ABC of Success with Jim Rees

The bee is about our beliefs and in some way, really like human flypaper over our lives, we've ended up collecting beliefs from our parents, from school, from school teachers, from media, from our peers that we've grown up with. And we end up adopting and taking on those beliefs of others. Not necessarily our own beliefs, but. But beliefs that have then shaped our thinking and shaped how we run ourselves in our lives. And beliefs is the cornerstone, is the foundation of how we run our lives. And if we believe, typically very simply, Henry Ford's quote is probably the best quote on the planet. If you think you can, or if you think you can't, you're probably right. And that fundamentally is a belief. So whether people sit in the can tribe or whether they sit in the can't tribe is really the difference that makes the difference in life distraction that that might cause. When you're speaking to an audience, then until someone makes you aware of it, there's nothing you can do about it. So the first step, and it's a big, it's a big piece, is making people aware of some of the patterns of behavior that we all run in our lives. And I don't know whether you remember the cartoon character Magoo from, for example, Magoo is a classic example of someone that's running his life out of awareness. He's almost sleepwalking through his life and bumbling along, creating chaos in the background, but he's aware, he's oblivious, he's just driving along quite happily and there's a whole load of chaos going on in the background. And he's operating out of awareness. And most people on the planet, unfortunately for most of us, we're sleepwalking our way through our lives and unaware of the fingerprint that we're leaving on every conversation, on every look, on every handshake. We're unaware of the impact that that can have on others. You know, the ripple effect that that can have both positively and also negatively. The be is about our beliefs and in some way, really like human flypaper over our lives, we've ended up collecting beliefs from our parents, from school, from school, teachers, from media, from our peers that we've grown up with. And we end up adopting and taking on those beliefs of others. Not necessarily our own beliefs, but beliefs that have then shaped our thinking and shaped how we run ourselves in our lives. Beliefs is the cornerstone, is the foundation of how we run our lives. And you know, if we believe typically very simply, Henry Ford's quote is probably the best quote on the planet. If you think you can, or if you think you can't, you're probably right. And that fundamentally is a belief. So whether people sit in the can tribe or whether they sit in the can't tribe is really the difference between that makes the difference in life and the c is the commitment. It's the big thing that most, you know, most people trip up on. It's the, you know, want to get fit, want to give up smoking, want to lose weight, whatever it might be. It's the Achilles heel that tends to trip most people up. Successful people are extremely good at putting the commitment piece into play. Unfortunately, most people struggle with the commitment. You know, they come up against something, up against a brick wall, up against a stumbling block, and they think, actually, I'll just reset, recalibrate my goal. You know, maybe that goal of getting fit wasn't as, you know, that aspirational or losing the weight. Well, I've lost some weight, so I'll stop now. And normally in life, what tends to happen is, you know, the curveballs get thrown and people either deal with that really well and they say, well, that's nothing, you know, next. And then they just carry on and focus on their goal. And they are very committed, determined individuals. So the commitment piece is the critical piece in the real world. It's about being aware of, okay, so what is it that you want? So you've got what you want now. You know, as a coach, as a keynote speaker, if I'm one to one coaching somebody, one of the first questions I'll ask is, what is it that you want? What do you want to achieve? Most people struggle with really being able to articulate what they want. So one of the quickest ways to understand what it is and help them understand what they want is to say, okay, so what don't you want? When they know what they don't want? So they don't want this to happen, they don't want that to happen. You can then actually say, okay, so that's what you don't want to happen. So let's look at the other side, the flip side to that, and focus on what specifically you do want as a goal or what you want to achieve in life. My belief is that it's, you know, you either apply a can do attitude to life or you're stuck in this can't tribe. You're either a member of the can tribe or the can't tribe, and depending on where you play life from, whether you're playing from a low level, which would be perhaps a one or Whether you're playing from a high level at a 10, it'll make a significant difference in terms of how you end up behaving, which will then have an impact on the results that show up in your life. Nothing happens without movement, so you do need to take action. And I think like Thomas Edison, he was a classic example and a great, great example for all of us. You know, something, depending on which book you read, over 3,000 experiments to invent the light bulb. And when he was interviewed, the interviewee said, the interviewer said, well, how does it feel having failed 3,000 times to have invented the light bulb? And his answer was fantastic. He said he'd never failed once. He'd only ever learned how not to do it. So. So what he did typically is he went back to the drawing board, tweaked his experiment, learned from it, and then did another experiment. And life will do that to all of us. If we're prepared to go back and have another go and look at what worked well, what did I learn from that situation, and now what will I change as a result, and continue to apply that recipe as we move forward through life, then you've got a very powerful success strategy just in that start noticing your patterns of behavior. So unraveling your patterns of behavior and understanding what's worked well for you. So, you know, I recommend people keep a journal to start making a note of, you know, some of the key important meetings that they have with people. It also gives you an opportunity to jot down some thinking from books that you might have read or some phrases that you might have picked up along the way, some powerful quotes, and start understanding some of the patterns of behavior that have helped you be successful, and some of the self talk that has allowed you to reinforce that or find out what's getting in the way. So what is getting in the way? Is it the self talk? Is it the pictures that you're painting in your mind's eye and understanding where you're at right now? So calibrating where you are on this scale of 1 to 10, then doing something about it to actually move yourself up the scale, signing yourself up to be your own observer of how you're interacting with people. You know, being more aware of the fingerprint in every conversation that you have, every look that you have with somebody, every interaction is an opportunity to leave people in a much, much more powerful positive states than they were prior to you interacting with them. There are still, unfortunately, some dinosaurs that still rule by fear and the fingerprint that they're leaving in the business and right through the organization can be extremely destructive. And that then creates a fear culture within an organization. And it's critical that that leader, that individual, is aware of the impact that they're having. But unfortunately, they're doing what Magoo does, and they're acting out of awareness, and they're not aware of the ripple effect that that's creating in the organization. Typically, leaders tend to sort of believe that it's their role to judge people. So they don't ever really look at themselves. They don't look in the mirror and say, actually, I wonder what I'm doing as a leader to create this effect, this demotivation within the organization. So they don't ever really look at themselves because they continue to say, well, it's them. If they changed, the organization would be more successful. But actually, interestingly, the big win, the big result for an organization would be for the leaders to look at themselves and be more aware of the fingerprint they're leaving on every conversation and every interaction that they have with people within the organization.