Jenae, a sex and intimacy coach, rebuilt her marriage after 26 years without sex. She explains how couples drift into obligation-based sex, then stop entirely, and why naming the problem early matters. Intimacy is a skill you can rebuild at any point.
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There comes a time in a marriage when sex stops feeling like something you want and becomes something that you owe.
We stop making it a priority because we think everything's gonna be fine, it's gonna take care of itself. I mean, we're lazy, right?
You used to reach out to each other, now you reach out for the phone. And nothing's broken, exactly. Life, it just happened. The bills, the kids, and between the calendar, you lost that spark. And somewhere in the middle of all of it, the two of you This is Jenae. She's a sex and intimacy coach, and after 26 years in a sexless marriage, at age 50, she started to rebuild everything. And in our conversation, she says that most couples don't make it past stage 2.
We have a lot of obligation sex in this stage of our relationship, again, because we want to continue to validate that we're important to this person.
And the longer you wait to name it, the harder it gets to find your way back.
Intimacy and sex are skills that anybody can learn.
So what if this isn't where the story ends? What if passionate intimacy is something you can choose right now? Let's begin.