Why Your Brain Resists Growth (and What to Do)

Thousands of years ago, tens of thousands, twenty thousand, hundred thousand. While our brains, how our brains evolved because evolution takes a long, long time. We evolved to live in tribes, and it was very, very important that we remain among that tribe because that meant safety, that meant food, that meant you know our families taking care of all of that. And if we say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing, we get you know kicked out, and that meant death. You know we have to face the saber-toothed tiger or Whatever the elements are on our own. That's— we won't survive, probably, most likely. So right now, any mistake, any bad feedback, anything that happens, our brain doesn't have the capacity to perceive it in any other way than a threat on our lives. So we treat it like that. And if you notice, notice it among yourself. Notice how when somebody says, you know, you did something wrong, or gives you feedback, or you say something and it's not received the right way, notice what happens with you and notice your defenses and notice how you're like, You want just— we seek the approval and we seek people to like us who don't have any presence in our lives and don't mean anything to us.