Susan DrummCEO Advisor & Executive Coach | Leadership Change Agent

Why Self Awareness Is Hard Without a Mirror #shorts

17 Jun 2026 · 0 min

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In this concise YouTube short, Susan Drumm describes how an effective coach functions like a mirror, reflecting observable cues such as tone, breath, and language. The coach uses these observations to ask incisive questions—e.g., “Why that move?” or “What would happen if you tried the opposite?”—that pull at underlying behavioral threads. By surfacing hidden patterns, the coach makes the invisible visible; once a pattern is recognized, it becomes optional and can be changed, leading to a shift in the coachee’s experience.

A good coach holds up a mirror, not to judge you, but to catch you in the moments you can't catch yourself. They notice when the tone shifts and your breath changes and when your language gets tight. And then they ask the questions that just pull the thread. Why that move? What would happen if you tried the opposite? And that's how a pattern goes from invisible to optional. Now, here's why this matters. Until you see the pattern, you can't change it. But once you do see it, everything shifts.