Dr Shiny Unsal reframes shyness as a mindset problem, not a fixed trait. Her Neuroshine formula, Change = Awareness × Willingness, offers three concrete moves: stop over-valuing others' opinions, focus on your strengths instead of failures, and amplify empowering inner voices while quieting self-sabotage.
Hello, my shiny minds. I am Shiny, and as always, you're here to create your own shiny mind. You're ready to shine.
Come on, it's the shiny one.
You got this.
If you want to go galactic.
And today our topic is shyness. I almost wanted to say there is a way to go from shyness to shininess, but I didn't because we are going to talk about the definition of shyness, the psychology behind it, the mindset tricks to destroy it. And of course, I am going to give you some incredible tips that you can apply right away. And that's why I'm claiming that you'll destroy it after this video. Because think about it, what is shyness? Why are you shy? Let me tell you, my shiny mind, the reason why you might be feeling shy is because that's fear. Yeah, you are probably fearful of what people are going to say about you, and you're probably focusing more on the negative voices that you hear from your own mind. And it is also very possible that the people that you have been surrounded by so far have not been really helpful. So shyness is not your personality. You don't need to stay shy. You don't need to just stay silent, quiet, sit on the corner and say nothing. That is not supposed to be the way that you're going to live your life. There is a way to change it because shyness is not a personality trait. It is a mindset problem. My dear friend. If you're ready, let's talk about it. In my Neuroshine technology, I do have this very simple yet very transformational formula. If you haven't heard about it before, let's talk about it again. Change equals awareness multiplied by willingness. When you are aware of something and when you are willing to change it, guess what? Yep, You change it. So take your shyness. The change for your shyness is going to look like, okay, I am aware that I am shy, multiplied by yes, I am willing to do something different to get rid of my shyness, right? So that is how it's going to look like. And awareness is also going to look like for you to one, Stop caring too much about what people are going to think or say about you. I'm saying this because I told you that the definition of shyness actually is a mindset problem. If you are not focusing on what people are going to say about you, if you are only focusing on you, what you're going to say, how you're going to show up, how you're going to communicate, then it is going to be just about you. You're probably not focusing on you, my darling. You are probably focusing on others and you are doing it with a lot of fear and anxiety. Am I right? If I am right, then you gotta stop it. Number 2, as part of your awareness and willingness, you also need to start focusing on what can go right instead of focusing on what can go wrong. What do I mean by that? You are probably going to a social environment, sitting at a table, and you are shutting up. And you are thinking, when I say something, I'm going to hurt somebody, or I'm going to say something inappropriate and somebody is not going to like it. And if they don't like it, I'm not going to feel good about myself, which means I'm not good enough, and which means I'm not worthy. This is the whole psychology, right? So instead of thinking like this, start focusing on your beautiful qualities, my dear shiny mind. The reason you're watching this video right now, because you are a shiny mind. The reason you and I are having this dialogue is because you know there is more for you. You know that you can maximize your potential and that's why you're here. And that's why focusing on your qualities, your strengths, and what you can bring to the table is going to help you to get rid of your shyness. And 3, my third tip is to listen to your empowering conversation inside of you. Listen, you do have different parts inside of you. You almost like, um, have a team upstairs Your team consists of different parts of you. There is this critical part of you, your inner critic. There is this cheerful part of you that cheers you on. There is this empowering part of you that just empowers you every time you feel down. And then there is also this disempowering sabotaging part of you that tells you so many things that are gonna go wrong. People are going to not like you and you're going to feel alone. Don't actually say that and don't behave like that. Remember what happened before? You said something and people didn't enjoy it and then you had problems. So you don't want to go to that. And there is this like protector inside of you. So that protector is going to do whatever it takes to stop you from raising your voice and standing for what you believe. And then you're going to go ahead and assume that you are a shy person. Maybe you're not a shy person. Maybe you're just focusing on what is going wrong. Listen, we have all different parts of us and we communicate with them. For example, you have this inner critic that talks to you all the time, criticizing you and others. You have this self-sabotage, stopping you from achieving what you want. And you also have this empowering part of you just motivates you to get what you want. And then you have this cheerful part of you that just wants to have fun and enjoy every time. So you have so many parts of you. The idea is really to be aware of which voice you are listening to. Which voice you're going to want to hug, which voice you're going to want to sit down and have a conversation inside your beautiful, shiny mind. It all comes down to this type of choices that you make. And that's why you want to be aware and willing to get rid of the shyness that you have. And if you're talking about a personality trait, guess what? You might be an introvert. I understand that introverts are different than extroverts. It doesn't mean that you don't like to socialize with other people. That's not what introvert is all about. Introvert is how you use your mind and what kind of information you take from your environment. It is literally the amount of information. You are okay with less information and that's totally okay. It doesn't make you a shy person. So that's why you want to ask yourself, am I a shy person? And so just remember, if you are not a shy person, if this shyness is part of your nervous system that is protecting you from outside potential dangers, just remind yourself you are safe. Hearing what people say about you is not going to kill you. You're going to survive. Trust me. You got this, okay? These are my 3 tips for you to get rid of your shyness, my dear shiny mind. So just put a comment below and let me know what you think. Do you really think you are a shy person, or is shyness part of your fearful symptom? What do you think? And please put a like if you like this video, share it with your friends, and of course subscribe to my channel so that you and I, we can create a much better world, not shy but shiny, with a lot of love and shiny minds.
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