How to Release

Hi everyone, this is Tisha Morris. Thank you so much for joining me for my feng shui tips. Alright, so today we're going to be talking about How to release. Release. When we think of that, we think, you know, usually of clutter, and I've talked a lot in my past, in my work, about releasing clutter, and it's, you know, honestly something that I have kind of somewhat prided myself into not really having an issue with. I'm pretty minimal, you know, I've I've come to the place, at one point I sold everything except for what would fit in my car. And so in some ways I have felt that I've been a little bit exempt in this process and that I'm here, you know, to help others with it. And then this week I saw this picture on Facebook of the sheep. I don't know if you guys have seen it. I don't know why this story has resurrected because apparently The sheep passed in 2004 or something. But anyway, the story of the sheep that would hide in the cave every year when it came around for flocking. And so its entire adult life, or however long, it never got sheared. And I saw this picture and I couldn't help but see myself in the sheep. It was a real eye-opener for me because as much as I have pared down on the physical level, you know, releasing on the emotional, mental level has been a huge struggle for me. And, you know, I am a Cancer sign, which is known to hold on to things and hold on to the past. And like I said, I thought I had always been exempt because I am pretty minimal. On the physical level, but not on the emotional, mental level. And so when we think about releasing, it's definitely on all levels, and we all struggle. Well, I won't say all. Some people may not have issues with releasing at all. It is part of my North Node, actually, is the path of release. So, and you know, there's that saying, you teach what you most need to learn. So this video is as much for me as it is for you. So I want to give you— it's easier for me to see on the physical level because I can be more objective, because that's, that's where I don't struggle. It's harder to see things internally, at least for me. But like I said, the sheep really gave me some insight. I looked up the symbol for wool and it represents comfort and security and safety. And of course The sheep would hide in the cave, which is another metaphor of not being seen again and to stay comfortable. And so this is such a metaphor for all of us of when we get stuck into our comforts and how our comfort zone can really limit us from from moving forward in life. And, you know, it gets, it can get to a point where our comfort, our comfort level is no longer comfortable. And that's where, that's where change, that's when we know we need to change. I see this a lot with clients with clutter of where, you know, everyone has different levels or different desires of how much stuff they like to have around them, and that's good. But when you get to the point where the walls feel like they're coming in on you, where your life feels stagnant. That's when you need, you know, you need to do some releasing. And so, you know, this comfort, this wool becomes a heavy weight. In fact, apparently when they sheared the wool, it was enough to make 20 men's suits. It was like 50 or 60 pounds of wool. So think about the sheep walking around with 50 pounds of excess weight. This is also analogous to people who have excess or are holding excess weight themselves. It's out of comfort and security and safety. And it gets to the point where it's too much of a load to where the comfort is no longer comfortable. Even in this case, the sheep, it was impacting its health. It could hardly even see anymore because of all the wool over its eyes. The wool over its eyes, where you start to lose clarity. And the wool can be pulled over your eyes, and that's where you don't have that internal guidance or structure within yourself. So there's lots of fallouts to holding on to too much. And so the step 1 for releasing is just having the awareness. Knowing when enough is enough. When you are having awareness of when you know you need to release. And you know, is it on the physical level? Is it things? Is it clutter? Is it stuff in your house? Which of course are just usually manifestations of something deeper. But, or is it something more internal? Emotions or thoughts that need to release. Because those can have just as much weight, and there's a payoff of the comfort in what you're getting out of that as well. So there's a comfort level of whatever emotions or thoughts that you're holding on to, preventing you from moving forward. These are some ways we end up sabotaging ourselves, keeping us in the comfortable place that we still are in and so by changing thoughts, it puts us into a different space where we can move forward, and moving forward a lot of time is very uncomfortable into the unknown. So there's always a payoff, but when that payoff is no longer paying off, that's when we know release is necessary. By the way, so when I talk about release, it's almost synonymous with change, when we want to change, because in changing inherently you have to release. It's just you cannot make changes without releasing something. It's impossible. This is a lot of times why we get boggled— is that a word?— boggled down. Because when we want to make changes, a lot of times we just add things to it like Band-Aids and add and add and add and add and add and add. And so over time it becomes a bigger weight than even the initial issue. So releasing is always the first step to make changes. So I'm using those words release and change almost synonymously. So the first step, as I mentioned, is just having the awareness that you, that you need to make a change, or having awareness that your load has gotten too heavy. And so again, this may be awareness you need to clear clutter, awareness you need to lose weight, awareness you need to drop a relationship. Or just a thought system or beliefs or thoughts or belief systems that are no longer serving you to where they are weighing you down. So the awareness around that and just kind of admitting that there's a problem is huge, is huge, and a lot of times that might be enough to transform the issue, but usually not. If you've gotten to this point to where to where it's such a heavy weight. And again, looking at the sheep, um, and so step 2, this goes to step 2, is asking for help if needed. And a lot of times it is. When we get so boggled down, um, that usually we're needing help of people to, you know, shear us a little bit. And because the weight's gotten too heavy to do it ourselves. And so really just acknowledging that it's okay to ask for help. If it's your home, it could be a professional organizer, it could be a friend, it could be a Feng Shui consultant, you know, just some kind of assistance or help. It could be Goodwill or Salvation Army to come by and pick up the stuff for you. So, or it could be, you know, it could be on any level asking for help. If the load is too heavy for you to release completely on your own, and to help you get some further perspective. Okay, so, yes, so again, I got, you know, obviously the sheep needed help. I'm not sure about the sheep shearing process. I suppose it's always humans helping the sheep shear their wool. I'm not real sure. A lot of shiz in there. So, you know, so step 3, moving on to step 3, is, you know, what is the best process for you? Is it baby steps or is it all at once? I couldn't help but sympathize with the sheep, so that the after picture of the sheep with all of its wool shaved, I had a lot of sympathy for that sheep, and again, could see myself in that, and how sudden, how traumatic that must have been for that sheep to go from all of that to being so exposed, so vulnerable. If any of you have dogs, you might see this when your dog, when it comes back from the groomers, and it's like shy, and feels so vulnerable and exposed. And this is how we are when we releasing things and knowing that it's okay. And so having— this is where, this is where step 4, the compassion. Again, when I saw that sheep and saw myself in that sheep, the amount of compassion that I had for myself, for that sheep and therefore myself, was really powerful. You know, I guess we could call this inner sheep work instead of inner child work, but it is the same thing. You know, it's an animal, a sweet animal, or a sweet child. And seeing yourself, your inner child in that, or your inner sheep in that, and just having compassion for yourself and for the process and for the courage. I don't know how much choice the sheep had in the process, but my guess is that finally, in some way, you know, if the law of attraction applies to sheep as well, which I assume it does, it found a way to finally expose itself out of the cave to finally be shared. And so I'm I'm guessing that on some level it volunteered to be sheared because it probably was facing death because of the weight and again just the lack of quality of sheep life. So anyway, back to step 3, sorry I kind of skipped over step 3. It's baby steps or are you an all-at-once type of person, you know? And this goes to each person's personality. I'm definitely more of a baby step person. It has to come in layers, gentle layers. Sudden change is not good for me. And a lot of times if it's not in alignment with how you process, then it can kind of put you back, back to square one because it's too sudden of a change. So in regards to clutter, you know, in your house, using that as an example or metaphor, Working in baby steps gradually over time as opposed to just doing an overhaul on the whole house. But again, the overhaul on the whole house might fit with someone who's a little more fiery, a little more of that extreme personality. So know yourself and know what process is best for you. With regards to relationships, it might be a slow letting go as opposed to ripping the Band-Aid off kind of thing. So I hope this helps. Oh, one other thing I wanted to mention is, so once you release, you know, how do you prevent getting back or in a new area of your life getting back to this sheep that's where it's, you know, has minimized quality of life dramatically. You know, how do you prevent getting to that point in the future? Calling this prevention of needing to do such dramatic releasing. I think this goes to being aware of your own patterns. So noticing if you are falling into old patterns of holding on to things, clinging, clasping. This could be, you know, Regarding, you know, things and clutter, notice your pattern and how you collect things or buy things. Set up a system that when you buy some new clothes, you get rid of some old clothes. Put systems into place. Notice your patterns of how you kind of, you know, start these patterns. Again, awareness is huge. So it kind of goes back to step 1 of the releasing process and having awareness over it, but this time it's through awareness of your own patterns. And then again, step 2 for prevention, asking for help to kind of stay on that maintenance if needed. And then, and then again, baby steps or all at once depending on what your, your MO is. And then compassion, always having compassion for yourself and And, you know, if the baby step approach is what's best for you, having— being okay with that, you know. It's okay if you don't want to shear your entire, you know, coat of wool all in one sitting. It can be done gradually. Okay. All right, so I hope this helps, and I hope this resonates with you. And thank you so much for watching, and I will see you soon. Thanks.