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Why Being Yourself Is Harder Than You Think!

18 Aug 2025 · 1 min

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In this solo reflective talk, the speaker examines how societal expectations—such as being required to marry a man or a woman—create an early internal sense of alienation for many people. He explains that this "internal alienation" stems from a mismatch between prescribed gender/relationship norms and an individual's own biochemistry, physiology, and psychosocial makeup. From this premise, he defines authenticity as the act of being oneself in spite of one's vulnerabilities, not because one is free of them, and also as being okay with oneself regardless of external validation. He argues that before attempting to champion allyship for others, one must first confront and work on the personal areas they consider "shitty" or weak. The speaker notes that he has previously explored these ideas on LinkedIn and has incorporated them into a curriculum used in his conversations, positioning self‑reflection as a prerequisite to effective allyship.

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Imagine you, you are born and you are told you need to, and you need to get married to a man, or you need to get married to only a woman. Yeah. But your biology, your biochemistry, your physiology, your own psychosocial makeup has already started with a dissonance checkpoint already. तो ये व्हाट यू सेड इंटरनल एलियशिप, वेर विल इट कम फ्रॉम, राइट? एंड देन वेर विल ऑथेंटिसिटी कम फ्रॉम। सो ऑथेंटिसिटी इज़ यू बीइंग यू इन स्पाइट ऑफ़ योर वुल्नरेबिलिटीज़, नॉट बिकॉज़ ऑफ़ देम। ऑथेंटिसिटी इज़ आल्सो यू बीइंग ओके, नॉट बीइंग ओके। एंड हाउ यू सेड Do I need to label everything? You know, so that is where this whole call— and I've spoken about this on LinkedIn, I've written about it, I do this as curriculum in my conversations— that like before we go out there tom-tomming allyship for somebody else, first let's talk about the things you think you are shitty at, at one, or