When painful things happen, stop asking why and ask what they're teaching you instead. The speaker tells Utkarsh that healing means trusting your subconscious to process the experience without overthinking it, and reframing unfair moments as lessons that shape who you become.
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And so I would say, in order to allow the healing in, let it become something that takes care of itself through your openness, through your curiosity. When something is happening to you, and it's so common sense, I read it so much, Utkarsh, because I was like, and I didn't really like it. I thought, you know, and the phrase is, be so— don't ask why this is happening, ask what is it teaching me? And I really sideline that as too simplistic, but for me, being open and being curious, not accepting that this may have no logic right now in hindsight, but in the long term, this breaking, this opening, these unfair circumstances has a part in my overall life architecture, in the being and the reason for why I'm here. And if you do not feel capable of healing, because healing is a very difficult very ambitious, sometimes romantic term that we use. I invite you and I ask you to be curious. What is this? What is this teaching me? How can I listen? You don't have to process it. Your mind and your subconscious will do it for you.