LIVE Q&A Session: 23/12/2023 - #AskTyrone

Hey guys, what's up and welcome to this week's Q&A session. Now of course, today is 2 days out before Christmas, but don't worry, that doesn't mean this is going to be all Christmas orientated and all the rest of it. We've had a bunch of questions come in throughout the week and those are the questions I'm going to get answered. Just because it's Christmas time doesn't mean it's Christmas themed. Now the other thing to mention of course is don't worry if you didn't manage to get your questions in in advance, all you have to do is drop them in the comments right now And as I get to the end of this series of questions I already have, if you've dropped in any new questions, I will get those answered today as well before we wrap this session up. So I hope you've all had a good couple of weeks. Obviously, I was away last week. We didn't have a session. Surprisingly enough, no questions came in, but that's not a problem. We're here now. We have a whole bunch, so let's get into it. So our first question to kick us off is if you have the flu, what is the best thing to take? Uh, I'm taking paracetamol and lemons, honey, spider water mix. Okay, cool. So this is one of those things where it will depend on the individual in the respect that some people like to go down these sort of conventional medicine route, others like to try and do things more natural. I personally prefer to try to do things more natural. But regardless of the method or the route you choose to go down, the first thing that we need to do is make sure that our foundational health is ideally well taken care of. So in an ideal world, we would have already been relatively healthy before we got the flu. Now, that's not always the case, but of course, if we were already healthy, that would mean that ideally we've probably been eating pretty well at least 80% of the time. We've probably got a pretty good sleep-wake cycle going on, as in a pretty consistent sleep habit and routine. We're not binging late night TV all week and so on, and then getting up at different sporadic times and so on. And we're probably engaging in some form of physical exercise on a fairly regular basis. So that's given us a relatively good foundation. And then along comes this illness. We've now gotten the cold, the flu, or whatever the thing might be, and that will give our body the best possible chance to get over it as quickly as possible. Now let's say regardless of whether you are taking care of yourself prior to getting the illness or not, you've now suddenly got the blues come along, you've been knocked out, knocked sick, and you're struggling to overcome it. Or maybe you're just in that stage where you feel like you're about to come down with something. The first thing that I personally do is reach for this. So as well as obviously taking care of my health like I was just saying, this is going to be awkward with my camera like There you go, I'll bring my face closer, you should be able to see that. This is oil of oregano, oregano oil. I will either use this one or there's another version which is called Super Strength, so it's the exact same thing, same brand, but it's a more concentrated version. What has been found with oregano oil is that it's one of nature's most powerful antiviral, antifungal, antibacterial, antimicrobial, etc. So anything you have that might be a pathogenic invader, this seems to be very good at knocking it out, killing it, getting rid of it, and helping you get over that problem much quicker. So for example, if I woke up tomorrow morning and I feel a bit like, hmm, maybe my throat's a bit swollen, I feel like I might be coming down with something, or I'm suddenly having a stuffy nose, this is the first thing that I would grab. Now, not everybody enjoys the taste. In fact, most people hate the taste. It's very strong, um, and, and, uh, it's also very hot, but you do get used to it. And this is also something, um, kind of also something that I use as, um, when I'm brushing my teeth. So I don't use it every single day, but a couple of times a week I will actually put a couple of drops on my toothbrush as well, because a few years back I actually had a, um, a tooth infection. And the usual thing is, as you know, you get a tooth infection, the first thing you better do is rip that tooth out. Well, that's not how we play the game here. We like to correct things. So just because the body has developed a problem doesn't mean it can't get over it. Let's face it, the body is constantly trying to heal, repair, regenerate, and so on. So if we can often assist it in the correct ways, then we can give the body the best opportunity to actually heal itself without needing medical intervention and medicine and so on. So what I did was I started brushing my teeth daily with this stuff, and within a couple of weeks, the pain, the discomfort, the infection, and everything cleared up. Now, I'm not saying that's going to work perfectly like that for everybody, but literally it was a case of my option here is go to the dentist and they'll tell me to remove the tooth because obviously you don't want the infection to spread into the jawbone and blah blah blah, which is fair enough, you don't. But I figured if I could cure it myself, then I would rather, rather do that than lose a tooth. So as I say, a couple of drops every day, started brushing my teeth with it, and initially I found that any pressure or heat or cold food items and so on, it would just be incredibly painful. And as I said, within a couple of weeks, that's pretty much cleared up and gone away. So now, just as a precautionary measure, every few days, I will use a couple of drops. I don't use it every day because you don't want to wipe out your body's own good bacterial shield. Because the catch you have with anything like this, with antibiotics and so on that you may get from a doctor, is they're, they're unbiased in what they kill, as in they can't differentiate between good bacteria, bad bacteria, and so on. So they will just kill whatever's in their way. Same with this. We need to make sure that we use it sparingly, um, or use it alongside a good high-quality probiotic or lots of fermented foods and so on, so that you're constantly replenishing and keeping your body's good bacteria levels up to an ideal standard, which of course will help your immune system. Now, going back to the flu, exactly the same thing. So if I feel like I'm coming down with the flu, the first thing I will do is you want to build up to this. Most people don't want this much straight away, but it comes with a, with a dropper. Again, so it comes with this dropper, and as you can see, you just drop. Now, when I feel like I'm coming down with something, I will actually take around this much at a time. Now, as I say, not everybody will want to do that straight away. That would be too much. I might be able to hack it. I would do that for about 3 to 4 times a day for a few days, and what that often does is stops the cold or the flu actually developing and really— now if I get caught out, let's say, and I didn't realize I was coming down with something, suddenly I just wake up feeling like crap, exactly the same protocol. 3 to 4 times a day I'll take roughly this much in the pipette, and you You want to then grab a mouthful of water and swish it around, almost like you would with a mouthwash. That's the word I was looking for. Almost like you would with a mouthwash. Swish it around the mouth and then just swallow it. Again, it is very hot, but it's very, very effective. One other thing that I often do at the same time, if I have it to hand, I don't always have it to hand, is to use this one. Into the camera. So actually, uh, so you can see it says Feed. So this one is Feed, uh, solution. And again, it's like a herb oil solution and so on, a herb and sports oil. And basically this one you just spray onto your hand like so, I rub it, and then I'll inhale it. Okay, so you like so, and that just helps to clear up anything that might be going nasty or anything going on in the nasal passage that might be nasty and pathogenic in nature. And this just helps to give you a little bit as well, so it helps to kill off anything that's bad or maybe irritating, causing problems. That way I get it ingested through the gun oil, then inhale it to help with the lungs and the airways, etc., using the thieves. So that's my personal approach if I'm coming down with something, or if my partner is getting anything, or any of my clients. They're the first thing I recommend. More so the oregano oil. That's more important, generally speaking, than the teas. But if you've got both, then I would recommend you take both of them. And of course, as I mentioned earlier, having that good foundational health platform where you're eating well, generally speaking, you're sleeping well, and getting some good regular exercise, um, is always going to be beneficial. So at least if you do get ill or come down with something, you've got a good foundation there that the body can use as a platform to bounce back from. If we have a large capacity or reserve available, whenever our body hits something and locks into a fight or flight response, which is exactly what happens when we get ill, at least if we've got a large reserve available, we're going to have a greater chance of overcoming it quickly because we have a deep store of resources we're going to be able to tap into. So that's it for that one. That is our first question. Maybe a little bit longer than I was planning, but at least we got there. So our next question, number 2: What if you're happy with how you are but your partner wants you to change? These are the sort of questions I love, um, because in reality we can kind of come at this from multiple perspectives. We could be like, you, why should I change for you? Like, it's my life, I'll live it how I want. And then on the flip side, it might be a case of, well, That may be a stance we could take, but what if we are genuinely showing up like an asshole? What if what happens in a lot of relationships is we start dating and obviously we're getting to know each other, but what we tend to do at the beginning of a relationship is show up as the best possible version of us with a guy that's, you know, sort of always happy and fun and exciting to be around, with money and life is, is, is good. But then what tends to happen as we get comfortable in a relationship and it becomes normal because we end up doing the same old same old every day, sometimes we can kind of lose the spark in the relationship and therefore we just start showing up like shit. As a result, the partner then is a bit pissed, and then of course they start feeling resentful and angry. Things change. We think that we're still being the same person, a lot of friends are still the way I was, but they are perceiving it different. And as a result, they're like, this isn't what I signed up for. And you're like, well, this is what I am. So the way I would sort of view this is, if you're happy, genuinely happy with the way things are in the relationship and the way you are then it might be a case where you need to sit down and explain to them you're unhappy and that's why you want to change. So in that case, maybe they'll let you change. If he or she wants you to change and you're not willing to change, maybe it's not going to work. What it could also be though is perhaps you're both actually in this position where you want the other one to change. And this often happens because because we stop showing up. And what I mean is we as individuals stop showing up in the way that we know we could or should that would enable or allow our partner or encourage our partner to act more in ways that we would desire. So maybe you want them to be having more fun, maybe you don't want all the snarky comments and the snapping and so on, maybe you want them to be more into you and maybe pursue you in terms of intimacy and sexually and so on, but maybe they've stopped doing that. So maybe you've built up some resentment and therefore kind of disconnected yourself from the relationship. They now pick up on this disconnection and now they start acting the same. So the problem that will often happen in relationships is when you both set these expectations of the other person, but the other person has no idea that these specific expectations are are expecting of me. So they're like, what the fuck, why don't you just do X, Y, or Z? And then we're like, holy shit, I had no idea you needed or wanted me to do X, Y, or Z. So if you just told me, perhaps I could have done something about it. So in reality, the first thing that we need in a relationship, whether we are happy or not, or they're happy or not, good communication. Now it can be tricky and difficult because often we don't want to get triggered or called out on our own bullshit. Sometimes we know that we're not doing the best, and we know that those awkward or tricky or difficult conversations are going to be needed, and often that will rub us the wrong way. You know, we've got this idea of what we expect should come from the relationship, but when it's not, sometimes it's easier to just disconnect. That's easier for us to do than actually address the problem and trying to correct it with our partner. Now you could say, okay, well, if you're unhappy, that's down to you. My job is not to fulfill your, your need for happiness, which is true. I do believe that each of us as individuals, it's our own responsibility to make sure we're happy. We should never outsource that to another person, because if we do, we're going to constantly be unhappy and unsatisfied because they're never going to constantly always along with what we want to decide. But that's why I say we need good communication, because sometimes you can come to like a mutual stance on things that will enable you both to get what you need from the relationship and also enable you both to grow within the relationship. Now, you probably heard me say before, I personally am very much of the belief that we should constantly be pursuing growth. Whether personal, financial, spiritual, in terms of health, or whatever it might be. I believe there's, there's always another level we should strive to, not to the detriment of living life, but knowing that there's more, and, and we have a constant pursuit for it. Yes, we have time off. Yes, gratitude. That's in our relationships, I think, is saying we should be striving to grow and build the relationship, at least in some manner. And this of course comes from a— the ability for you both to get ruthlessly honest about where you are in the relationship right now and where you want it to go. Then of course, between where you both are and where you both want it to go, you can then come up with some kind of middle ground that can close to get what you need. So whilst it would be nice to just go, screw you, that's your problem, if you're unhappy, which I've done a lot in the past, um, I used to be very good, um, at keeping myself disconnected from my relationships due to bullshit stories from my past and so on. But that was one of my skill sets. I was very good at not getting too emotionally involved whenever my partner would have an issue. I'd just be like, well, if you don't like it, what do you do? No one's keeping you here. No one's saying you have to stay. Why don't you just go? And of course, that doesn't lead to a good relationship in the long run, but sometimes you have to be humbled a few times before you learn your lesson. And sometimes we just need enough growth as an individual to realize that we're fucking up in these ways, and that maybe the way that we keep showing up isn't actually serving us to be our partner's needs met, nor our own. So yeah, whilst it would be nice to just say screw you, in reality the first step you need is good communication. So you need to find out why they want you to change. What is it about you that is now so triggering to them? Like, what is it they need you to change? And then it's the case of, well, are you willing to change in that manner for them? So that the relationship can level up, so that you can maintain a good relationship between the two of you. If you're not, as I mentioned earlier, maybe it's actually not the right place, but if you are, then perhaps between the two of you, you could actually build and grow something that is worth holding on to and showing up for each other on a regular basis. So that's it for question 2. So our next question is number 3, uh, Seems to me it's good to have the right people around you. Try to stay away from the negative and go towards the positive. How do you not let the negative in? I myself shut down or walk away. Okay, so let's look at this. There are several parts. So, I myself shut down or walk away. Now, of course, this is a way to deal with negative negative experience, shut down and walk away. The catch is, have you actually dealt with the problem? And what I mean by that is, if, if it's just simply, oh, it's a negative person, I don't want them in my life, I don't want to get caught up in that energy, then yeah, you can kind of just turn yourself away. But if it's something that you are actually emotionally engaged with, and then you just shut down and walk away without actually processing it, then that could be an issue. So if you're literally just suppressing the negative emotion you've had based on the negative emotions, you're just stuffing down those negative emotions but not really addressing them in yourself or in the exchange or the conflict, then that might not be the healthiest way to do it. Because of course what happens over time is we just store up these negative energies in these blocks. Often over time they will manifest as physical problems in the body, energetic and physical issues in the body that prevent us showing up and being the best version of ourselves. Now I know that best version of ourselves is kind of this very nice idea type thing, but the truth is we all want to be the best possible version at any any given moment. But we can't do that if we're constantly stuffing and suppressing emotions and not actually fully processing them and allowing them to naturally pass and actually clear. If we hold on to them, they will manifest as problems later. So, uh, it seems to have the right people around me. Yes, so having the right people around you is of course the ideal. If you can surround yourself with people that you resonate well with Now, sometimes, unfortunately, if we are stuck in a negative state, then it's negative people that we resonate with because they're at the same energetic level. But of course, if we want to grow beyond that, we have to associate ourselves and deliberately put ourselves in the environment of more positive people, those who have a vibrational energy above that of our own, which can then help to elevate our own energy. And of course, us seeing how they live and how they experience life and help to inspire us to show up differently and therefore live life in a similar manner, not necessarily identical, but kind of modeled on what you see them doing that you aspire to be like, and then that can help you to elevate your positive state or elevate you from that negative state into a more positive state. So yes, having the right people around you is key. Now, should you Stay away from negative people. Part of me says yes, because it's just easier to deal with life. I avoid negative people, I don't have to deal with negative energy. But at the same time, I think it's more important to have the power to also associate with negative people but not be negatively affected by them. So if instead you can raise your energy, your positive energy, your vibrational energy above that of that negative state of the other, to the point where, where their state has no effect on you, then I think that's a more powerful way to show up as an individual rather than just simply avoiding. Now of course in the early stages it might be a case if you need to avoid it for a while until you've sort of built up that resilience and maybe learn some skills where you can become more the observer of a situation and not the engager in the situation. So what I mean by that is you might be in a situation or an event that's triggered you and so on, and it's negative, but you're not emotionally affected by it. Because instead of being wrapped up in it and feeling like you are part of it or you're a victim of it and so on, instead you learn almost how to observe it from the outside, and you analyze and respond rather than just simply react based on what's happening in the moment. So we give ourselves that moment before our decision to reply, to actually observe what's happening and critically think and feel about what's going on so that we can respond in a more mature manner rather than just simply get caught up in it all and get wrapped up in everybody else's negative emotions. So that's the way I would sort of recommend you tackle this personally. This is very much how I see— it's a different thing, but it's very much how I see the alcoholism thing. So from my understanding, based on friends I know who have gone through, uh, Alcoholics Anonymous and so on, to my understanding, the idea with Alcoholics Anonymous is, well, you are an alcoholic, so therefore you can never touch alcohol again because you're an alcoholic, right? And you'll always be a victim of it, so don't touch it. It's bad, it's bad, it's bad. Whereas I am more from the standpoint, well, would it not be better to teach this person how to stand on their own two feet and no longer be a victim of the alcohol? So instead of being like, I can never touch it because I'll end up falling all the way back in again and going back into my pit and once again becoming this alcoholic, would it not be better for me to be able to engage in the act of drinking alcohol should I choose, but because it no longer has any power over me, I can choose to stop at any given moment without a negative emotional cascade occurring? Rather than being fearful of it and always being a victim of it. Now, of course, I'm sure, not being an alcoholic, I don't know the whole experience. Maybe for those who have been in the game and had problems with alcohol, they're just like, yeah, better off just staying cold turkey and so on. But from an energetic perspective, you're remaining a victim of that thing and allowing it to have power over you. So this is the same way I would view this thing with negative people and so on. Yes, sometimes it's just better to remove yourself from the situation, but at the same time, I think it's more important to develop power to sit in those situations or in those pockets with people and not be negatively affected by it, which of course might take some skill and time. I've got, of course, development of skill over time, but I think that's a much better place and more powerful place to sit in as Cool, right, so that's for question 3. Question 4, uh, what we got here? Oh, going back to the pro, etc., should you rest or should you still do things? I suppose I should just listen to my body. So the obvious answer here, based on what you said, is yes, listen to your body. That is always key. Um, With regards to this idea of listening to your body, I believe it should be the same with food, should be the same with exercise and so on, because our body is constantly communicating with us through the language of symptoms. So whenever we have a particular meal, our body will actually give us symptoms or feedback based on how we feel, how we continue to function, and so on. Same with anything we drink, same with when we engage in exercise, same if we get 5 hours sleep 9 hours sleep and things like that. Your body will tell you what's right and what's wrong. And with the storm, it's kind of the same. Of course, you're ill, you feel like shit anyway, so there is a large part of it that isn't going to want to do anything. You will not feel like you have the energy to do much. So from that perspective, yeah, cool, chill and rest. But at the same time, some people will actually find that if they do do some form of kind of light exercise exercise or engage in sport or activity, they will actually get over the issue quick. One, doing more sometimes helps to lessen our symptoms because the body now has more experience having things it's doing, more things it's experiencing, and therefore having to process and analyze. If we're engaging in more, that can sometimes perceive— or sorry, that can sometimes appear to lessen our symptoms And that's just because my body can't give you 100% of all symptoms and experiences at the same time. It's a bit like if you fall over and cut yourself and then your mum would say, oh, rub it there, rub it there. And in the moment, whilst you're rubbing it, it does actually feel better. The pain from the cut lessens or even disappears, and that's because your body can't show you the pain and show you the sensation of being rubbed at the same time. Then you're not able to analyze them and possibly start experiencing both at the same time. No different with the illness versus exercise and so on. So as you begin to engage in more activity, it's sometimes a case of you will then experience your symptoms of illness at a lesser level. Now, the flip, of course, is if you do too much, what you will actually do is push your body even deeper into that fight or flight response or what we would actually call a sympathetic stress response from the nervous system, the autonomic nervous system. Now, if you get pushed even deeper but don't have the capacity to bounce back from that, then of course you can sometimes prolong the illness or make yourself worse. So we do have to be careful. We don't want to go too crazy. But in my experience, both with myself and again with clients, some people, as long as you don't go too hard, can get away with doing some light exercise. Things like yoga, tai chi, and working type exercise rather than workout and so on. That can be great ways to keep your body moving and to help deliver additional nutrients and oxygen to the cells and so on that will enable you to pump the system more without necessarily engaging in heavy hard work that may push you into a— Number 5, uh, here's an interesting one. Lol, can someone steal your energy? I think you'll like this, but this is going to be— so John always has good questions. So can someone steal your energy? Now that is a good question. So with, with this game, we have to understand that we are obviously humans, and we are ultimately— if you studied quantum physics and so on, quantum mechanics, you all understand that based on that particular train of thought, that idea, that theory, that science, we are energetic beings, which is cool. But we are here having a physical experience. So with regards to can someone steal your energy, it's a kind of a yes and a no. Now what I mean by that is, based on this particular, um, field of work and so on, it would suggest that generally speaking, if you've got two individuals in the same room and one is of, um, high health and high vitality and the other one low, the one who is of greater health and vitality will bleed life force energy into that other person or leach energy too. So it's almost like your additional or abundance of energy will help to start healing them. Now, sounds a bit crazy and airy-fairy, I know, but at the same time, um, there seems to be a lot of evidence to support this and back it up. Now For most people, you won't really, you won't really notice it in the moment. What some people find is at the end of the day, though, so in my field, for example, um, I tend to be less affected by this than many I see. But what will often happen, because it's a field where you're working with people who are generally less healthy than you, what you are doing essentially is bleeding into them You're trying to help them and encourage them and so on, and you're giving your positivity to them because you want them to heal and improve. Same with doctors and nurses and so on, you know, in hospitals and surgeries and things like that. So what often happens is by the end of the day you're completely exhausted, and that is partially— yes, of course, because you've been working all day, but it's also because you've been bleeding this energy into the Now, it doesn't mean that you should fear this and be like, oh my God, I can't go around unhealthy people, that means that I'm gonna basically just drain myself. Because if you are taking care of yourself at the right level, you'll be able to bounce back and recover from this on a day-to-day or weekly basis. But in, in essence, yes, people can steal your energy, but they don't literally steal it. I mean, it's not like, oh, someone could just come and walk behind you and steal your energy from you, if you know what I mean. It's more a case of if you spend time with individuals who are of a lesser health status than yourself energetically, they will kind of borrow energy from your energetic field as it combines with theirs. And you might think, fuck, energetic field, what are you talking about? This is no different when you maybe walk into a party and for some reason there's just that guy in the corner, you just don't— there's something about them, just pop, the vibe is off. And that's essentially what this is. We pick up on subtle energies of people. The same thing has happened— we're all influenced by this energetic field around it. So as our energetic fields collide and mix met, then those who are of a greater level of vitality will reach into the others. And as I say, not something to fear, just make sure you take good care of yourself, particularly if you are regularly around people, especially groups of people who are of a lower vibration than you, or less healthy than you. That would actually manifest as Cool. So does that help? Number 6, we've got here: is adrenaline good for your health when you're getting older? Okay, um, so adrenaline, for those of you who don't know, also called epinephrine, adrenaline is essentially hormone neurotransmitter in the system, in the body. That is part of our fight or flight response. So whenever we are— we engage in a stressful situation or we perceive a stressful situation, the body will shift into a fight or flight response, or as I mentioned earlier, it will shift into a sympathetic state. So we have the autonomic nervous system, which basically regulates all of the involuntary actions of the body. Body. So we see a stress happen, suddenly that fight or flight system kicks in, which essentially diverts all of the blood and the energy and stuff to the working muscles in the brain, heart, lungs. Essentially, it's designed to prepare us to fight or flight. We're either gonna fight real hard or we're gonna run away from this danger. Now, adrenaline is part of that whole process. Now, is it good for your health when you're getting older? Simple answer, yes. It's good for our health all the time because it's an essential part of our survival mechanism. Now, the catch for most of us though, along with adrenaline, we have cortisol, we have multiple stress hormones. The catch for most of us, whether we're younger or older, is most of us these days are chronically in more of a fight or flight response than we are in a repair and regenerate response. So rather than be on that repair, rebuild, and regenerate side of the nervous system, we're stuck in the fight or flight, which means our physiology is often worn out, pretty stressed out, and so on. So if as we get older we continue to overly stimulate ourselves and we don't allow our body or support our body in the ways needed for it to repair, rebuild, and recover, then unfortunately what happens over time is of course our health will decline. Then we start getting stiff and achy joints, we start getting symptoms of inflammation, things like that. We may even develop metabolic illnesses and diseases like diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and all these sorts of things because we're spending too much time in that fight or flight response state. So it's not necessarily adrenaline alone, the fact that we're not managing stress works very well, both in terms of us managing it while getting actions, but also for our physiological response if we don't have good basic health available, which then therefore provides us with a good capacity to deal with all this. So adrenaline itself is not bad, and it's not even bad as we get older. Instead, what we need to look at is the overall response to stress and the fake coughs are part of that. So it's more a case of let's learn how to manage stress, keep our external stress where possible to a minimum, keep our body's ability to adapt to stress at maximum, and then that way, by, by cutting things from both ends, we have the greatest capacity and potential for adaptation to any given stressor, to be stressor sensitive. Right, final question so far. Uh, what we got here? Number 7: Anger, is it good for you or should you just let it go? So we spoke about just letting negativity and stuff go earlier. So again, as I mentioned, we don't just want to necessarily let it go unless we're doing it properly. Now, anger, is it good for me? Anger in reality is just simply a feeling. So anger is a feeling which we normally experience in relation to, or due to, something that we've experienced in our environment or within us that pisses us off. So it's triggered in some way, so therefore we express anger as a tool for dealing with that problem. Now normally it's because in some manner there will be a level of threat involved. Now it doesn't necessarily have to be a large level of threat, but there's normally some level of threat, and we will use anger as the tool to help us overcome or deal with that particular situation. We see this a lot with things like road rage. You know, you're driving down the motorway somebody pulls out there, they come off the slip road, pulls out in front of you, you have to brake. And rather than just be like, well, maybe they didn't see me, instead we're like, you fucking blah blah blah, you fucking idiot, pull over and so on. And we get pissed off because this person pulled over on you, made you jump out, you had to brake sharp. And then without going into it, we've often got a lot of bullshit baggage that we're holding on to that we haven't let go of that we then throw at the person. All this anger that's building up within us, and this person just pulled out on you has given you the perfect opportunity to now express some of that, which of course helps us get rid of some of it because it's not good to keep it inside. But again, like I was talking about earlier, we need to be maybe more strategic about how and when we use these particular tools such as anger. So anger itself is not negative. It's part of the human experience, and it is, in my opinion, we need to be able to experience all of our feelings. And of course, it can take time, especially for men, because we get so good at numbing them down, suppressing them, ignoring them, and so on. But if you can allow yourself to experience the whole spectrum of feelings, that way you're more likely to actually act. In the way that's needed for you to get the outcome you want. Because if you suppress your feelings, that's essentially another way of lying to yourself. Now, if you spend any time around me, you'll know that integrity is our number one step in anything that we do here. Integrity with self, as in aligning yourself with the truth and the facts, is number one. Both being able to tell it and experience it is key. Now, if you suppress feelings, that's just another way of lying to yourself. So you might be angry and pissed off about something, but just pushing it down and ignoring it, as I mentioned, is a way of lying to yourself and will not allow you to get the results you want. Because over time, you'll build up more and more stress, more and more anger, eventually leading to rage. And then what we end up doing is often attacking the wrong people with that anger, that stress, that rage that happened over multiple triggers in the past, and we now throw it out normally people we care about most. So anger itself is not bad for us, but we do need to let it go, as you mentioned, but having a process is important. So one of the things that we do here is use a process called stacking. Now it's essentially a conversation with yourself. It's like a form of journaling, but structured as a conversation. And what this allows us to do is actually look at what the fuck it was that triggered triggered us in the first place. Like, how did I grow up emotionally? Why did I get triggered by whatever it is? What made me angry in the first place? Then by doing that, we kind of— this is what led to it. But then it also gives us an opportunity as we go through this conversation to identify what were the specific facts that led to having this particular being state response or this emotional response. And then once we get clear on the facts of the situation, what we often find is our response was completely disproportionate or not even relevant to the result that we actually want. So by doing that, we can then choose to obviously respond differently next time when we re-experience a similar trigger. But until we've kind of gone through this process of learning, well, why was it I was angry? Sometimes even allowing ourselves to re-go through that experience and be angry again so that we can truly get it out and fully process it is one of the best ways to do it, rather than just push it down, suppress it, or big, big breath, let it all go, ah, it's all wonderful. Because yes, it would be nice if we could do that, but many, on many occasions, we're not really letting it go, we're just hiding it, we're suppressing it, pushing it down. So Yeah, anger is not necessarily bad for you. Instead, what's bad is normally our inability to effectively use anger to make sure that both we get what we want and the other person in our situation gets what they want too. So again, this comes with practice, and as I say, the tool we use for that is the Cool Cool Calm Back. We use it through an app and clients as well. If you want more details on that and how you can maybe use it for yourself, reach out to me, just DM me or drop a comment. I'll more than happily reach out to you, have a conversation about how we can get you hooked up with that app as well. But in the meantime, it's a case of learning over time how to become an observer of yourself. Because what we want to do, as I was kind of mentioning earlier, you want to be able to observe yourself almost as if you're not having that kind of a bonding experience. But you learn to observe how you engage in life. So therefore you can choose how you engage in life rather than just being pulled through life in different situations, scenarios, and circumstances that you feel as though you have no control over. So that's what we're after. So no, anger is not bad for you. And should you just let it go? Yes, you should, but only once you've processed it properly. So I hope that helps. Now That brings us to the end of our questions that I had ready to go. Just double check up in the comments here, make sure nothing else come through, and if it hasn't, I'm going to let you guys go and go about the rest of your— Okay, brilliant. So it looks like there's no other questions, which awesome. That means I will let you guys go now. Now, of course, the 23rd is— hope you guys have an awesome Christmas. Of course, Christmas is in the next couple of days. Hope you guys have a great Christmas, a great New Year. If I don't happen to see you or speak to you before then, um, I much appreciate you all spending your time here with me as always. And of course, you'll see me back in here tomorrow with my next video. Thanks for watching, people, and I look forward to chatting with you soon.