You might already be flirting with someone’s chat bot

29 Aug 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Dan Novaes argues that artificial intelligence could fundamentally reshape dating apps. He envisions a future where users feed an AI their preferences and the AI searches for matches based on deeper criteria such as personality, interests, and communication style, even explaining why a match is promising. He also highlights how AI already assists with profile writing, opening lines, and reply suggestions, and speculates that both parties might rely on AI to craft messages. This raises a core authenticity dilemma: when conversations are generated by assistants, are users truly getting to know the other person or merely an AI proxy? Novaes warns that dating platforms will need to verify human involvement in chats, distinguishing between AI‑enhanced matchmaking and deceptive chatbot flirtation.

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Dating apps have always asked you to choose: swipe left, swipe right, send a message, wait for a reply. But AI could completely change that process. Imagine giving an AI your preferences, then letting it search for compatible people for you, not just based on photos, but personality, interests, communication style, and what you're actually looking for. It could even explain why someone might be a good match. Then there's messaging. AI can already help people write opening lines, improve profiles, and suggest replies. But this creates a strange problem. If both people are using AI to write their messages, who are you actually getting to know? The person or their assistant? Dating apps could eventually become better at finding compatible people, but they may also have to prove that the conversations happening on their platforms are actually human. Because finding love with AI helping you is one thing; finding out you've been flirting with someone's chatbot is something else.