Susan Drumm explains the Enneagram as a tool for spotting blind spots you don't see in yourself. Diana smooths over conflict, Mark fills silences with his voice, others chase wins or approval. The point isn't labeling yourself but noticing your default move and choosing if it actually works.
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So how do you spot something you've been doing your whole life? For Diana, one of the fastest ways was the Enneagram. If you're not familiar, think of it like a GPS for your blind spots. It maps 9 distinct ways of seeing the world and reacting under stress. And it doesn't put you in a box, it shows you the box you're already in. It hands you the tools to step out of it. For Diana, it revealed exactly why her reflex was to keep the surface smooth. For Mark, it explained why he filled every gap with his voice. For someone else, the pattern might be needing to win at all costs, or constantly seeking approval, or avoiding decisions to keep everyone happy. The point isn't memorizing the 9 types. The point is awareness, naming your go-to move so you can decide if it's actually helping in the moment.