In this YouTube presentation, Dr. Shiny Unsal, creator of Neuroshine Technology and ICF‑certified NLP coach, explains how the mind attaches secondary negative emotions to our eight primary, innate emotions, and how these attachments sabotage positive feelings and progress. She outlines three destructive emotional patterns: (1) Helplessness – the feeling of powerlessness that arises when goals (e.g., fitness) aren’t met quickly, leading to self‑defeating stories; (2) The Doubt‑Worry‑Anxiety cycle – a chain where doubt triggers worry, which escalates into anxiety, eroding confidence and motivation; and (3) Guilt – a subtle but potent emotion that surfaces when personal values are violated, often confused with regret or self‑pity but uniquely identity‑threatening. For each pattern she provides concrete coaching examples, describes the automatic mental mechanics, and stresses the importance of awareness to prevent these emotions from destroying other positive emotions. The talk concludes with a call to like, share, and subscribe, followed by a brief musical outro.
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Hello everyone, my name is Shiny Unsal. I am the proud creator of Neuroshine Technology, an ICF certified NLP and coach trainer, ICF certified coach, and a leadership instructor at UCLA Extension. Today I want to talk to you about the emotions behind the emotions. In my trainings, we talk a lot about the emotions behind the emotions because we basically have 8 primary emotions, and those are what we innately feel. What ends up happening is that we attach some other negative emotions to these primary emotions, and those attached emotions, those attached negative emotions, they actually go ahead and destroy all the other positive emotions that we might be feeling. And it happens automatically without you realizing what's going on, without you understanding the process or the mechanics behind it, because there is a way our mind works and there is a way that we are designed. You know, we are designed in a certain way, and it is important for you to understand how you are designed and how you can catch those negative emotions that are about to destroy your positive ones? And that's exactly what we're going to talk about. Let's go. Number 1 is helplessness. This is one of the biggest negative emotions that you can ever attach to any other positive emotion, and you can destroy it in a heartbeat. Why is it? Let's imagine that you wanted to achieve a certain goal. You wanted to, let's say, lose weight, or better said, be fit, right? So you want to become fit and you are taking certain actions and you're not getting the result that you want in the timeframe that you want to get it. So then what you're doing automatically is you are telling yourself stories and those stories are making you feel not good enough. Those stories are making you feel maybe like a failure. And that's exactly why you might be feeling like you don't have the control. You don't have any help, like you're helpless anymore. And that kind of negative emotional attachment to any situation that you have is going to destroy any progress, is going to destroy any kind of movement or motivation going forward, and you need to watch out. Number 2 is kind of like a cycle: doubt, worry, and anxiety. When you hear a voice in your mind that is doubting if what you're going to do is going to work, if that voice is doubting the accuracy or the outcome or the process of anything that you're doing, that doubt is going to turn into worrying. And when you start worrying, guess what happens? You feel anxiety. When you feel anxiety, guess what happens? Anything that you have done so far is going to be destroyed in a minute because now that you're doubting, now that you are eliminating and you are definitely deleting every single achievement or progress or accomplishment that you have done so far. You are only focusing on the what-if-it-goes-wrong scenario. And that type of thinking, that kind of like negative emotional attachment, is definitely going to destroy any kind of hope, any kind of determination, or any kind of power that you have. Last but not least is Guilt is a big one. When I do my executive and leadership coaching, what I do is I deal with a lot of guilt because guilt is something that can be missed easily because it's such a, such a subtle emotion. You can mix it with regret, you can mix it with feeling sorry for yourself. Those are different emotions. Why guilt is a little bit more stronger is when it becomes about you and when you violate your own values and when you feel guilty about that. Let's give it an example. If you regret something that you have done and you feel guilty about, when it is about you and your own identity and who you are and what kind of values you violated on your own, that is going to thick. And when you attach that negative emotion to anything that you have done or you want to do, trust me, it's going to destroy in a moment. And that's why you need to be aware of helplessness, anxiety, and guilt. So there you have it, 3 emotions that destroy all other emotions. I hope it made you become even more aware about what might be happening unconsciously So if you like this video, please put a like and share with others so that they can also become more aware and subscribe to my channel for more content just like this so that you can maximize your potential and you and I, we can create a much better world with a lot of love and shiny minds.
She'll give you her love and give you her time, 'cause she's the shiny one, shiny one, shiny one. You know she's lots of fun, lots of fun, lots of fun, 'cause she's the shiny one, shiny one, shiny one. And you'll have lots of fun, lots of fun, lots of fun.
