How To Communicate Your Negative Emotions Intelligently

My name is Shiny Unsal AI. I am the proud creator of Neuroshine technology and your Neuroshine coach. Today I would love to talk to you about how to communicate your negative emotions intelligently. Why is it important? Because some of us, we are too much in the head. And some of us are too much in the heart. That's exactly why I created my Neuroshine technology as a combination of the power of the mind and the wisdom of the heart. How is it related to communicating your negative emotions intelligently? When you know, because you know yourself, right? If you know you are one of those who is too much in the head, What do you need? You need more empathy, you need more heart, you need more heart intelligence and understand people, appreciate their emotions. And if you know you are someone who's a bit too emotional, too much in the heart, then you need a little bit of logic, a little bit of thinking, cognitive thinking. So when you combine and create this balance, Now you have the perfect ingredients to communicate those negative emotions intelligently. Here is an example. When people are hurt because of the negative emotions they experience, they tend to hurt other people, right? I'm sure you've heard it. Hurt people hurt other people. That happens because we lack some self-regulation which is an emotional intelligence skill. And that also happens because you are unable to decode that negative emotion. That's why I would love to share some tips with you, some strategies so that you can find an intelligent way to communicate those emotions, not only to yourself, but to others. Here's number 1. Identify your emotion. Most of the time, we are not even aware how we are feeling. Even if we are, we don't know the name of that specific emotion. If you're feeling angry, maybe you're saying you are furious. If you are feeling frustrated, maybe you are saying I'm annoyed. If you are feeling annoyed, maybe you're saying you're angry. So you get the idea. You need to identify how exactly you're feeling so that you can label it to move on to the next step, which is taking full responsibility. Here is the mindset. When you take full responsibility of your thoughts, actions, emotions, behaviors, and even how to say something and how to listen to someone, then you're in charge. Nobody has the power to do an open heart surgery to you and put a negative emotion into your heart, correct? That is your system, that is your brain and heart communicating and creating and generating that emotion. So you are absolutely 100% responsible. I know it may sound weird to you if you're hearing for the first time. Because you might be saying, no, but you don't understand, Shiny, the way the people talk, it's just rude, you know, they make me annoyed. I get it. Yeah, I'm there with you. I feel it too. And still yet, we're responsible. You still have the responsibility. You're in charge. Don't you want to be in charge? You want to be in charge of your emotions. And Being in charge also comes with privileges. You get to change the way you feel. You get to reframe that negative emotion and you get to feel something else instead, which is really powerful. So that you can go to the next step. Number 3, assume the best in people. This is phenomenal. You know how someone does something to you and you start thinking about that person as a monster, uh, let's cut it out because that might be hurting you. That might be giving you that negative emotion, and that is unhealthy. That's not good for you. That's not good for the other person. And even if it is true, because I know sometimes it is true, I understand there are people with bad intentions, and I hear you. I I get that. I'm right there with you. And so in order for you to reframe and communicate your own emotions intelligently, that's the word here I just want to highlight, intelligently. You just want to assume the best in them. I'm going to give you an example after I'm done. Just keep it in mind. You just want to assume the best and you want to assume everybody has good intentions. Okay, and last but not least, final strategy, you want to reframe all of those negative emotions with open-ended questions. When you turn your negative emotions into open-ended questions, oof, isn't that transformational? And you might be wondering, uh, how is it going to sound exactly? I do have an example for you. Okay, let's look at this page together. Imagine you're telling someone, "Ah, you broke my heart," right? So if somebody broke your heart, who is responsible? They are responsible, right? They did something, therefore they are responsible for breaking your heart. And let's also go out of the metaphoric concept here. Is it even possible to break your heart? Not really, huh? It's really not like a glass that you just drop it on the floor and it just like breaks into million pieces. It's not possible. So you understand that you are in charge. And so then you want to communicate it intelligently. Here's how you combine all the other strategies that I mentioned and put it in one simple conversation. Here. I know your intention was good, and still what you did today made me feel really uncomfortable. What was on your mind? Oof, doesn't that sound very different than, hey, you broke my heart, You heartbreaker, right? It's now moving from complain and blame to, hey, there is something going on here. I, one, identify there is something going on. Two, appreciate that it is going on. And three, I actually am going to turn it into an open-ended question and Reframe it and say, "Hey, what was in your mind?" with assuming the best in that person because you're saying you had good intentions. So this type of communication is going to save you heartbreaks, business agreements, relationships, friendships, career moves, promotions, you name it, making money, your freedom, creating a life, you are going to save yourself a lifetime if you create the habit of communicating that way instead of blaming people and making them feel guilty. That's not going to work. You know why? Because the part of the brain is called amygdala, and that is kind of going to be triggered, and they're to become defensive and reactive, and that is never going to work. You're never going to be intelligently communicating your negative emotions if you stay in the complain and blame mentality. So I hope this video helped you. I hope you loved these 4 strategies, and I hope you're going to practice what you learned so that you can become a better communicator. 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