Is your common response to QUIT, or RECOMMIT?

When you make a mistake, get knocked off track, or come across an obstacle, what is your common response? Is it to quit or recommit? Now, I ask this because the answer to that question will likely give you great insight into the likelihood of you reaching your goals, plus also insight into how and why you might be stuck where you are right now in relation to achieving your goals. Because for many of us, we have goals that we want to achieve, but it's our common response to the obstacles and challenges that will dictate our outcome more so than the level at which we choose to take action whilst we're taking action. Now, I say this because I myself in the past have made the mistake of reaching an obstacle or having a day that wasn't perfect and therefore hitting the fuck it button like we do sometimes. Something just doesn't go our way. We have this initial plan— this is what I plan to achieve, this is what I'm going to do today— and then because it doesn't go perfect, we end up just kind of throwing the whole day out or the rest of the week and so on because we feel like, well, we failed, so what's the point? I'm not going to get the result I want now, so what's the point in me trying or continuing to put in this effort for no reward on the back end? Now, of course, if we get logical about it and actually thought thought through the emotion that we're currently, or that we were presently stuck in in that moment, what we would obviously see is that we would be better off continuing, and we probably would still actually get the result that we wanted. But in the moment, we're that frustrated, annoyed, pissed off with ourselves that we tend to then punish ourselves by saying, fuck this, and we give up on ourselves and what it is we actually wanted. But it's important for us to recognize behaviors like this and common responses like this because, of course, the path to success is never linear. It's always up, down, left, right, backwards, sideways, and all the rest of it. It's never a linear straight line. Oh, I want this goal, I'm gonna go, and then we start taking action and we perfectly get there. It would be nice if that was the case, but unfortunately it's not. We're, we're always going to face struggles along the way. And I've said to you guys before, from my perspective, the way I've now learned to look at it is that the challenges and the obstacles that we face along the way, they are designed to build us into the person we need to become that can not only achieve this outcome but also hold on to it for life once we've got it. Because it's almost like our rite of passage. It's like you've neglected yourself for however long, you've let your health go, your body go, and so on, and now you have to go through this rite of passage or this this stressful period or this challenge in order to earn the right to hold the outcome that you want and then maintain it for life. That's what builds us into the being that we need to be, so that we're not just doing the things that we need to do in order to get the result but then have no intention of ever actually maintaining that, that level of behavior or habit. Because if we don't, of course, we, we end up losing the result. So that challenge is often what's required to essentially craft us into the individual that we need to become that can hold on to this outcome for the rest of our lives, whether it's the new money that we've managed to make in our business, whether it's the new body that we've built through our efforts and our habits with food and exercise and recovery and so on, or whether it's in our relationships and the better communication or the deeper connection or the deeper intimacy that we build in a relationship once we start putting in the time, the effort, the energy required to get that response back from our partner and so on. Unless we go through those challenges and ups and downs on the way, often we'll take it for granted. And then because we're taking it for granted, it becomes much, much easier to continually quit because we always see that, well, once I get this thing, I can never maintain it anyway. Or we never fully get to the result that we set out for, so therefore it never really feels worth it. It's like, oh yeah, well, I set a goal to get this thing, I kind of got halfway there, but it then just felt like it was too much effort for the reward that I received. But of course, if we're willing to push through, yes, we will get the result, which of course will give us that boost, that, that initial sense of happiness. But once we realize the changes that we made as an individual and we see that personal growth and development that we also achieved alongside that particular outcome that we wanted— losing the weight, earning more money, or whatever it is— Once we see that this is a multi-dimensional win, it makes it much easier for us to maintain in that recommitted stance. We, we find it much easier to, to recommit when we face future challenges or obstacles, and we're much less likely to quit when things don't go perfectly or exactly to plan and so on. So that's my question for you guys tonight: is your common response to quit or recommit when things get challenging, things get a bit dicey and spicy, and you feel like, hmm, this isn't as easy as I thought it was going to be. When you're faced with those moments, those obstacles and struggles, or if you make mistakes, are you likely to quit in the moment and give up for the day or for the week or the month, or are you somebody that recommits? If you can become that person that recommits, then essentially there'll be nothing that can stop you. Because if you just see everything as part of the process rather than an obstacle of the process or of the outcome, then it makes it the whole thing much easier because you don't fight with yourself. You don't battle with yourself all the time or feel like a victim or feel entitled to the outcome because it's so hard and, oh my God, I just wish it was so much easier. You just learn to deal with it. You build the strength required to work through these challenges. Rather than approaching them with this idea that you shouldn't have to go through it because you've already got hard areas of life that you're already dealing with and so on. So we almost accept it as part of the, the, the gift that we've received because we of course build strength of character, greater resilience, and, and mental and emotional endurance and so on. Plus it reduces the amount that our emotional pendulum will swing when we are faced with these challenges? Because that's another issue that many of us have. We're so emotionally responsive or reactive to these things that everything just feels like it's so much more of a drama than it really is. So that's my question, guys. Is your common response to quit or recommit? Let us know in the comments below. And of course, if you want to learn more about what we do, you can check us out at strongerthanlife.com. And if not, I look forward to seeing you all in my next video. Take it easy, people, and I shall chat to you soon.