win the argument over somebody else. Ah, or maybe that's something you're doing in your mind, which is not a good sign. You need to stop that urge to be right, and you need to focus your attention to listen to what is being said so that you can be present and you can show respect and you can really understand what they're trying to say. If you catch yourself trying to make your own point, remember, you're not a good listener. Number 4, playing with devices. Aren't we all kind of guilty of this these days. You know, we live in a modern era and we have the iPhone, iPad, computer. We want to be busy. We want to be productive. We want to listen and we want to also create this, you know, that's kind of like effectiveness and maybe multitasking. And hear me out. There are so many studies that have already proven multitasking is a myth. Your brain can only focus on one activity at a time. Therefore, if you find yourself da-da-da-da-da and then trying to listen, just know that you're not a good listener. Therefore, please cut playing with devices and be an adult and show up respectfully and so that you can be a good listener. Number 5, asking them to repeat. Well, this is very obvious, right? If you keep asking the person you're communicating with, what did you say again? Can you repeat that again? 'Come again?' Well, that's an obvious sign that you are not listening and your focus is not there. You are in another place in your own mind. You are thinking about something else. You're absolutely not listening to them. So that's why these are very, very obvious signs, and I need you to understand you can stop these and you can definitely reverse engineer all of these signs and create a great, effective listener out of yourself. Why is it important? Because you want to be heard, don't you? That's why it's important. I hope you liked this video. I hope it served you, and I hope you can improve your listening skills and become a great listener. If you liked it, please share it with your friends and they can also become great listeners so that you can have greater, deeper conversations from now on. Also, subscribe to my channel to watch more videos about communication, neurolinguistic programming, coaching, and leadership development to become more and achieve more so that we can create a better world with more love and shiny minds.
