A coach's job is to show you the problem, not fix it for you. In business coaching, a strong point of view matters because decisions affect outcomes. In personal mentorship, the coach steps back and lets you own your choices, even the ones they'd handle differently.
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I think one of my learnings last year was like, I would not even call it judgment, I call it a point of view. Honestly, Nico, I don't know if that helps you because judgment can have a negative, you know, point. It's just, and I think it depends on what kind of coach we are all trying to be. I am trying to be a leadership coach, right? So, and in my day-to-day work, I mentor and coach a lot of people for regular— I run a large team and it's part of my work. I judge hard there because that affects the business, that affects the life, you know. I need to be very— I think that was one of my struggles when I joined last year was the same thing that I need to have a point of view on it, right? Because they're coming to me for that, right? Mentorship career-wise is different. But I think what I've learned in the non-work side of leadership coaching a little bit is your problem is not my problem. It sounds harsh, but that's how I've trained my brain. Like, you're here because you want assistance from me and I'm going to help you. Like, I think I keep on going back to that nail on the head. I think I've like stuck that in my head at least, right? You see the nail, but you guide someone to that nail. But how you take that nail out is not part of a problem that I'm trying to solve for you. It sounds very disconnected from the person, but I think that's made me like not have a point of view on their life. Like it's made me have a lot of empathy in that 30 minutes of conversation or give them some follow-ups, but I don't like really, you know, judge them or have a point of view on the choices that they make outside it. I definitely do a lot of that at my work, and I think that's more than enough. I feel like it, so.
