In this motivational monologue, Dr. Shiny Unsal AI argues that effective communication hinges on taking personal responsibility, abandoning the blame game, and consciously rewiring neural pathways through mindful language. She explains how habitual negative words create neural circuits that leak personal power, distort perception, and limit learning, while positive, authentic speech aligns mind, heart, and soul. Unsal emphasizes the importance of active listening as a high‑level executive brain function, urges listeners to audit their language, and connects these practices to broader cosmic principles of action, freedom, and personal growth. The talk culminates in an invitation to join her NeuroShine coaching programs and download free resources at shinyunsal.com.
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Have you ever felt stuck in a difficult conversation, not sure how to move forward? If your neurons are not trained to do this task at a proficient level, they're going to need your help, your conscious help, to insert some extra techniques, some strategies, some tools. Communication is a two-way street, and what you want to do is tap into that inner master communicator with me today. And just like Open your mind, open your heart, and start taking notes maybe. Your tasks are seeking your approval. Your responsibilities are seeking your approval, your actions, your decisions. No more hiding from them. You're gonna be a super delicious communicator when you are able to admit where you're wrong and learn from your mistakes. And just look at them as things to learn from, and it's just poof, in the next moment it's gone. That's why you need to detach from it. If you, if you get married with all your ideas, your emotions, and your opinions, life is gonna get hard, don't you think? Universe loves action. When you take action, then there is the frequency of the action. Like, every action does have a reaction in the universe. It's one of the cosmic laws. If you're not taking action than you are passive, and life is not something to be passive about. How you do one thing is how we do everything. Watch out for the words that you use, and if they are not positive, rewire them. People want freedom for their ideas, opinions, beliefs, values, expectations, lifestyles, everything. Don't you want to be free? Tell yourself, don't you want to be free? Don't you want to have a conversation where you walk away feeling so spacious within yourself because that conversation made you super free. Don't you want to feel that way? I bet you do. That's why you want to give the same to others. Stop trying to control people. Stop trying to tell them what to do. Stop trying to judge them. This is how you approach your own tasks and your own emotions. You actually avoid your emotions as well. I mean, we're talking about the neurons just following as like the same neural pathway. Well, we're talking about neurons creating a set of neural pathways and synapses, and then you following those when you do everything. If you use words that are mostly blaming people for their shortcomings, for their wrongdoings, for their inefficiencies, and if you keep attacking them, if you keep violating their own right, then no wonder you're gonna experience more conflicts than true connections with people. A shiny mind is a beautiful cosmic galactic mind that is in love, in coherent with the cosmic heart. If you are playing the blame game, you are the victim, my friend. You're the victim. Everybody has power over you. Everybody does something and then you are the effect of it and then boom, you act and boom, you blame. While we believe that we are protecting our ego, we are protecting our power, we are actually losing power. We are actually leaking power. Stop the blame game. Like, if you want to win in life, you have to stop blaming others and you have to start taking responsibility. That's it. An average human being only retains 20% of the information that they receive. Yep, only 1/5 of the information, like whatever you say, people are not gonna hear. So whatever you hear, you're not gonna retain. Only 1/5 of it is gonna remain. Why? Because we do have a capacity in our brain. If nobody takes the responsibility, then we are always at war. We are never at peace. And that is the number 1 problem in relationships, in businesses, in Conversations in personal development in the world. In my Nourishing Technology coaching certification programs, I teach listening as a very high conscious, high executive function of the brain type of a skill because it is. You really need to pay attention to every single word that you are listening, because otherwise you're, again, your reticular activating system is only going to focus on what matters to you and then dismiss the rest of it. And your shine moment is the moment of truth where you are in alignment with your truth, where you absolutely come from your mind and heart and soul alignments. You are totally authentic. You can actually speak from your heart, and then you can honor not only yourself but the people that you are having a conversation with. Distortion, again, is another mental mechanic that goes on in your brain, in your neurons, and you are not even aware because nobody told you so, okay? We are born with this what I call 3D matrix brain. And with this brain, our neurons are consistently creating neural pathways to make us survive. Survival of our ego is number one. Survival of our physicality is number one. So when physicality and ego are intertwined, then distortion happens because of that. If you are busy putting the blame on other people, pointing fingers, you will never ever feel your power. You think that you are being in power, but guess what's going on? You're actually leaking power because the minute you say it's all because of you, what you're really saying from NLP presuppositions is that, well, because you said this and then your words are too powerful for me to handle, I'm gonna react right now because I don't know how to respond. I don't understand the difference between reacting and responding. Therefore, I'm just going to do what I know doing because I am on autopilot. I don't know how to pause. I don't know how to analyze. That's why I'm now going to do my automated behaviors and I'm going to react. Perhaps you need to do an audit, your language audit, and then look at the quality of your words. Are you complaining mostly? What are your words about? Are you complaining? Are you blaming? Do you find yourself coming up with excuses all the time? Always the victim? Always helpless, hopeless? Do you feel sometimes that life is happening to you and then you find yourself like going on and on and on about focusing about and then talking about the problem? Well, then words are going to be your primary focus, my dear shiny mind. You want to do the audit and literally take out all the negative words out of your system. Because words become your decisions and your decisions become habits. Your habits become beliefs. Your beliefs become your personality. Your personality becomes your identity. And your identity is who you are. And with who you are, you live that quality of life. And this is exactly how you break free from anything that is holding you back including the blame game, and if you would like us to hold the space for you where you feel safe, seen, heard, appreciated, and free to open up, free to just own your shortcomings, just own that, you know what, I blame, you know what, I judge, you know what, I actually need to do better. If you want to experience your growth in an environment like this, let us hold the space for you. Go to my website, shinyunsal.com. You're going to see there is a free PDF download and you want to download that PDF. And then that is where you can start learning more about how we can hold the space for you. Perhaps you can join one of our upcoming cohorts where me and my faculty that I personally trained and certified as a licensed NeuroShine technology trainer and an ICF coach trainer, we hold a space for you. We actually allow you to fall and not get punished. We want to be the change we want to see in the world. We actually— I'm getting goosebumps as I say this— we actually care about your growth. We care about your encouragements and what's in your heart. And we want to co-create that magic together with you. So please like and share this video so that we can share what's in our heart and join us If you would like to work with us, again, just go to shinyunsal.com. And thank you also for letting my light into your neurons. Until next time, keep shining your light. Go galactic, go galactic, then you're in the right place. Let's go, let's go.
