EP 80 - Who Are You, Really? The Question That Changes Everything

Today I want to talk about you. If you ever wonder who you are, or perhaps what you are, this episode is for you. Let's begin. Are you ready to shine? Come on, it's the Shiny Unsal. You got this. My dear Shiny Mind, you who is watching, may I invite you to hit that subscribe button? This way you and I are going to become partners in shine and elevate the consciousness in the world. Thank you so much in advance, and I'll see you inside. Welcome to the Shiny Minds Show with Dr Shiny. I am Dr Shiny Unsal, the proud creator of the Academy of NeuroShine Technology, the Shiny Minds Show, ICF Master Certified Coach with more than 3,000 hours of coaching experience since 2011, having worked with thousands of people and certified more than 500 certified Neuroshine Technology coaches in over 55 countries, I have some information, some experience, some wisdom to share with you. And that wisdom is going to be about you today. I want to talk about you today. We live in a world where we didn't know what this world was about. We live in a world where we were born without any instructions. We live in a world where the relationships come with a lot of confusion and a lot of doubt and a lot of being lost and being hurt. Nobody told us how to do this life. Nobody gave us instructions to navigate this life. And because I have been obsessed with studying human relationships, having written two dissertation papers about the metaphysical psychology behind human behaviors, and another dissertation about the metaphysical science of consciousness and what consciousness is, having trained thousands of people about the neuro-linguistic programming, the neurons, the communication, and the behaviors of what makes us human, because I have also teaching, coaching skills at the highest level, at the International Coaching Federation gold standard level, I have things to share. Please, let's talk. And I want to bring 3 angles to our conversation today. Angle number 1 is knowledge. What do I mean by knowledge? Knowledge is not really just theory. Knowledge is not only mental, not even only emotional. Knowledge is physical, kinesthetic. Your body knows it. It's not something only neck up. It is your entire body. It's your entire system that knows. You are that, and that's how you know you know. It's not something that is uncertain for you. Your body knows it. In the world of neurolinguistic programming. We call it unconscious competence in the world of neuro-linguistic programming. Why is it unconscious? Because you don't need your conscious faculties. You don't need your prefrontal cortex or your neurons paying attention to it because your body already learned it. You already have become one with it. And so it is something unconscious. You do it without knowing. That you do it. And that is the knowledge that I am talking about. And you are competent at it. That is what the competence is all about. That competence, that skill set, you have it. You're so good that you don't even know how good you are at it and how exactly you do with it because you have made it a hardware. Your software of knowledge have turned into a hardware programming of your entire system in time. And that is the knowledge that I am talking about. If you want to understand who you are at your core, you gotta start by asking the question of who am I? And that knowledge, as you will know from ancient wisdom, is called as know thyself, right? It's just knowing first. Without the knowledge of the self, without the awareness of the self, you will not go far in life. You will make mistakes. You will go into relationships and then you will bump into occasions and then you will wonder why, why it never worked with some relationships, why you could never be friends with that person, why your mother never understood you because you didn't understand you to begin with. And that's why I encourage all of us to start with knowledge, the knowledge of the self. Know thyself. That is awareness. Hello, Shiny Minds. Sorry to interrupt, but I just wanted to tell you that this Shiny Minds show is sponsored by my Academy of Neuroshine Technology, where myself as the founder and my hand-selected, amazing, elite, ICF-accredited coach educators are here to support you, to make you feel safe, seen, heard, appreciated, free to become whoever you want to be, and also transformed forever inside out. We are here to hold your hands and to support your growth. If you feel it in your heart to become more and achieve more, then go to shinyunsal.com Grab that PDF and we will see you inside. The second angle that I want to bring is the angle of practice. Practice within the context of values. I mean, when you practice, you become it. We already discussed at the first angle that knowledge needs to be unconscious, needs to be at your subatomic level where you become it. Now, when I say practice, I mean bring it. Show me how you know yourself in the way you practice you, your behaviors, your values, your entire being. How does it show up? How is that knowledge, knowing yourself, going to show up in the way you practice with others? I'll give you an example. Integrity. Let's talk about that. One of my top values is integrity. I also believe in how you do one thing is how you do everything. Because we are all fractal beings. Just come to the Big Bang Theory, right? If the light wanted to experience itself and then there was this moment of Big Bang, then we all exploded from the same giant nebula at the same giant source. So then we are stardust. As I wrote in my book, you are a star, shine. So this book is already talking about how we are all stardust and how we all exploded from the same source, which makes us all fractals, like teeny tiny stardust. So that is what I'm talking about. When I have this integrity as a top value, then what do I need to do? I need to practice it in real life. I need to bring it. If I am talking about clarity, if I am talking about integrity, I hold myself to a level of practice so that I become it. So I know that integrity is important for me. I know that I'm going to practice it. Therefore, when I say something, I do it. Therefore, when I promise someone that I am going to meet them at a certain time, I am going to show up. When I promise them that I am going to deliver my ICF accredited training program, I deliver it. If I promise them that there is a 30-day money-back guarantee, that I keep my promise. That is integrity. It is the practice that I am talking about. Knowledge is not enough. We need to practice what we know to be true about ourselves. That's how we create that loop of certainty because we become it and we create it, and that becomes the spiral of conscious evolution. That's how you know that you know because you practice it. And that is the Second angle of practice, which I am now going to tie into willingness, because only if you are willing to bring your knowledge into practice, then you can show up like that in the world. The third angle is evolution. And the reason why I use that specific word evolution is because evolution is way more than expansion or way more than growth. Evolution is something that happens through you. Yes, you initiate it. Yes, you activate it. Yes, you are a participant of it. And yet it is bigger than you. Life almost evolves through you. You become a conduit of that conscious evolution. And that is where angle number 1 of knowledge and angle number 2 of practice come together as My formula for change: change equals awareness multiplied by willingness. Awareness is the first angle, knowledge, knowing who you are, knowing what matters for you, knowing how you interact with others. And then number 2 is practice, willingness, so that you practice who you are, what matters to you in everyday interactions, everyday behaviors. And so you create the evolution, which creates the change, the growth, the expansion. And at the end of the day, we call it the evolution. That's how these three angles come together as the formula for change of my Neuroshine technology, because without the change, without the growth, without the expansion, there is no conscious evolution. And yes, my dear Shiny Mind, whoever is watching this video right now, there is a reason you are here, and there's a reason you're watching this episode, and there's a reason why it is speaking to you. Because you know you are more than your title, you are more than your human body, you are more than what you think, you are more than everything that you see, touch, feel, or tangibly measure. You are immeasurable. You are invisible. There is more of you that is invisible than there is you that is visible. You know that, and that is your awakening. That is your conscious evolution, and that is who you are at your core. That's why you are watching this video. And if this is speaking to your soul, comment below. I want to hear what you feel about this because we are in the year of awakening. Because 2027 is the year where we go from Homo sapiens to Homo solaris. We are going to feel everything in our solar plexus. We are going to start making decisions in our gut center, the solar plexus center. And then I know you're feeling it. If you are feeling it, you are making different decisions right now. You are moving through different relationships, different seasons of your life right now. You are doing it. How do I know? Because I am doing it. We are in this together. This conscious evolution, where it begins from a simple awareness that wanting to know yourself is the first step. If that resonates, please like this video, share this video, and get in touch with us. We would like to work with you and wake the world together with you. Thank you for watching. Until next time, keep shining your light.