Boundaries aren't walls that shut people out. They're standards you defend, like surrounding yourself with people who respect you. The speaker argues that bad days and moments of dismissiveness are human, and self-respect means allowing space for those fluctuations while still holding your line.
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We set our value system, we have like our priorities, we go out there in the real world, and then we actually see which ones are sticking with us. Because like anything, we get a bit too excited and create this list and think this is what we want. I think my boundaries is going to be to make sure I'm in a respectful environment and I'm around people who are respectful. But like the human experience, you're going to have days where you're, you know, not necessarily disrespectful, you're going to be more dismissive, avoidant, and that's okay. Allow the space because that's— you're still respecting yourself. So it's just really understanding the human experience before we're going into integration and choosing those boundaries or values or beliefs that are very important to you because you've had time to experience it in the real world.