Dr Shiny Unsal presents three relationship principles: listen the way you want to be heard, because poor listening triggers the amygdala and creates conflict; appreciate people as you need appreciation; and love as you wish to be loved, creating a reciprocal invisible agreement.
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My dear shiny minds, you are here because you want to know more about your relationships, how to solve your relationship problems. Maybe you are here to deepen your relationship with yourself, or maybe you want to deepen your relationship with others. You might be even having some relationship problems with the people around you, and you might be wondering why. Well, you are in the right place because that's exactly what we are going to talk about today. I am going to give you powerful tips that you can implement right away so that you can walk out after this video feeling empowered about your relationships. If you're ready, let's begin. Number 1: Listen as you want to be heard. Why is it important? Because we all want to be safe seen, heard, and appreciated. All of us as human beings, we want to feel this comfort, the security and safety when we are around people. When somebody attacks you, when somebody makes you feel that what you are doing is wrong, what you are saying is incorrect, when somebody interrupts you when you speak, don't you get a little bit weird? Don't you get annoyed? And it is actually a biological reaction from your nervous them, because you have this beautiful part of your brain, it's called amygdala. And amygdala actually is responsible for your survival, for your survival of your ideas, opinions, values, beliefs, all of it. And so guess what happens when you don't listen to someone, when you interrupt them, When you invalidate them, their amygdala is triggered because they are feeling insecure. They are feeling unsafe around you. So this might be a reason why you are having relationship problems. So what are you gonna do? That's why you are going to listen to them as you want to be heard. You're going to hear them as you want to be heard. That is the only way we are wired biologically to do this, to be heard and to be safe. And that's why that is the first step that you need to apply. Number 2, you're gonna need to appreciate people around you as you need to be appreciated. Why is that important? Again, we are going to talk about being a human. And you do have human needs. Biologically, your neurons fire and wire for a reason. And that reason, most of the time, is because you have needs. You have needs to fulfill. And if those needs are not met, you go bananas. You know what I mean? Like you literally lose yourself and you take it on others around you. You make them feel uncomfortable, unsafe around you. And that's why you want to be aware. What am I doing? What am I saying? What kind of reaction is making this person create distance from me? Why are they avoiding what I'm saying? Why do I feel neglect? When you ask these questions to yourself, you're going to realize that there are solutions and appreciation is one of them. And if you want to deepen your relationships and solve your relationship problems, you want to appreciate people. You want to tell them, I appreciate you. What you did a minute ago was so kind and so thoughtful. I so appreciate that behavior. You want to say it verbally and you actually want to show it in your energy. You truly appreciate that person. Why? Because that's exactly how you want to feel. And number 3, love as you wish to be loved. I mean, doesn't that make sense? We all want to be loved. We all want to be appreciated, validated, acknowledged. We want to be precious. We want to matter. And that's why we want to give. What we want from others. We want to take the lead. When you love others as you wish to be loved, it becomes this invisible agreement between you and other people around you. Like, I am loving you and I'm expecting you to love me. It is an invisible agreement. It's in the mutuality. In the world of cosmology, there is this energy of duality. What you give is what you get, and what you get depends on what you give. And that's why you want to love them as you wish to be loved, my dear shiny mind. So there you have it, 3 quick tips for you to solve your relationship problems and actually deepen them right away. So I hope you like this this video. If you did, I'm also curious, what do you think about it? What do you think? What else can you do to solve your relationship problems? What other ideas and tips you have? Please put it in the comments below and let's just share it with your friends. And of course, you want to subscribe to my channel. Why wouldn't you? We're going to create amazing relationships together. And also, you and I, we are going to create a much better world with a lot of love and shiny minds.
Awareness. It's a new day. Say yes! I love— I love— I love her. She's the shiny one, shiny one, shiny one. You know she's lots of fun, lots of fun, lots of fun. Making fun. She's the shiny one, shiny one, shiny one. And you'll have lots of fun, lots of fun, lots of fun.
