When fear or difficult emotions arise, respond with curiosity and kindness instead of fighting them. Tell yourself "I hear you, I love you" to quiet their intensity. Treating fear as a protective friend rather than an enemy creates mental space and opens gentler ways to respond.
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So if you treat your feelings, your emotions, your physical experiences with love, with tenderness, with nurturing them and feeling like, oh, I hear that you're so afraid. I love you. And I really appreciate what you're trying to do is you're trying to protect me. It's going to get quieter. The more you fight it, the louder it's going to get. So that's why I say like, you have to become friends with your fear, with your emotions, with your physical feelings. The more that you and allow them to be on your side and be on the same side, then you're going to be able to work together more creatively, more gently. You're going to have more breathing space instead of trying to force them into anything, which is only going to make it so it's a wall. It's like, feel like a wall. That's why you feel like you can't move.