Dr Shiny Unsal AI teaches three techniques to win arguments: say "You are right" to calm the listener's defensiveness, use the sandwich model with "and" instead of "but" between positive statements, and ask "What else?" to get the other person to generate their own ideas.
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Hello, my shiny minds! I am Shiny, and as always, you're here to create your own shiny mind. Are you ready to shine?
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And today you are gonna shine your mind about how to win your arguments. You'll win all your arguments after this video, and I have 3 tips for you to win all your arguments. You're gonna love this. You are going to save this video. You're going to subscribe to my channel. You're gonna share this video with everyone. You're gonna put all your comments below. I can already feel it because this is a hot topic, isn't it? Don't you want to win all your arguments? Don't you want to feel like, yeah, knockdown, game over, I win? Don't you want to say that? Yes, you do. I know. So that's why we're going to talk about it, and I am going to explain to you why winning an argument actually is a mindset game. It is not about your communication. Yes, it is, and it is not. It is not about how you present your evidence.
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Let's define what an argument is. You argue with people because you don't have agreement. You disagree. Why do you disagree? Because you have different opinions. Why do you have different opinions? Because you have different beliefs. Why do you have different beliefs? Because you have different thinking. I can go further, but I won't. I am going to start with right here, different beliefs. So because we have different beliefs and we have different programming in our minds, when we get together, when we share information, when we exchange information, we might have disagreements. It is pretty normal, isn't it? What is not normal is you find yourself in a heated, very heated, hot argument where you find yourself attacking the other individual in front of you and feeling this rush, this blood going up to your brain and all your like physiological reaction that you feel in your body. That is not okay. Okay. I have different ways, and I have powerful tips to help you win all your arguments. And I have 3 tips for you. If you're ready, let's go. Number 1, tell them this magical sentence: Oh, you are right. That's it. You're just going to tell them they are right. And why is that important? Because your brain, your amygdala, wants you to survive. Your amygdala protects you. It's kind of like your soldier, right? So you have a castle, So if you're a castle, this guy, amygdala, is your soldier of that castle. And that soldier wants to protect you, your opinions, beliefs, ideas, communication, sentences, your arguments. You got the idea. When you tell somebody you are right, guess what's happening? You are becoming friends with the soldier. You're like hugging the soldier. Hey, dear soldier, you know, you have beautiful eyes today. That's how it sounds like, and that's how it feels like for the other person. And that's why you want to tell them, you are right. And watch how fast they are going to put their guards down. Number 2, I am going to share an amazingly powerful communication tool that I call the sandwich model. Why do you need to know about the sandwich model? Because you want to share your arguments deliciously. And you want to end your sentences deliciously, like putting a cherry on top of the cake, right? And it is done through the sandwich model. So what is the sandwich model? It literally is like a sandwich, okay? So you have a bun here, another bun here, and you have your message, the meat, right in the middle. So that's exactly what you do. You start saying something nice, something positive. Oh, I hear what you're saying. That's done. And then you give your message right in the middle, which means, hmm, I wonder if we can come up with an even greater idea. That's your message. Done. And then the other bun right here, you have another bun in the sandwich, and that one may sound like this. You know, when we come up with like even greater ideas, We are going to feel so amazing and we can go share this idea with other people and then they can join us and we can create a better impact. Something like that. So when you have this sandwich and when you start with positive, when you end with positive, guess what happens? You end deliciously. And the other person, when you are arguing with them, they don't feel that you are attacking them because you are not attacking them. And you are not invalidating them. You are actually validating them. Watch me as I say it again. I'm gonna keep it very, very simple for you. Here. I hear what you're saying, and I wonder if there is an even greater idea. So what am I saying? I hear what you're saying is that validation, and that's why in the sandwich model, you start with the validation. Why? You talk to my dear soldier again, and that soldier feels so good. Oh, this feels so good. It is smooth. And that's why you do that. And that's why this one is going to get you a lot of winning. Here is another example of the sandwich model. You have your bun here, another bun here. They both need to be positive. And right in the middle, you're gonna give your message. Watch me now. Oh, I like your perspective. It actually is pretty interesting. And it's important that you use an 'and' because if you use a 'but,' it deletes the previous sentence and you do not wanna do that. And it just made me so excited about another idea. So what do you think about that? Boom. You know, so you're actually in a very subtle way, you're taking them to your own way. You're just like, okay, I got you, I hear you, absolutely, it's wonderful, brilliant, and it just made me excited about another idea. What do you think about that? Isn't that an even greater idea? So you're kind of like taking them where they are and then you are directing to your own Direction. You got me? And my third tip, my shiny mind for you to win all your arguments is this. Very simple. You're gonna use this question. You're gonna ask this question. Very simple. What else? Very simple, right? Guess what happens when you ask this question? When you ask what else, What's going on? Now you are actually directing their mind, their focus and attention to go into different mental files, in my language, in their mental computer, which is their brain. And inside their mental computers, they have different mental files, different documents, and then they click on them and then they come up with different ideas, different ways of thinking by connecting their neurons in different ways, and at the end of the day, they tell you something that they generated themselves from their own factory, their brain. And why is that important? Because they created it, they will own it, and you are the one who asked them. To come up with another idea. So you win. You see, my friends, so whatever happens, use these 3 tips. I'm telling you, you'll win all your arguments and you're gonna feel galactic about yourself. So I hope you enjoyed watching this video, and I am curious, what do you think? Have you ever used any of these tips to win an argument? And what else did you use? Put a comment below and let's discuss. And of course, you want to like it, share it, and subscribe to my Shiny Minds Show because you and I, we want to win all our arguments and we want to create a much better world with a lot of love and shiny minds.
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