Utkarsh Narang argues that time alone doesn't heal relationships. Instead, sit across from your partner in silence, maintain eye contact, and notice what comes up physically and emotionally. This vulnerable exchange surfaces anger, grief, or tears and creates a foundation for real conversation.
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this statement that time will heal, because we almost use time as a crutch, that we will not do something about it, but let time heal it. What should they start doing?
Well, I would say the first thing that they should do is they should sit across from each other without words. They should look in each other's eyes, and they should just be in silence and in presence with each other and just notice what's happening in their body when they sit and look at their partner. There could be a lot of emotions that could show up. There could be anger, there could be grief, you know, there could be tears, but just be with each other in silence for a moment and see what you see on this person's face. Because we don't do a lot of that. We show our emotions through our eyes and through our face as well, right? And it's a beautiful thing and also an incredibly scary, vulnerable thing to do. It both provides you a lot of information, which is another starting place to start the conversation.