Utkarsh NarangFounder, IgnitedNeurons · Your best doers become your worst managers as you scale. I turn them into leaders so your best people don’t leave.

What is Self love?

18 Jun 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief monologue, the speaker argues that self‑love is fundamentally the practice of caring for the "emotional child" that resides within each adult. He describes this inner child as a 6‑, 7‑, or 8‑year‑old emotional perspective that perceives the world differently from the rational adult mind. Self‑love, therefore, means reassuring and protecting that inner child—telling it that everything will be okay and that the adult self has its back. The speaker also contrasts emotional intelligence (EQ) with intellectual intelligence (IQ), noting that many people possess high IQ but low EQ, leading to widespread emotional dysfunction. The central claim is that cultivating emotional IQ by nurturing the inner child is essential for genuine self‑love.

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those of us 21 or older, have an emotional 6-year-old, 7-year-old, 8-year-old inside of us that views the world from that emotional state. And self-love is the capacity to take care of that little 6-year-old inside of us and say, hey, everything's gonna be okay. I've got your back. You know, your big brother, your wise— Your back. Because on an emotional level, and my belief system, we are swimming in a sea of emotional dysfunctionality for most human beings. They haven't, Truly cultivated their emotional IQ. Many people have high intellectual quotient but very poor emotional quotient. And the reason why it's called self-love is because of that emotional 6-year-old inside of us, and it's to nurture and take care of that 6-year-old. That's what that represents in my viewpoint.