The right way to reflect. Ask what instead of why

Name: The right way to reflect. Ask what instead of why
Uploaded: 2021-05-30T03:10:20+00:00
Duration: 1 min 45 s
Channel: Utkarsh Amitabh
Description: Utkarsh Amitabh argues that asking why something happened to you is a dead end. Instead ask what you can do about it. He breaks reflection into a simple…

30 May 2021 · 2 min

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Utkarsh Amitabh argues that asking why something happened to you is a dead end. Instead ask what you can do about it. He breaks reflection into a simple formula: pain plus reflection equals progress, and pushes you toward small, concrete actions on what you control.

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Hi everyone. My name is Uttar Sh, the CEO of Network Capital, here to talk to you about reflection. I spent a good chunk of my Saturday and Sunday thinking about the week. What did I do well? What could have done better? Pain plus reflection equal to progress is a really important mental model for me and for Network Capital. But I've noticed that many of us reflect in the wrong way. We end up asking ourselves, why me? Instead of asking a more proactive, actionable question, what can I do about it? I noticed that especially when I'm feeling low, when I'm having a bad day, there's a small part of me that wants to go into that little hole and ask myself the question that really doesn't have an answer. Why is this happening to me or my family or my country? So I try and check myself when that happens and ask what can I realistically do to make the situation better or improve? Without challenging, you will remember that there are some commonalities between the way we Explore choices in 101, differentiating between things you can control and things you can't, and the way we process and reflect in a more actionable, practical way. So this weekend, as you reflect on the week gone by, I I urge you to check yourself anytime you want to go into that inner shell and ask yourself a question that have no answer, like why is this happening to me? And ask yourself a more specific question. What can I do? What micro action can I take right now to improve my situation tangible? Try this and let me know how it goes. Take care and talk to you soon.