Dr Shiny UnsalConsciousness Architect, ICF MCC, Distinguished Coach Educator, NLP Trainer, Academy Of Neuro-Shine Technology™ · Awaken to your power within. Align with your truth.

✨ If you want deeper relationships, start with deeper listening. ✨

10 Dec 2025 · 1 min

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Dr. Shiny Unsal outlines a four-step deep-listening framework: empty your agenda, see the world through their eyes, use words that show you're hearing them, and ask how they want to be listened to. Genuine listening makes people feel heard and builds trust.

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First of all, listening equals making people feel heard. Second, we talked about the consequences of not making each other feel heard. Like, we're damaging each other, we are costing and living with unmet needs, we are having relationship issues, losing trust with each other, and then losing confidence and worthiness within ourselves. So as a solution, I'm recommending you to A, empty your cup, and B, meaning like forget about yourself. And then B, the second step is to step into the other person's consciousness, their frequency, see the world through their eyes so that you can do the mental follow in their story. And then C, the third step is to interact with them, give some words and some phrases to show them that you are listening to them and you are hearing them and then making them feel heard. Then the last thing now I am going to recommend to you is to ask them, okay, how do you want me to listen to you right now? Or do you want me to offer some ideas, some opinions? How do you want me to listen to you? That's the final step.