40 Day Abundance Incubator Bonus Call Session 7 with Siobhan Wilcox

No worries. Jennifer. Good to have a snack. Your body's obviously feeling hungry. Well, good noticing it's really important when we're looking to receive, to allow, to open, to bring in energy and say yes to it, that we really need to be fully home in the body. Our body temple is so important. And so I want us, as we're sitting here together, to do that polarity, balance, I've taught you before, it feels really significant to do it today, together. So we're going to bring our little fingers, comb them, cross at the wrists, bring it to the forehead, take a few deep breaths with our feet uncrossed, breathing in. Bring the hands down, reverse the cross, bring it back up, breathe deeply, bring it back down. Bring our fingers tight together and then draw that line in between our shoulders and breathe deeply and bring our wrists together. So let us focus our attention upon a living, loving spirit flowing through us and around us. Let's lift our consciousness series of peace and harmony so that we may know our supporting knowledge and wisdom to to fulfill our aligned paths and purposes. We invite all of our guides and our teachers to be here with us today. We invite in our supporting ancestors. We invite in any of the beautiful beings of light that are here to support us at this time. Star, brothers and sisters, soul, family, Pan and the most appropriate nature, spirits and devas, the elements, north, south, east and west, the center point, the divine feminine, the divine masculine, the fullest aspect of source. And we ask now this. We are all here together, held in the light. And of the light that if any unbalancing energies wish to approach, they're instantly transmuted into love by this light that surrounds each and every one of us and this container. We thank you for the light. We thank you for this process, and we especially thank you for this time that we get to share with one another. We thank you all. And so I was guided tonight, this is our bonus session, but I was really guided to bring into your conversation, into your awareness, what has moved in your space since you joined the container. Have you felt a shift in your consciousness around your belief of abundance? There's no right or wrong answer. It's just a question. It's a question for you to answer to you. You can put it in the chat box if you wish. But what if you were to sit with yourself right now at this very moment in time, the only time that matters on the planet is right now, remembering always that we can't change the past, that we can't predict the future, but that the energy we turn up with in this very moment in time orientates the vibrational frequency we have for our attraction, our manifesting, our success, our well being, our relationships. It opens pathways. So at this very moment in time, ask yourself, what is my current belief around abundance? You can take a note of that for yourself if you want. As you do that listening, ask yourself if any of the beliefs that you are holding are still belonging to others and if they belong to others, do they serve you? Beautiful Mary, that's beautiful. Ask yourself at this very moment in time, as you sit here inside the sacred container of safety, amplified an anchor to create openings, opportunity and abundance. Does your higher self, your guidance team, your supporting ancestors, whoever wants to bring information to you, and do they have anything to share with you at this very moment, moment in time for your best and highest good. It think any information that you received if it was an inner knowing, a guiding sensation in the body, maybe a deep intuitive feeling or receiving of images or auditory input, we all receive differently. So just honor whatever you received, in whatever way you received. Sometimes it's just a felt sense in the body. Take a moment to bring yourself back into the awareness of your body and ask your body some questions. See if it can indicate to you what it feels like when it's in alignment for abundance. Maybe you'll get a sensation, an opening, a relaxation. Don't pressure the body, just see if it's willing to start giving you indicators of when it's in alignment.

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Does alignment really feels like. And then invite your body, thank it for the receiving you've just had. And then invite your body to indicate to you what it feels like when you're in resistance or there is restriction in your flow of abundance. And just notice this experience, not attaching any anxiety or fear to it. Just notice how it feels. This is like when we choose to tighten and relax our muscles consciously so that we train the body what it feels like when we tighten a muscle and relax a muscle. We're just training the body to bring to our attention the difference between resistance and expansion, flow and abundance, contraction and lack. So again, once you thank the body for bringing the restriction awareness to you, go back now and invite the body to bring to your attention and awareness what it feels like when you're in flow, expansion, abundance, letting go, releasing anything that was in the other space so that you can move back into this open space. It you're in expansion, flowing, abundant.

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And notice now just to help us even feel this deeper, we're going to add now a physical piece to the body. We're going to go back into the awareness of restriction, limitation and lack. But as we do that, we're going to consciously squeeze our muscles and bring our shoulders up so we can really feel contraction in the body. And at the same time, see if you can become aware of the feeling of limitation and lack and restriction of abundance. Take a deep breath in, if that's easy. It might even find that you're shallow breathing. And then release the shoulders, release the hands, release the face, the jaw, the torso, and release the sensation of limitation and lack in abundance. And then invite in the sense of abundance and flow and expansion, intuition and that inner knowing that comes with that place of deep connection to source, deep grounding to the planet, that sense of safety, that sense of flow, that sense of I have all that I need, I am fully resourced. And even say those words to yourself, I have all that I need, I am fully resourceful. And notice what happens in the body as you make that statement to yourself. God is lavish, unfailing abundance. Do you say that statement? Notice what happens in the body. I live lavishly with ease.

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Your full awareness back to your body. Notice how it's feeling at this very moment in time. Check into the body. See if there's any parts of your body that need a little attention, maybe a part of your body you need to breathe into or bring some color or light into. And then take that awareness now out into your energy field. Notice if there's anything in your energy.

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That needs to be softened or let go of or melted. Or maybe your energy feels just perfect. And as you check your energy field, you're going to check the front of your energy, the sides of your energy and the back you're going to check above your head. All of your energy sourcing comes through the crown from universal healing energy, divine energy. And you're going to check below your feet your connection to the earth. It and when you're ready, bring your awareness back now into the chair. Ask yourself, does your energy field need anything more from you at this time? If it does, invite that in for your best and highest good.

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Invite the awareness to your body. Now in the chair again and see if your body needs anything from you this very moment in time for your best and highest good.

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And wriggle your fingers, wriggle your toes. Become aware of the chair beneath you supporting you. Bring yourself back into the awareness of the room when you're ready. And then if you want to unmute and share anything, please feel free to do so. Or you can put it in the chat box, whichever feels better for you. Thank you for sharing, Mary. Feel free to. If you want to unmute and share more, you can.

What's interesting today, coming into the session, I pretty much was really stressed out. I'm working on a lot of financials connected to my mom's estate and sort of this critical point because I really made it up in my mind and that's why I sort of signed up for the abundance was it needs to be completed for me to moving forward in. In life, you know, instead of holding on to all these things that are attached to the past. So it's been really powerful because I've been. Been completing it and, and I'm going to start be working on it afterwards. But it's what I, I love that exercise because it really put me into. I know where I'm getting the feeling it, you know, and I just need to breathe and relax, you know, into it.

Yeah. Thank you, Mary.

Thank you.

Yeah, you're welcome. You know, when I, I trained as a stress management consultant for a number of years, and really it's the body that holds the memory of our stress. Our mind feeds the stress into the body, you know, but our physical body holds the memory, the cellular memory, and it can respond without us consciously wanting it to. And so if you find that that is a situation you have where your body goes into an. A stress response because you're in situations to consciously tighten and say, I'm stretched right now, and then consciously relax and say, now this is what relaxation feels like. And then, and just even do that a few times, you start to train the body that it's, it's okay to be stressed, but it feels so much better to be relaxed. And, you know, it starts to create a different autonomic response in the body. It's called progressive muscular relaxation. And you can do it throughout the whole body. Micro holding muscles like, okay, I'm just gonna do my, my right hand or my left hand, or I'm, I'm gonna just do my fist or I'm just gonna do my bicep or, you know, just shoulders. And, and if you ever have trouble sleeping, if you start this, it's much better than canning sheep. You, you can start and move this like a wave through the body of tightening and relaxing and tightening and relaxing. And at the same time you tell your body, this is what tightening feels in my body, and then this is what relaxation feels in my body. And it starts to retrain what has become an automatic response. So first off, we start to notice our nuances of our jaw tightens. So you know, I, I became a stress management consultant many years ago. I started training when I was 24 because I burnt out from stress. And as I worked with a coach to repair my life, I needed to learn all these new techniques. And then they said, oh, you need to study this, you're really good at it. And so I went into studying it. But I, what I discovered which has been the greatest gift to me is if my jaw tightens, something's wrong. And that rather than me, I used to have lockjaw and TMJ and all of these headaches and now I just go that response. But it's because I spent so much, so much time studying the nuances of my body responses. And now that I have that down, I now study this responses to the very specific things. Like even just this morning I was studying the response to make sure I got it correct for you guys to what it felt like to know that money was easy. So I started using that languaging and I started to feel what my body did as I said those words. So I, my heart was like, oh, okay, yeah, that's good, we'll go with that one. And then I started the opposite. Money is hard. Money doesn't flow. Money contracts or money isn't there or whatever. And then I could feel my, the curling inwards of the automatic response in my body for safety. You know, you go in. That's why a lot of us, our shoulders go forward and we need to, this is like literally a safety response in the body. We're trying to protect ourselves. And so you know, start now that we finished this container, this specific one, start to notice and play with the concept of God is lavish. I'm failing abundance, whatever that statement is that makes you go and just add that in a few times throughout your day and just feel that opening that happens in the body. Or you know, if you want to be in a co creative relationship with another person, it might even be in an intimate relationship, it might be in a partnership in business. Can you both think your energy so that you both are in agreement of how you vibrate the language of money, the language of success, the language of co creation. And you know, this is a challenge when often we are in relationship with another. Even if it's a child or a lover or a business partner or even a sibling, we often have different money energy, different money beliefs. That's why I always say if you can do this program with somebody that you want to be in relationship with. So you have a similar energy around money. It's very helpful, you know and because if you are coming like even I have a, like a 20 year old and he's always like here mom, can you give me 20 for this? And hey mom, can you give me 40 for this then? Oh mom, I need 50 for that. And I, I, I just went time out, let's sit down and talk about your money energy. And he's like, you know, I was training him in recognizing that I was giving but he also had to co create and create for himself and that me handing him things all the time was not of service to him long term. That he would not be able to sustain himself on the planet if he expected somebody just to his parents to keep handing him money all the time. It wasn't logistically feasible. So. So when you're in co creative relationship or even business partnership with someone, see if you can recognize their languaging and their sense of money and notice how that influences you. Right. Does their relationship to money have a strong influence on how you feel in that moment in time? And that's really helpful if you're in a relationship that's very intimate with that person or you spend a lot of time with them or you're relying on them in some way to do a specific part of your money tasks. It can really drain your energy no matter how much you're trying to keep your energy vibration high. I was working with my ex husband the other day on, on some money stuff for taxes and I re, I recognized which was very healing for me. There was projections and so other people's projections can influence us particularly when we're very highly empathic. And what are those projections doing to us? Are they contracting us or are they expanding us? Right. Does that make sense? Yeah. So if we look at that idea of projections right now. Right. If we look at that concept of projections for those that came in a little bit late, we. You have missed the first part. Julie and Christy, you only got piece of it too. It's worth going back when you get the recording to re listen to it. Because we did a lot on what it feels like in the body when we expand our consciousness around money. And when we contract our consciousness and we're training our autonomic nervous system to give us signals so we know when we're in expansion or when we're in contraction. And that orientates us to be in flow or to be in restriction. So that was the first section we did before you came on but if we look at projections and how projections can turn up, do you have a sense that you can become vulnerable at times to projections? You can put your hands up if you want to do a reaction or you can, yeah. And the closer a person is to you, the stronger their projection will usually influence you. So if somebody at the store randomly projects something onto you, you can usually brush that off.

Right.

But if it's somebody in your inner space, a family member, loved one, a very close friend, a boss, a co worker, somebody that has an influence in your specific daily life, that usually has a much stronger level of projection that you need to become aware of its influence, you cannot change the other person's perspective. You can lose your mind trying to do that one race. You can't. It's not possible. You can only turn up in your way of being and set really clear boundaries with what you're accepting, to receive, allow and let in. And it's okay to be. Like with my ex husband the other day I became very aware after a conversation that I felt heavy in my body and I was like, oh God. And I had to sit with that. It's almost like I was all dulled on one side of my body and I'm like, let me, let me, let me ground first. I always get grounded first. Then I. And then I was like, right, what is this? And I just started looking out into my energy space and I went, wow, that's a lot of projection into my space. Into that is his fear or his pain or his anxiety. And because maybe when we were married we would talk through that stuff and I would help him shift stuff, he was now just dumping it anyway, even though we weren't in that same co creative space. So take a moment to just look inwards and see are there people currently in your life that first off maybe really expand you right when you're with them, that they make you feel fabulous to have them around and just see what that feels like when you're with that person. That expansion, that joy, that feeling that co creation is easy and it might be a perfect relationship, there may be other pieces of it that don't flow all the time, but just the majority of the time that you're with somebody that they up level you and uplift you and then thank that person just for the grab. Be grateful in the moment that they're in your life. Just, just send some gratitude and love to that person and then take a moment to consider if there is people around you that have a more toxic influence on you and what that feels like when they're in your space and you're not going to allow them to get fully into your space is just an awareness building and observation and notice when you're in the awareness of that other kind of person. See, is there specific parts of your energy field or your body that respond to their presence, their influence. We usually have parts of our body that are our stress signalers. And then just allow that person to move away their influence to no longer be in your space. And then take a moment to bring your hands to somewhere on your body. Maybe your heart, maybe one on your heart, your belly, maybe both on your belly. Just somewhere that you're gently nurturing yourself and just start breathing some love into your body. Maybe there's a color associated with that. Love.

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And then that beautiful prayer, the Honopona prayer. I'm sorry, Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. Just start pouring that into your awareness. I'm sorry, Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. And just notice what happens in the body when you deeply care and love for yourself. And then wriggle your fingers and wriggle your toes. And for those that came in late, I'd sent out because I was so ill last week, my brain fried. I sent out the wrong recording last week. So I put the right recording at the very top in the chat box. You can just copy and paste that into your browser and you have the recording from last week. I've also put it into the email that'll go out but that's the recording. So we've got 10 minutes left if anybody wants to make a comment. Jennifer, honey.

Hi.

I am just savoring the exercise. Like left to my own mindset and reading it was like there was still the veil of the default constriction like around abundance. Like I would kind of go through the motions of the words and I would think of it throughout the day. But when you brought it all together with the like what does it to notice what it feels like when we're constricted. I. I'm so used to it that.

I didn't know the.

Difference.

Yeah.

And so when you did the practice of like what does open feel like? Like a whole body relaxed and there was safety around surrendering to that versus going through the mental practice but also still like closed a little bit. So I just really, really loved like that liberation and the awareness. So that as I go through the day, which is it? It's one or the other Am I can, am I open or am I constricted? So I'd, it's really, really brought it all together for me.

Oh, that's good, honey. Well done. Yeah, well done. And it's. I know. You know, our autonomic nervous system, it is trained from a very early age for us to contract. And when we are first born, we belly breathe all the time. Our baby, if you ever do little pot bellies on these babies and they're all like, right, and they're all happy and not always they cry or whatever, but they have this little pot belly because they can breathe fully diaphragmatic breathing. And as we go through our lives and we get more stressed, we contract and we hold our breath. And as we hold our breath, we start to shallow breathe. And as we start to shallow breathe, we start to lock up the body's inability or the body's ability to release the emotion that's happening and we stuff that emotion down into the physical. And so that's why a lot of therapeutic practices involve breath, because we are literally reprogramming ourselves and how to rebreathe. But also we start to get into the emotions that are stuck inside our body and we start to be able to open them back up again and release them. And so I'm going to get to you now in one sec. Julie, honey, I just, I want to just complete this piece. And so one of the things that I think I've mentioned Felt Sense before in one of the videos we did. But Felt Sense is a therapeutic approach that is used by psychologists and it was discovered by a Dr. Gendlin when he had had his practice for 40 years. He was a professor and he started to notice that some people would have the same similar traumas and they would transform in six months. And some people were six years and they were still processing the same trauma. But what weighed the difference between the six month person and the six year person, then what he discovered, because he had recorded all his sessions and he had his grad students listen back to all those sessions and start transcribing them, God bless them. But what they discovered was that when the person found the emotional connection between their trauma experience or their stress and their body, they transformed. So his technique is literally called Felt Sense. I studied it when I did my stress management training. It's like, so what are you feeling in your body? And it doesn't take a lot of work, it doesn't take a lot of theory. It's basically noticing, how is my body doing today? And what Part of my body wants attention. And it may be that, oh, my jaw's tight right now. And if you bring your awareness to, oh, gosh, look, my jaw's tight. And you just sit with the knowingness that your jaw is giving you a message of some sort, the jaw starts to release, you may get a knowingness, you may get a sensation, you may have an emotion come up. And when it passes, the body will bring you another indicator. And so you can literally do this technique and move through the body and journal for yourself what's coming out of the body. It's very transformational, it's very simple. And it's been shown to move the needle for people that have reoccurring stress responses or reoccurring automatic responses of the mind or the body that it moves the needle to bring them to a new place of stance. Because now the body has the memory, then it's getting noticed and it's going, oh my God, she's like me. And so once we start noticing, the body is like so excited to bring all the information to us, right? And then, you know, most of the time, like before I knew all of this stuff, I had a really chronic back issue and I had a limp that was very severe and I had to be, you know, chiropractically adjusted three to four times a week. I was on pain meds every day, real high level pain meds because it was hard to function. Then when I started learning these techniques, my body just went, oh, well, that was that ex boyfriend back then that did that. And then blah, blah, blah, and you just took all that because you didn't know how to process it and you stuffed it into your hip and then your hip went out and there you go. And so suddenly I'm like, and I'm having all these weird dreams and I had a little homeopathy to help move the energy too. And it was just transformational because the body had stored the trauma. And I hadn't recognized that the link at that time was between the trauma and the physical was so dramatic for my body. So now I have my indicators. The minute my jaw goes aha, something in your environment or your mental inner voice is now creating stress. What would you need to attend to it? And so I can shift so it doesn't lock up my body in the way it used to. So thank you. Jennifer, honey. Julie, honey.

So this is. Well, I really want to first address the constriction and the expansion. It's very interesting. I have a, ironically, a very well known psychiatrist father which may sound lovely and stimulating, but let me tell you, it's called the God complex, okay? And I have always been a very positive. Like, I'm inspired by things. And he calls me. You know, he thinks I'm bipolar. If I'm. You know, it's insane. Anyway. But my point is, is that when I pick up the phone, and not any. Not as much anymore. And he's very unpredictable, which is the hard part. Sometimes he's the nice dad, and sometimes he is the cruel dad. And my body, ironically. And I have worked with various energy people to, you know, try to create an energetic wall between him. But I do. I find. I find he. Absolutely. And just even being around him, I feel that my. That, you know, like you said, I don't feel expansive. I don't feel seen for who I am. I feel dismissed. I feel that he talked, that he's very condescending to me, and it is. It. I can feel it all over my body. And fortunately, I am not around him that much.

He doesn't.

Yeah. I was just with him. And I even tried to say to him, I go, dad, you had a father who wasn't approving of you. Why can't you just give me some sense of feeling proud? He wouldn't. He wouldn't. Now, in contrast, I met a woman. I'm starting to get involved in speaking, who. Interesting. And I became aware of it because I am very intuitive. I was talking to her, and we have. There is such a lightness and such a mutual reciprocity in our. In our laughter, in our sharing with one another. I'm not working with her now anymore. However, I realized, I said to her one day, I said, you know what? You're one of the only people that has given me. That has mirrored to me my value. And that is why my presence in our. Paul, she was my speaking coach. She really uplifted me. And the uplifting was so internal, and I was so happy. And I can. I see so clearly that difference that you're describing.

Thank you for sharing. That was vulnerable, Julie. Thank you, honey. And it's. It's, you know, it's beautiful that you have that opposite reference point. Right. Because now you know what you want to attract, know what you want to.

Call in, really do anything with a father, he's sort of. You're in your life. But I do know what that emotional feeling is.

Yeah.

When I feel embraced and when. And I think everybody understands the idea when somebody mirrors your greatness. And we all have our own greatness that is the best feeling. And I only want to surround myself with those people.

Yeah, for sure. And I, I always say as well, you know, that we don't know what it feels like fully to have that greatness till we haven't had that greatness. So at some level, you know, it's like my ex being toxic towards me about whatever it is makes me appreciate my new beloved because he's the complete opposite. And so. But it's like that toxicity is like, oh my God. But this is like, oh, now I appreciate this even more over here.

Absolutely.

You know.

Absolutely. And I also think I, you know, in terms of what you're saying, if somebody is like, in your case, you had to do taxes with your ex husband, but that doesn't mean you have to connect with him every day. So I just mitigate how much contact I have with him.

Exactly.

My energy can stay clear.

Yeah, yeah. And that's important as well for creating boundaries. And that's one of the things as well. We're into the Phoenix Rising energy for the next 20 years. And that started on February 4th of this year, which is a shift in how we can turn up on the planet as women. So the energy shifted on February 4th from A in. This is in feng shui, flying stars of feng shui shifted from an eight year, 20 cycles. It was eights for 20 years. That was the energy of Earth. And it supported young men, it supported technology, it supported real estate. Now we're into a nine cycle, which is the Phoenix Rising for the Divine Feminine. It's supporting women empowerment, supporting women visionaries, women, women of influence, women who do spiritual work, metaphysical work. We're going to be supportive for 20 years. But the key to us being allowed to fully embody that for ourselves is boundaries and self care and self love. Because we have to be that vibrational frequency of sovereignty so that we can serve at the bigger level. Otherwise we will just crash and burn. And so it's very important to get these distinctions of energy in your body and the knowingness of that so that you can launch yourself bigger and bolder and serve at a higher level. So I know it's. We're going over time already and I've so enjoyed this container with you all. I haven't set the date for the next one yet. I will be doing that. I'm just finishing up some things on my end and I'm in. I'm just finishing creating my Feng Shui for love training, which I'm really excited about. And I'll be announcing that Very soon. And I'm also going to be creating retreats here at my home in Idlewild, which I'll also be announcing in coming into the summer. So I will send out this recording if you can come join me on Monday evening. I will be running our community gathering. I and I'll send out a link in the email to you all so that you can all kind of reconnect and stay in touch. There's one every month if you haven't been before. And I look forward to still co creating and playing with you all and hopefully seeing you at the gatherings and maybe another workshop with me in the future. Is there anything that anyone would just like to say goodbye about before we love do our final love to each other?

Because I'm sorry, I just thought you said that there would be one other time that you haven't figured out that we would all get together. Or am I mistaking that?

No. This was the sec. This was the bonus. This was the seventh time.

Okay.

So that is what it is.

Okay.

Yeah.

Yeah. This was our seventh time.

You are full of love and very sweet and it's been lovely having.

Oh, thank you, Julie honey. Thank you Jennifer as well. It's been wonderful to be here with you.

I feel like this container's been just a different expansion having been in the other container. And I feel like I processed so much in the other one and this one is almost for me, like I'm putting it into practice. The other one was kind of like I was, I was breaking out of all of this stuff that I had old belief everything around abundance. And I feel like this container has been an opportunity for me to really practice it. And yesterday I had a frustrating situation with a group that I just joined in and I was so frustrated because I recognized the point of my abundance and what I really wanted out of the container. And I was frustrated because I felt like I wasn't connecting in that same way. And I realized today that it was really more of a projection onto of the relationship that I had been heard in before. And it was an opportunity for me to actually shift my understanding and not sabotage my abundance this time around.

Beautiful.

It was kind of like just the discernment being able to recognize that I, I, I sabotage and I, and I shouldn't have sabotaged. It was. But so I was hard on myself because I was sabotaging. It's got it like double, double trouble. But I guess what I'm saying is it allowed me to really practice and realize how much power we have as creators and what supplies already there if we just open ourselves up to receive it. So. And look at it with new eyes. So thank you, Siobhan. It's been a blessing for me.

You're welcome, honey. Thank you for being here. And thank you, Mary, Kristen. Do you.

Would you.

Were you going to say something or you just. Okay. And thank you, Melanie as well, and Christie. It's lovely being here with you all. And I hope to see you all again soon.

Okay, thank you.

Bye bye, everyone. Bye. Bye. Bye.

Thank you.