Anger shouldn't be suppressed but trained like a weapon. Uncontrolled, it destroys your life. Harnessed deliberately, it becomes a tool for accomplishing what would otherwise be impossible.
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So I started to realize even before I got to graduate school that anger, if you could befriend it and harness it, you could get shit done that you could never get done otherwise. But if you don't, as my mother warned me, you will ruin your life. So it wasn't— and I've come to over the years come to appreciate that anger is like a weapon. It's like a knife. It's like a gun. You could be trained To become proficient with it. Yes, you could do damage with it, but you could also use it for good, reasonable, safe things. And so it's not an emotion to get rid of, it's an emotion to befriend. I mean, look, it's gonna be there anyway, so you might as well get good at it, and then you could use it for great things.