Why Your Brain Rushes to Judge People

I think it's important for us to, when you're listening to your friend that grew up in Borneo, to try to learn and be curious as you do to try to understand their point of view and perspective without jumping to the judgment. We can judge them, but if you judge them, do it way after you've understood them. Because I think in this world, we love soundbites and we love, you know, are they an us or them? Oh, they're an us. Okay, great. Or are they an them? Okay, great. We love to get clarity and certainty really quickly. And there's a concept in psychology called the need for cognitive control, or need for, uh, the need for cognitive control, which is that we want to be able to control a particular— or closure, sorry, which is that we want to get closure over a particular idea. And we want to be able to, you know, now I understand this, even though there's nuance, there's complexity, there's all these different things.