Courageous Confidence & Self Worth | Damon Manely mixdown 1

long today, you guys. I am so excited. I'm not gonna be able to sleep tonight because we're starting off with Damon, and that's going to set the tone for the day. We're going to be talking about— let's see, um, at noon Pacific time we'll have ADHD and Sex. At, um, let's see, 1:30 PM Pacific time we will have Rise Up with Fallon Summer. That's super fun and a lot of just like super high vibe energy. And then at 6 PM Pacific time we are going to have Mr. Bradley down here. He is literally my twin, you guys. He's my twin, just maybe not as hyper as me in a different way. But my twin down here, Bradley Page, is going to be in the room. We're gonna be talking about ADHD and addictions. So yeah, Lisa, if you're available, we'd love to have you come as well. I know it's kind of late, but it's gonna be amazing. So yeah, ADHD Rise is going to be incredible. For those of you who don't know me, my name is Val Nichols. I am a business coach for multi-passionate and ADHD entrepreneurs and business leaders like my girl Lisa down here. And we are super pumped. And this is Summer Christiansen to my right. She is an ADHD parenting coach. And you guys, when I tell you that she's the bomb.com, like, I am not exaggerating. And I'm so honored to have these 2 people up on stage with me because these are 2 people that I've gotten to know better through Clubhouse. Um, and I'm just really proud of the people they are. And let me tell you guys that they are exactly the same people when they're up here as they are in their real life. Like, I know that. I see them. I know them. And they are incredibly genuine. And, you know, speaking of that, I want to just— I'm curious to know If there's anyone here in the audience who has ever gone through something, maybe it's an experience, you know, growing up. Maybe you felt like, oh my gosh, I talk too much. I don't quite fit in. I don't really know where I fit. I have all these friends, but I just don't really know where I fit. You know, maybe you were really smart, like you were top of the class. And then if you were like myself, or, you know, like Dan, And, you know, maybe around the time you were a teenager, you were like, screw it, I don't care. Like, I don't want to be— I'm not confident. I'm, you know, all these things. I don't feel like I fit in. I'm masking. You know, maybe you started picking up things like being a people pleaser or, you know, really struggling in relationships, right? I mean, you know what it was like to be 16 and feel rejected in a relationship, and then that just kind of proves to you What it is that you feel about yourself, right? And with each struggled relationship, it just piles on that fear of rejection, right? And then at the end of each one of those relationships, it would be that much harder to try and pick yourself up and start again. And, you know, that's exactly what happened for Damon here. And about a year and a half ago, he decided to turn the page. pick up the pen and write his own story. I'd love for you guys to say hello, give a warm welcome to Damon the Man Manley. Damon, hello.

What is up? What is up?

What's up?

Thank you for having me, Val. Man, what an introduction as well. I'm like getting myself pumped up now for sharing with you guys and being here. So Yeah. Thank you for having me, Summer. What's up, Val? Everyone in the audience, thanks for hanging out with my clothes as well. Did you go ahead?

Oh, yeah. No, I was going to say, so for those of you who don't know, Damon is an ADHD coach, and you guys, he's incredible as well. I know he's not the type to pitch himself, so he does work with people. I believe specifically with teenage guys, with teenage boys, right? You have that special place in your heart for younger guys.

Yeah, that's where my heart is. And I'll dive into that too in the story about kind of why. But yeah, I am an ADHD coach. I do right now work with adults all over the world via Zoom. COVID, if anything came out of it, Good, it was Zoom. And so I've been allowed to meet people all over the world and work with some amazing ADHD brains. And yeah, right now I do have 2 of my first teenage young men that are diagnosed with ADHD and having very similar struggles to what I'll talk about here in just a minute. And my story that I'm about to share is actually very pertinent to why I want to be in that niche, in that age group. Um, and really empowering and encouraging, um, young men, um, with ADHD that, that it's not maybe what they grew up knowing it to be and that kind of thing. And, and maybe not struggling as long as I did with the self-confidence and the self-image. And, um, you know, I feel like if we can make that kind of impact and on that generation and even other adults as well, uh, just imagine if more people had the same outlook and mindset that we did. Towards ADHD and what we could accomplish, um, together when it comes to, I mean, really the whole world, but then in the entrepreneurial space and the creative space and all that stuff. So, um, yeah, that's a little bit about me. Um, I've been doing that for about a year now. About a year and a half is really when, um, this journey took a turn for me. So would you like me to go ahead and get started or how would you want me to do that?

Yeah, I would love to know, you know, cause it's really easy and I know people do this. With me as well. It's kind of like, it's easy to look at you now, right? And go, yeah, that's Damon. Like, he is the Winning with ADHD coach. He just hit 11,000 followers on Instagram. Everyone say woo woo! Oh my gosh, what a milestone. And I know, right? So, you know, it's easy for someone to look at you and go, yeah, but it came easy, right? Like, oh, he didn't go through what I've gone through, or somehow, um, You know, like there's a tendency for people to kind of separate themselves and say, oh, but that's Damon. That's not for me. I can't do that. You know, but I would love to know because I have gotten to know you and your story a little bit more. Like, what was it like for you growing up? What were the things you experienced? How did you feel growing up as a kid that, you know, didn't know you had ADHD? Because you guys, he got diagnosed later in life at 25.

Yeah.

You know, how did you feel?

Like, what was—

Absolutely. And some of y'all that were just in the live, you got to see kind of my whiteboard. It's been a really great last couple of days of just reflection and really drawing on my own story. I don't do it very often, so I'm selfishly going to enjoy this, first of all, for my own reflection and journal time. But yeah, so childhood. Like you said, I grew up not having any idea that I had ADHD. I actually thought I was the exact opposite of what ADHD was, right? Because I wasn't super hyper and I actually was, as I explain it on my website, I was at the top of my class when it came to grades and behavior, kind of the teacher's pet, the nerdy guy, right? Like, I enjoyed being a respectful, honorable student, making really good grades and The teachers, and I was part of the music club and stuff like that. And so I kind of flew under the radar there and did really well in my parents' eyes up and through 8th grade. I was actually kind of expected to make straight A's and to behave, and I was terrified if I got told to be quiet in class just because I didn't want to You know, get that condemnation from my parents. Um, that said, my parents were never married. I grew up in a split home and, uh, joint custody. Um, so I would go back and forth between my parents, you know, in the middle of the week. And so that lack of consistency that we with ADHD know very well, I knew at a very young age in a very different way, in that I was traveling every week, packing my bags and going back to my mom's or back to my dad's. Um, but in reality, also My dad was in the highway patrol and I didn't get to, to really see him that often. He was really, really busy on the streets and stuff like that. And so my grandmother had a big part in raising me, his mom. And she was very much a lot of the expectations that were there of legalistic and high standards and things like that. She, you know, I grew up going part-time to a Catholic church and the other part I was going to kind of like a non-denominational church, right? So one was very hurrah and free-flowing and free, whereas the Catholic Church, if anyone knows, it's also just very structured and definitely like they have expectations, right? And there's a lot more things we need to do and stuff like that. So she definitely had that culture as well. So this idea of people pleasing came to me very, very early in that I knew very much what was expected of me by my parents. And so that, to be said, was like, again, just where that people pleasing came. And I performed very, very well and learned how to mask at a very young age. And at about 4 years old, I went through a custody battle, kind of this thing that got to this joint custody idea. My grandmother actually accused my mother of abusing me physically. And so I don't remember much about that time for about 18 months. And, but I do remember what the result of that was. And the result of that was a lot of tension between my parents. And every time we would meet to change hands and things like that, right, they may be arguing or things like that. And I would feel like the mediator. Which again leads to this idea of RSD that I often talk about. I think that was the root. I've diagnosed that as kind of like the root of my RSD is wanting to mediate and be a peacekeeper and not feel that my parents were fighting because of me.

Right.

And so I would try my best to keep both sides happy. And yeah, so fast forward into schooling and into high school. Again, I had another big milestone of kind of this people-pleasing aspect where I hadn't been seeing my dad very much, but I wanted very much a relationship with my dad. And so this time came when they realized the consistency was having a big toll on my grades. And I say big toll, I wasn't making straight A's anymore. I might have made my first B in 8th grade, right? So it wasn't a big toll, but it was a massive red flag to my parents. And so they were like, we need more consistency. And so it was up to me to decide which parent I was going to go live with. And a lot of you do know me. And if you can imagine what it means to me to have to decide between my parents, in my mind, I'm telling one parent that I love them more than I love the other one. Right. And so not to mention that for probably 6 months to 8 months, I didn't think it was even an option that I could live with my dad. So I was telling my mom the whole time that, you know, I'm coming to live with you and I'm going to go to this school and this is what we're going to do. And my dad will be okay because he doesn't see me anyways. Well, then my dad found out and he confronted me about it. And again, he kind of even put that thought in my head like, okay, well, why don't you come live with me? Why do you think that's so unrealistic? And that, you know, in my head I'm like, man, that does sound good. I, uh, because I've never had a relationship with my father. Um, nothing, nothing intimate, right? It was just like he picked me up on a Friday and we'd go to the movies and he'd bring me back to my grandmother's house and drop me off. So I then blindsided my mom one day on the way to school and told her, hey, like, I think— she knew it. She could tell in my, in my voice that, like, what was happening, but she wanted me to say it, right? She wanted me to to stand up for, for that. And so I told her, like, I think I'm gonna go live with my dad full-time. And I did. So I moved to Orangeburg, South Carolina, which I'm not sure anyone here knows what Orangeburg is, but it's the biggest, the biggest county in South Carolina, but also like the most rural. There's like nothing there. Uh, there was a Walmart and my school, and we had Chick-fil-A, and that was really it. And so I went to live there. And I actually, that's when I had my real first encounter with ADHD. My stepbrother had ADHD and it even more reinforced my idea that I didn't have it because he was very much the hyperactive type. And I wrote down on my board right here what I was trying to reflect on, what I was thinking whenever we would spend time together. He was much younger than me, but I definitely remember, like, I would describe him as annoying and really, really bad. And, um, But he was also a really, really awesome athlete and he was really clingy, right? So now, and then we'll get to it in a little while, like what that feels like to me now, having a little brother that I used to like think those things about. And now that I, you know, I have some of that. So on that, I think I'll stop. This is maybe a good point to stop. That was my first point that I kind of really started to understand what ADHD was. Um, and I'll let maybe Val ask another question to see if that kind of answers. I have a lot more, obviously, but on that, I'll mute for just a moment.

Oh, can I make a—

oh my goodness.

Can I make a comment on that? Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Sorry. Um, so Damon, I keep thinking, so it's so interesting to me because I don't think I recognized until I was an adult that People that had ADHD weren't like super hyper and crazy, which for obvious reasons, um, I was super hyperactive and I was always getting into trouble. And the more people pushed me to be better, the worse I got. So I just think it's so interesting to recognize what your story is because I think it's so different for everyone. And like you said, like you were talking about, you didn't really, you never, it reinforced the fact that you didn't have ADHD because of your brother. So I just found that, I like, I'm kind of putting pieces to the puzzle together a couple times today. And it's so interesting to me. We have to own our story for whatever it is. And the more and more I've been on Clubhouse, the more I am recognizing that people, um, really did have, um, this masking ability. And I, I just think about the fact that I really did the opposite, which I was like, screw you. I do not care. The more you want me to be better, the worse I'm going to be. And so like I had the total opposite experience, but I think it's amazing because it speaks to the fact that like everyone's ADHD story is different and it's such a, a multifaceted, um, diagnosis. You know, so I thank you for your story, Val. Go ahead. I just, I wanted to put that out there because that he's illustrating that point so perfectly, contrasting those two things.

Yes, I agree with you, Summer. That's— I'm glad that you pulled that out because that was something that, yes, needed to be highlighted. So I love that your brain was thinking that and that you thought of that. And, you know, the thing that kind of stuck out for me was that And I want everyone to hear this because we're all at different places. I'm going to use Summer's quote here. We're all at different places in our lives and in our ADHD experience, our ADHD journey. And the thing that really was highlighted for me, Damon, is that telling your story is so healing, right? There's this beautiful thing that happens in the exchange. And I'm sure that, you know, Damon, as you said, you've been kind of diving into this and looking at your story and you sent a piece of it to me. I was so like happy to see that, you know, and I, you know, hearing your story, even like processing your own story as you speak it, something happens and we become healed. And in hearing your story, you know, you are healing people in this room as well with that experience. You know, we get to hear and there's this language of the heart where it's like, Oh my gosh, me too. You know, and it blows my mind that hearing your experience growing up, like, I didn't know things about you that you shared. And I'm very grateful that you did, you know, that, that confusing upbringing. And I don't know if this is everyone's experience. But, you know, maybe knowing that things are going on, but, you know, like, adults who are supposed to be your caretakers are telling you other things, or there's accusations being made, there's a lot of confusion, you're having to make very adult choices, you know, having to choose between parents at a young age, that's a hard experience. And that might not be everyone's experience, but I'm kind of blown away that we have so much in common with that. You know, there was a lot of weird abuse accusations, and then there was abuse, and then there was like just a lot of very confusing things in my upbringing as well. And I think that did kind of lead to— and I want people to like hear this thread. That, that leads to this almost like, um, person or, um, like it blows up the experience of not quite trusting yourself in your own emotions. So I think that that adds to not being, because you're not really paying attention to your own, how you're showing up and how you're being. And I don't know if that was your experience, but, um, I just, I wanted to highlight that for a moment because I'm imagining.

Yeah.

You know, someone who's listening is like, I don't know, am I? Maybe I doubt. I don't know if that's, you know, I don't know. And maybe that's why we don't see it sometimes because of the confusing information or, you know, the adults aren't capable of being able to really serve us or be the caretaker in the way we need.

Yeah, I actually 100% agree with that. And obviously, as most of us do, I realized there's some things that really small points I left out. One, in how I was feeling inside intrinsically during school, being that kind of smart kid at my age, that growing up, it wasn't necessarily the coolest thing to be the smart kid, right? I was kind of the nerdy one. I enjoyed video games. I wasn't super athletic. I wasn't well spoken. I wasn't confident, all those things, but they all kind of compiled on each other. We all know that we don't perform our best when we're not confident too, right? So it's so easy to tell that. So I always say that I was everyone's friend and no one's enemy. I think Summer mentioned it earlier too, maybe it was in the room we had right before this, that I never was a tribe. I never needed a tribe. I was very much scared to share with other people because I was very insecure of maybe if my feelings were real or not. Right? I didn't feel validated much, so I didn't share with people. And, um, but I got along with everyone, and, you know, no one knew me from, like, just who I was at school because I had no intimate relationships outside of that. But, and that was okay. I was fine with that for a while. All that to say, to lead to kind of where I left off before, you know, I got to high school, and, uh, that was a chance for me to kind of restart. I went to a new school. I had kind of this self-image of myself at my last school that, like, I wasn't stylish, I wasn't cool, whatever. But no one knew me at this new school, so I had a chance to kind of restart. And so I did. I went to this new school, another prep school, and I was super excited to play basketball. I never really had a chance to play. I might have been on the team, but I sat forever, never really played. I wasn't very good. I went to the school. I'll never forget the first day I got there, and I didn't know anyone from John or whatever. I didn't know who anyone was. Well, I ended up in an open gym playing basketball with all these guys who were on the basketball team and stuff. I was just playing because I was, you know, confident. No one knew me, and I shot the ball, you know, 3-point line 3 times in a row, back to back to back, made them 3 times. And the guy that I was shooting against, I didn't realize, was like the best player at their school. And, you know, that idea of not knowing, it like made me not care like who I was playing against. So I did that, and all of a sudden some confidence came over because they were like asking like, who is this guy? Whatever, whatever. Well, very quickly after I started going to school, I felt like, again, I was being a fraud. And so my confidence in my own head starts just naturally degrading because I'm like, they're going to find out that those 3 shots were just the only 3 shots I've ever made in my life. No, not really. But I was not that good. At least in my head, I wasn't that good. I didn't believe in myself at all. I still did really well in school, but it was a little bit more acceptable to do well at that school. I played sports. I did all those things. I got involved with, with girls and had relationships and things like that. And I definitely went from finding my identity and how I was doing at grades to the point where I could coast through and do just fine in school. But I found my identity now in the relationships that I was building. Which, again, if you can think about RSD and what that means, I went through probably 10 or 12 girlfriends in high school from 9th to 12th grade. Never once did I end the relationship. It was never my choice. So, again, just compiling that rejection and then storing it like, it's always my fault. It's always my fault. It's always my fault. And just building up this guilt of I'm not good enough and I'm just made to be rejected.

Right.

And so that was kind of the theme of my college years or my high school years. And then at home, I had a stepmother who didn't trust me at all. No, no idea why, but she would make false accusations. Um, and it was very emotionally abusive. And I didn't realize until this— until after I got out of school, because I'd been like kind of gaslighted into this idea that I, I was a bad kid and that I wasn't worth Worthy of trust or anything. In reality, I didn't do it. I stayed in my room and played video games most of the time. But some reason there was just this tension between us that, you know, I was having to put my phone on the counter at night and plug it in. They would go through it every night and look at all that stuff. My dad had a tracker on my phone as if I was some, you know, inmate, and that I had to be held, you know, accountable for all these bad things I was doing. But I had never— Really done anything outside of you know maybe telling a fib every once in a while. I had never experimented with alcohol or drugs or anything. My dad was a highway patrol officer for Pete's sake. I couldn't get away with anything, and so I was just you know I felt trapped in my own house from ninth to twelfth grade in that relationship as well with my with my stepmother, and I felt like I was the one again to blame. Maybe I didn't understand what I was doing wrong, but in reality I was just I was staying home and I was focusing on things I was interested in and. And holding in all the other stuff because I didn't want any drama. Well, then I had the opportunity to go to college, and first semester of freshman year, I almost failed out. I was on academic probation. I'm sure you can all tell why, because I get there, I have no accountability. I never had to study in my life because I was just decent at school and I could fly by the seat of my curtail. When I get to college and I'm on academic probation at the the turn point of the semester. And I was basically told either I pass or I come home and, you know, I find a job. And I did not want to do that. So I pulled it up from a 1.8 GPA my freshman year to a 2.1. I finished my freshman year with a 2.1 GPA average, or GP, like grade point average, I guess is how it goes. And so I passed, I got to stay. But during that freshman year, I had developed some habits of drinking and Hanging out with friends and really not caring about you know school. I had like I think Fanzo said earlier, I had a great time at school. I didn't care at all about my classes. I loved the College of Charleston, but not because of the classes. I would paint up for for basketball games and and hang out with friends on the weekends and stuff like that. But yeah, so one of the bigger turn points came in my sophomore year. I'm painted up for a basketball game. You know, hanging out and you know we beat LSU. Go Cougars that weekend. And one of the friends I hung out with was hanging out at another volleyball game the next day. And all my other friends that I live with and all that good stuff—they were out of town. Well, I'm sitting at home. I'm on Facebook as I normally am. I'm a loner. I was an introvert, so I didn't care to go out by myself. So I'm on Facebook and I see a picture of my friend Ricky and. 2 lovely ladies sitting next to him. And I'm thinking, as I usually do, I need to be in a relationship. So I'd see 2 attractive girls and I'd text him saying, hey, man, what you up to? Even though I knew what he was up to, I saw it on Facebook. I know he's at a volleyball game with 2 girls, but I knew he was an inviting guy. So he invited me to come hang out with him at his volleyball game. I did so. I didn't talk to the 2 girls at all. At all. Again, coming back to that confidence issue, right? I didn't even I don't know that I even looked at them the whole time, but for some reason I had this image in my head that I would go up there and woo them by hanging out with them in the volleyball game. But I don't know, I just wanted to feel that I was included, I guess. Well, fun fact, one of them is now my wife. Kelsey was at the volleyball game. If y'all know my wife Kelsey, if y'all have ever seen her, she's amazing, beautiful woman in my picture in my PTR. But I met her that night, and we, after the game the next day, went and watched High School Musical and baked cookies. And I found a new group to hang out with that I felt accepted in. And this is weird, right? Like, that's a little weird, right? In sophomore year of college for me to enjoy baking cookies and watching High School Musical. But I think it was who— it depended on who I was with. And I didn't feel this rejection from anyone, and I was able to kind of be myself and not put myself in a risky situation of drinking underage or feeling that I was going to shame anyone or disappoint anyone, that kind of thing. So, you know, fast forward, I hung out there for a bit and got involved in a new club and all that stuff and really was starting to feel like myself. Until I started struggling in school again, and I didn't know what it was. Like, I was then putting in the effort because I was scared that I was going to fail, but all of a sudden when I get into the test, I would, I would choke. I would like forget everything. And I think what it was is I was putting so much pressure on myself to perform from all the, you know, the structure that was built up around me from my parents and grandparents that I was so— I felt this pressure to Formed that I would, I would get anxious in the test. So I heard the test anxiety was— it could be solved from ADHD medication. So here's the second time that I was introduced to ADHD. And so I started experimenting with Adderall, took it twice without paying, I mean, without a prescription. One time was to pull an all-nighter for a test that I needed to study for, obviously, like it was in most cases. The second time Um, was to actually take a test, like a final exam that I had to pass or else I wasn't gonna pass the class. Well, I was very naive and I did all the communicating to get these pills through Facebook. And my dad, as y'all remember, was digging through my phone. So I went home for the— for Christmas, and he found out that I had bought these pills illegally, right? And that I used them. So in my head, you know, he confronted me about it and said, hey, if you need it, But he was very angry. So he says this, and he was very angry and very disappointed and didn't trust me, that kind of thing. And he said, if you need it, we'll get you tested. And in my head, there's no— like, I'm thinking, there's no way I'm going to get tested because now you think that I just want them for recreational use. And I did not want to be seen that way. So I was, I was holding in the shame now of, of going and getting these pills, even though they helped me, which then pushed it to 25 years when I finally re- Try to get diagnosed. So I'll stop there. The next, the next kind of like high point in people and then seeing the fruit that comes with it through in my own life with with social media and all those things that that builds confidence. The validation, the the messages y'all send me, the the comments and and conversations that we have hearing your guys' story and knowing that like. It's not just me who feels like an imposter all the time. We all feel like imposters at some point, it feels like. And so to— I've learned a lot of that from you guys. And so that helps me build confidence as well, and then therefore lets me go give that energy to other people. So, and then another area of confidence has been my marriage. My wife used to tell me she prayed for me to to show more emotion because after we got married, you know, the courtship was over with. There was no more, you know, uh, honeymoon, you know, season or whatever they call it. And so I got kind of emotionally cold, as I would describe it. That's— she probably wouldn't say that harshly, but I would say that, like, intrinsically I was feeling all these intense emotions, right? But I was scared to show them to her because I didn't want her to run away or whatever. And so it was all a stem from that RSD That Val mentioned earlier. I didn't want to feel rejected by my own wife, so I would mask my emotions even to her. Not that she would ask me to. She wanted to see me. She wanted to know me, but I wasn't even letting her into that. But after my ADHD diagnosis and then building this confidence, I'm like, I want my wife to see who I am. I'm tired of masking. Um, I want to feel safe in my own home, you know? And so for me doing that and then getting the validation from her also, again, Brings confidence. So that's where I'm at now. I'm here in this business and in this community and feeling loved by all of you, and then also feeling that I can adequately give love to people around me because of that. That community one is massive in that, and so I don't know. I'm kind of. Done rambling. I'm all excited about it and good to go. So I'm going to stop for a second and let myself process even what's going on and then hear from Val and Summer and see if you have any questions. I'd love to give some tips maybe towards the end if I can or whatever about some practical things that I did, but I'll mute for now.

Oh my goodness. I am in my office right now giving you a standing ovation. Guys, you heard it first here in the Winning with ADHD Clubhouse. This is Damon's Clubhouse. So click on that greenhouse up there, follow him, go check out his Instagram. This guy is incredible, you guys, and you just heard his story. And I am literally like having goosebumps with how much we have in common. It's really strange. And, you know, I know that a lot of people were served by this, and I'm excited to hear from people as well. You know, like what a great glimpse of, you know, pulling back the curtain and getting the VIP experience of who you are and what has brought— who is the man behind Winning with ADHD, you know, really getting to experience that with you. And there's moments where I felt like I was with you, like in it, feeling it, you know, feeling the same experiences. And I was, you know, I was getting emotional too, like, oh my goodness, I get that. Yes, yes, yes. And, you know, not to be Religious with anyone, but you know the the fact that your wife was right there with you praying for you to be a better man, like oh my gosh! That brings me to tears because you know I know I've been that wife. I know that people have prayed for me when I was in my my dark night of the soul, and you know the power of that is so incredible. The power of community and the power of being seen like you have created here in Winning with ADHD, where people can truly. be seen and know that they are validated. I know you say this is the safest club in Clubhouse. Yes, absolutely. And that is because you are the leader that has created that.

Yeah. Thank you, Val. And I was going to say too, like, it's actually— I kind of forgot what I was going to say. Now I'm like, listen to what you were saying. But yeah, I'm speechless. So I'll pass it on.

No, you're awesome. I always forget what I, I'm about to say. Actually, I forget what I'm saying in the middle of it. So you are definitely not alone with probably everyone in this room. So totally feel you. Yeah. Damon, thanks so much for sharing your story. I mean, it means, it means a lot when, when people can associate the story. I remember when you reached out to me right before, um, I don't know if those boys are your clients and you were like, You know, tips for talking to teenagers. And I was like, bro, just get to know them. Like, honestly, teenagers just want to be heard. They want to be felt, and they want you to listen. So when you develop a, you know, a relationship, you know, with somebody of trust and connection, that's what happens. And I think it, it goes to show In your own, in your own story, Damon, like, like, you know, Val was saying, like, with your wife, like, she was, was there with you, you know, and she had enough trust or she had a deep enough connection with you that she still wanted to be with you, which you should definitely go, okay, that, that's a win. Knowing how you feel about, you know, have felt about yourself in the past, and then knowing that, you know, like you said, she still wants to be here with me, I'm still worth it to her. And then having that trust and connection, it's so, so important. Like the room that we're doing in like an hour and a half, we're talking about sex, and my mom and I, that's who's speaking, we're talking about that trust and that connection that you need to have with somebody. for that. And, um, I just think it goes to show that that's one of the most important things that, you know, help us on our journey is allowing, allowing ourselves to trust. Because Val and I were having conversation yesterday and like the thing that she asked me, I was like, wow. Because I kind of, I, I see that I kind of pull away Not pull away. I stick with it. Um, and I allow them to get super close to me. And I'm like an open book with closed pages. That's what I, that's what I call myself. Um, so I, I totally, I get it. Like, I'm all out there. I'll tell you everything, but really I tell you nothing. So, you know, recognizing that, that connection, you know, with the people in your life, because, you know, you've experienced Some some trauma, really. Like the things that you you had to grow up with that shapes you, you know. So I really just wanted to like tell you thanks for your courage, you know, and keeping with it. You know, I said in the room earlier, you know, I've had to spend most of the month like trying to keep my head up and moving forward and not you know sinking back down. So I and I think that's part of it. You know, the journey is. It's not the destination, but it's what you learn along the way that is helping you and guiding you through it. So yeah, I just wanted to commend you for your amazing story and all of your— Gosh, yeah.

And then I want to hear from Chris as soon as I have this comment. And this is something You know, again, like not to this is not about religion. It's about you know I definitely believe in the scripture, and I keep thinking, and I had a word for Damon the other day. But um, I keep thinking of like that valiant warrior. Like literally, that's what I I see when I look at you, Damon, is that like you don't even see how much of a valiant warrior you are in this moment. But look down in the audience and look at each person that you've impacted, and this is just a fraction, right? Like you are that valiant warrior who is. Leading the way for so many. And, you know, that's such a gift for all of us. You know, we have some very powerful leaders in this room, you know, and, and we all get to kind of like open that space and, you know, do our craft, do what we're passionate about. And, you know, being that valiant warrior, because, you know, I'm gonna, I'm gonna call out my guys here right now and say that, you know, there's some amazing men in here, Damon, Ariel, like Bradley, Jermaine, Samim. I don't know, or Sam Samim. I don't know you as well, but I'm sure you are as well. And Fabrizio and Ashraf. You know, like the guys in here are paving the way because there's not a lot of men that are willing to step up or have the courage and the confidence to step up and say, "Yeah, I'm human." You know, and I think that's kind of a cultural. Like, you know, cultural defines that like men have to be strong and not cry and not show emotion, you know, very overarching. I'm being very stereotypical in general, but like a lot of times the men aren't as courageous and confident as you guys are. And you guys, I have definitely just learned so much from you and I admire that a lot. So thank you for being that. And You've got some fans up here. Let's hear from Chris and Ari.

Hey, um, so Damon hates it when I do this, so I'm sorry.

Not sorry. That was incredible, my dude.

So here's the thing, I have a background in storytelling, so he's like, hey, can you walk me through some stuff?

So I did, and I just wanted to say you nailed it times a million.

You're incredible.

And you got this, and I'm excited to keep supporting you down this journey of not only telling your story but creating new stories every day. My name's Chris, and I'm.

I love you.

I love you too.

Thank you, Chris. Yeah, and these are not just fans up here. It's only family. These two guys. Oh man, I love you.

Oh my god, that was. Amazing. You know, Damon, you you were like the first clubhouse ADHD. You know, interaction that I had, and you know, we hit it off real early. And in my clubhouse education, and you've been instrumental in in my clubhouse education because you know the room that you do is. Is, uh, or, you know, I can proudly say the room that I get to participate in, the room that we do, is, is, uh, it's so educationally based. And, you know, I know you hate when I do this too, but I'm actually asking because I want to know, um, you know, can you— the, the piece that you left out is the piece that You by nature would leave out is you know the the last chapter, which is you know from from the time you started winning with ADHD to launching your website better better done than perfect. And you know then you had I know you had this the mini mastermind or you know accountability. And I just you know I was blown away when I just heard and then saw your follower. Um, and I don't know the exact numbers, but that's— I mean, that's blowing it out of the water from when the last time I think I knew your numbers. Um, so I'm just really curious, you know, just what's going on in the, in the progression of your career, because we're just, you know, so excited. And you don't self-promote enough, and, you know, so we're just— Your self-promoters, which are pretty much everyone below you on the stage and below the stage, needs to know because we need to know what is Damon Manley doing now and what are the thoughts for the future? And I'm Ari and I'm—

Well, thank you, Ari, for putting me on the spot. Yeah, I love you guys for holding me accountable. And yeah, I don't talk about it. It actually is really important. The last chapter. I mean, yeah, I was diagnosed in May of 2020, and I spent about 6 months, 8 months to really dive into ADHD. And I felt so much confidence from it that I wanted to continue feeling that, so I wanted to learn more. Right. And so I kept diving into it, and I had always kind of had this dream to be a coach. And it wasn't really even just for ADHD, it was for entrepreneurs and leaders and people struggling with confidence. Because once I felt that change in my life, I was like, I want other people to feel this, right? Once I learned so much about ADHD, I was like, man, people with ADHD, we with ADHD need this more than even like, I can still help those entrepreneurs and those business owners and those people that are struggling with confidence even if they don't have ADHD. But we specifically need people that understand our brains to be able to tap into What makes us feel confident? What what is taking our confidence from us, right? It's not not even just the failures, right? Because we tend to be super resilient, but it's often like the the negative self like self love and we we burn out really quickly because we give you know give more energy than we take in and you know things like that. So I was like, I I need to labor in that in that industry, and that's that's where I am now, and. When it comes to the Winning with ADHD and the actual brand and kind of what this means to me, one is that RSD. Oh, gosh, Sev, I saw you sitting down there. So really quickly, I met Sev yesterday actually in a call, man. So this is cool that she's up here. But now I'm thrown off because I'm excited. But I started Winning with ADHD because the, the, the club itself, I, I kind of got addicted to this idea of putting myself in uncomfortable situations. And the most uncomfortable situation was, at the time, was public speaking. And so why not start a club and force myself to host topics every day and like kind of bull my way through this RSD, right? And hope that it goes well. And man, did it. Like, I Like, here we are again, and I'm sitting here talking about you guys, like Chris and Ariel and Val, Summer, Laura. I mean, you're all really, really awesome friends of mine that I've gotten to know fairly well in this club and in this space. And y'all have been such amazing supporters for me. And so now Winning with ADHD is mostly just a testimony to that journey, right? To winning over ASD, which is still a battle every day. It's not to say that I've made it.

Yeah.

And that anyone that, you know, works with me is going to make it or cross some finish line, right? Like, it's progress is, is, is not perfection. And so, um, my goal is just to help people see progress in their lives and find joy. And, and it doesn't even mean that it's like through any scientific, like, any groundbreaking material, right? It's really just partnership process and structure that I offer to my clients. And to anyone really in this community as well. Right. So that's what I formed those educational rooms around is process structure and partnership, which we're all partners. So I kind of got into a ramble there, and I'm sure I wasn't as concise as you would like me to be, Ariel. I'm working on the self-promotion. Yes.

Aside from self-promotion, I guess I'm really asking from a practical standpoint because I really want to know, um, you know, the, uh, the accountability thing you did, is— did that go as you expected? And, and, and, um, you know, do you have like the next round of it or something like that, you know, coming up?

Yeah, so I started the ADHD Winner's Circle, um, which is a group coaching. Uh, we meet twice a month on the first and third Wednesdays of every month, and last month was our pilot session. I think I had 5 pilot members, which is awesome. Got to know them really well. Some of them were from Clubhouse. I'm still going to be doing that, and it is open for anyone who would like to join. And if you would like that, you can send me a DM and I'll shoot you— or shoot me your email address and I'll shoot you an email with some awesome information about it. There's really cool things that go into it other than just the meetings. But I'm also trying to develop an inner circle kind of within the ADHD community outside of Clubhouse and Instagram and stuff like that, right? It'll be more in the form of a Facebook group, but it will be, you know, we'll have weekly lives and there'll be downloadable content there, more of like the tangible educational stuff, right? Whereas it's hard to do that on the Slack and on Clubhouse especially, it's hard to do that. But it'll be a place where, you know, I'm hoping to get it to 100 members within the next 2 weeks. So that'll be much, much— that's like a really small amount of money, but that's like That's just my goal is to build this massive winner's circle for ADHD that where we just like work on mindset together and grow together, hold each other accountable, things like that. And really just to hold a safe space for us to build community. Really, it's mostly for the people that are on my Instagram, the 11,000 people that are on Instagram that don't have and don't realize what's going on on like Clubhouse, right? Where we have this awesome community already. A lot of them feel alone. They just see somebody in a reel and they still don't have connection there. So, um, yeah, does that make sense?

No, that's awesome. No, I just, I, you know, I hadn't gotten the update and, and, you know, you've been away and I've been away and so that's great. And I will say one last thing, which is that, um, because I'm your self-promoter, um, if you click my picture, it has the link for the Winning with ADHD Slack channel and we'd love to have Everyone come and join.

Does anyone have questions on that? I don't know if y'all— it doesn't have to be about what me and Ariel just talked about, but anything about my story or maybe something, because I'm already feeling like maybe I left something out. I don't want to feel that way. So if you have any questions at all, I think you got a sense I'm a pretty open book. I know Laura and Sev probably had something they wanted to ask or share.

I actually— oh, sorry, Carrie.

Go ahead.

And actually, no, I did have a question. And I'm kind of new to the community. I didn't even know the community existed until yesterday. So thank you, Damon, for flagging this to me as a pure newbie. And I also wanted to kind of, before I ask my question, just thank the speakers for just I guess just not just creating a platform or the community or advocating for people like this, but honestly, for creating a space where I feel like that I could take my mask off and actually feel unapologetically normal for the first time ever, if that makes sense. It's a very rare thing to be able to feel normal. Around lots of neurotypicals. So my question is, based on kind of, you know, what you've shared, the journey and the decisions that you've made to get to where you are today, knowing what you know now, would you change anything or what would you change?

Well, yeah, that's a good question. And it's probably one that I've answered before. And so I don't have any regrets, so I wouldn't change anything. I kind of want to leave it at that, but it's like, I think I try to stray away from this idea of, like, when I was diagnosed, right, it's easy to start thinking through, oh, what could Damon have done from age 5 until 25 if he had known he had ADHD? How would my life be different? Well, yes, but that might not really be a good thing, right? I believe that all those things happened for me and it's made me exactly who I am today. If I could change one thing, I mean, I probably would have skipped all the data analysis school, really. I mean, that's really the biggest impulsive decision I made that I really didn't use. I did learn, actually. And I wouldn't give that up either because now I'm sitting here thinking about it. The investment financially that I made for that was well worth the personal growth that I got from it. It wasn't even the data analysis is what I learned the most. It was the, I mean, meeting that mentor who shared that verse with me, right? And gave me the new perspective. Like, that's what my whole entire story around was around. So if I give up even data analysis, the school, the 9 months of programming and all that stuff, like, I wouldn't be where I am either. Like, I actually probably would be far worse than where I was before. So that was actually one of the most pivotal things. So, yeah, I don't know that I would give up anything. I try not to have any regrets, and I don't. I don't. I feel very thankful for my journey to where I am now. So I know that's probably a cliché answer, but I can say that from the bottom of my heart. I don't know that I would change anything. So I'm going to mute. I know, Seth, I think you might have disconnected. Did you hear all that, Seth?

Yeah, I did. Sorry. I have a very loud 4-year-old. So, and it's also, it's about 7:45 in the evening where I am. So it's like prime time for my kid to want attention and be fed. So I have been listening. So thank you so much for sharing that. I kind of feel sometimes the same way. Like I was diagnosed quite late because I've got twin sisters who are a year younger than me who are Asperger's, you know, full spectrum of pick a mix of everything, right? You know, so They've had all the attention and all the focus and support on them throughout their whole lives. And for me, it was always about, you gotta try harder, we expect more from you, right? And being the oldest as well doesn't help. So I sometimes always, I sometimes wonder, well, if I was diagnosed earlier, would that have even changed anything? Or actually, probably the only thing would change was probably how teachers at school would, Would maybe adjust maybe their style to help me learn. I don't—I mean, I have no idea, right? So that's kind of what I was worried about—is you know getting diagnosed later on wasn't great. But what I did realize was is that I was diagnosed when I was in university, and then ten years after that, I went for a re-diagnosis. So that my work could, I guess, allow their HR budget to spend a bit of time and money on training that would really, really help me at a managerial level. And when I did the second assessment 10 years later, I seemed to have passed with flying colors because the judgment was that there was nothing wrong with me. And so, I'm kind of thankful that I did go through the process. Because if I didn't, then I would still be sat here wondering what the hell's wrong with me, or why is everything so hard, or why maybe I need to just work harder, right? I'm just not good enough. So I think, um, it— for me, getting the diagnosis was more vindication, um, and kind of a bit of a I told you so to my parents, um, who were really hard on me, um, more than anything else. It was more like a closure, if that makes sense, to the world being hard on me and me being hard on myself. But I think I wouldn't change that, if that makes sense. I'm glad that I eventually got around to it because I think if I got it done later on in my life, I would be undiagnosed right now. So yeah.

Yeah, no, absolutely. I think I mentioned like the amount of clarity I got, right? Everything kind of made sense once I got my Diagnosis and all those things that I had like internalized as my own fault and who I was and that defined me and that's my identity and all these things like it kind of gave me a bit of like like you said closure towards those things. I thought about a really really another part of my story that I'd like to share with you guys really quick, Val, if that's okay.

It's definitely okay.

We are here for you.

So last May, one of the things that also kind of changed my life and had a big deal with my, like, kind of developing confidence and self-image, which is something else that was kind of the theme of this, is what I believed about myself. And one of that was, like, I got back in the gym. And I know I mentioned a lot now, I didn't care at all about how it affected my ADHD, but obviously it helps my brain as well. But, um, I, I started going to The gym every day at 5 a.m. And for those of you that know me a little bit more than on Clubhouse, like you would know that that's still a goal of mine. Still try to go to the gym at 5 a.m. But what that did for me, it wasn't like this whole I have to prove anything to anyone else. It was more that I could prove to myself that I could get up that early and do something super hard, and I could build my confidence through that. Well, I remember the first day that I did it. I was meeting two other friends, three other friends actually, really, really good friends and driven, you know, individuals. Meeting them at 5 a.m. at the gym. And for all of my punk rock guys out there, I was listening to some punk rock on the way to the gym, a band by the name of Following in Reverse. And there's a song they have called Lose Yourself. And I was like, it's a screamo song. Well, I'm riding down the road at 4 o'clock in the morning, bawling my eyes out because somehow these lyrics just clicked in my head of like, I'm, I'm someone different. I am now someone who's proud of myself. And I think that for the first time ever, I told myself on the way to the gym that I was proud of myself for going to that gym at 5:00 AM, something that's not easy to do. And I think I actually meant it, right? Like we say sometimes that we're proud of ourselves for doing stuff, but like at this moment I actually meant it. And so I bawled my eyes out listening to rock music on the way to the gym at 5 o'clock in the morning. Because of like, it was just another one of those things that clicked for me. Like, there was just so much growth and like good happening during that month. I still say to this day, like, May 2020 is like, will probably be one of the biggest months of my life, um, just because, you know, ADHD diagnosis, the new school, the gym, all that stuff. Like, that is a pivotal moment in my life. And, um, yeah, I just thought it would be interesting to share that because like, I don't know if y'all ever felt that, but like being able to To to really tell yourself and believe that you are proud of yourself and that you love who you are, right? Like that was the first time I was able to say that. So that for me was like just a big moment, and I can't believe I left that out. But here I am. So I'm done speaking.

Oh my goodness! I love that, Damon. It's so true because it's like you know I often say that the the hardest journey we will ever go on is the 18 inches from our head. To our heart, like we can know all these things. Like we can you know know the affirmations. We can know that we need to love ourselves. But like actually really permeating that and knowing in your heart of hearts that you do love yourself and that you're okay—that is a huge shift. That's big. So I love that you shared that. And with that, we've got Miss Laura with her rose-colored glasses. Hello, beautiful girl.

Hi, um, sorry, one second. I'm just in the kitchen and my dog's— I've got a little pug and she's snorting in the background. Um, hi.

Yeah, no worries. Oh, are you, are you okay? You're good? You go. Sorry. Oh, I was gonna say, for anyone who's hopping in or newer, then, um, I just want to let you guys know this is the Winning with ADHD Club. We have Mr. Damon, the man, manly. This is his club. So if you're loving this conversation, hop on up to that greenhouse, follow him. Also go hop on his Instagram and you can be one of his many amazing followers. He has some great content over there and he does offer the winning circle. He's got a couple different programs. So yeah, definitely reach out to him if you're resonating with his story. And we will hop on over to Miss Laura. Hello, my love.

Hello again, and hi everyone. Yeah, thanks Val, Damon, everyone. Oh my goodness, I just— oh, I'm— Flora, I— yeah, I'm pretty speechless, and I'm just really, really, really grateful for you sharing your story, Damon. Like you said the other day, you know that I wear my heart on my sleeve, so I'm fully full-on empath engaging into every single season. of your life and testimony. And I had to just stop and ask myself then, I was like, what do I say when I turn my mic off? Because there are just hundreds and hundreds of words and thoughts that come to my mind. So, um, I had to sort of rein it in and basically just wanted to say that, that I was— I'm trying to be really good. I'm not shouting a million things, but I'm just super, super, super super grateful for you sharing your story because I feel like, um, although we're all very, very different people, completely different backgrounds— well, ADHD or not, just every single human being has a different story. Um, but I feel like, um, I echo what Val has shared as well, and that you're so courageous, and it's incredible that you've been able to share your story and got to that point of feeling like that you've healed enough to be able to share your story and It's like you're helping heal other people, sharing your story. And whilst you continue to heal yourself as well, you've been able to be seen by all of us. And I really feel like you know that now, and I hope you can keep continuing growing in that, that you can see that you are completely seen and heard and loved by everyone. And, um, I can't imagine the many experiences that you've been through when you may have not felt that, but it just shows for you now that you've literally just ended it off well by saying you don't regret any of it, no matter what you've been through. It seems like you've been through some really, really difficult times, but it also seems like that those struggles have really, really helped build your strength and perseverance, and if you didn't go through all of those, then you wouldn't be here. right now. And it's like, and I always drop in with scripture with me because I'm quite a new Christian. And in my everyday life, I feel like I can't be, I can't be my ADHD self and myself who believes in faith. So I definitely, when I was listening to you, all I could like hear in my mind is the scripture saying that, and I never sort of reiterate something in specific words, but I'm sure you get what I mean when I say That when you go through tests and trials, it builds your strength, your perseverance, your endurance. And yeah, it really— it's like, what's that saying when it says a diamond has to be crushed to be able to become a diamond? And it might sound quite cheesy when you say it out loud, but yeah, I'm just really grateful. Thank you for holding this space. Everyone, well, some of you know here, I'm new on my journey. I am still waiting. I have literally spoke to the doctor about one and a half weeks ago about getting a diagnosis, so I'm very new. I am a little baby on the journey, but I've been here a few months now, a couple of months probably. I say a few months; it could have been like four years ago, but I'm sure everyone will agree with that. But yeah, thank you. I'm super grateful for you. Super grateful for you sharing your story. I'm feeling really encouraged and. It's been a breakthrough for me because I've wanted to help others and coach for, like, my whole life. Well, mainly in the last 12 years, and I never ever knew where that— what direction that would go in. And now I realize that, okay, I'm not weird, I'm not the outcast, and there are other good people in the world that want to help people. And yeah, I said that was going to be quick, but it's just not a possible thing. So, I'm sure we all love you, Damien, and thank you. And I'm just super excited for you and your future and your journey and everyone else who's here. And I'm sure we'll all be grateful to tag along. So my name is Laura, and I am done speaking.

Laura, I love you. Oh my God, you guys. Oh my, I feel like an emotional roller coaster right now. And I'm grateful that I get to identify and I can feel my emotions Today, but yeah, I feel like this overwhelming sense of belonging, of safety, of feeling like I'm accepted and loved, and then I have this overwhelming outpouring of just admiration for each one of you guys and celebration and just like weirdly proud. I guess like I guess it's weirdly proud. I don't know. Just very very proud of Damon for telling his story, and you know I know it's scary to do that. Especially, you know, your first time really stepping out and being seen and dropping that waterline of like, okay, this is the community I hang out in every single day. These people know me, but like now I'm really going to show who I am and share my story. So I'm just so insanely proud of you, Damon, for doing this. Thank you so much for not only allowing us to host the ADHD Rise in your Clubhouse, but also for, you know, letting us see you, letting us be in The VIP section of, you know, seeing your story and coming along with you in your journey. And you guys, this is, this is like chapter, you know, this is the beginning, right? Like, it's so funny how the beginning is just— I mean, like, this is the middle of the story, right? Like, God is not done writing your story. And you are going to do so many amazing things in this life. I feel it. I know it. I believe in you. And I'm just so grateful that—

Thank you.

You took the courage and the opportunity to do this. So thank you so much, Damon. And what is the best way for people to get ahold of you if they do want to work with you or if they're interested in learning more about what you do?

Yeah, absolutely. Obviously following this club. We do these rooms every day from Monday, Wednesday, Friday. I say every day. It used to be every day Tuesday to Saturday. But yeah, so every day Monday, Wednesday, Friday. Uh, 11 to 12 o'clock Eastern time, uh, usually more around different topics about ADHD and more of the educational side and advocacy side. Fridays we do some celebrating wins and stuff. But you can also, uh, if you look in my bio at the very, very bottom, I do have a Twitter. I'm not very active on Twitter, but Instagram, if you follow me there, I'm super active on Instagram. I'd love to have you, uh, join me there as well. I do work one-on-one with clients, uh, with ADHD and without. I prefer people with ADHD, uh, mainly more through the partnership process and structure. Um, that's what I mainly help people with, right? So that's, that's understanding what you can be doing tool and tip-wise to, to implement into your life to do the things that you want to do, then to be able to process how your brain might handle that as the ADHD part of it. And then, um, Provide the accountability and partnership, the pursuit, relationship connection there, right? I only work with a handful of clients at a time so that I can give them as much energy as possible. But if one-on-one client— one-on-one working with the clients is not for you, I do offer a group as well. That's a lot less intentional and maybe a little safer for some people that don't want to work one-on-one. But then, and I'm working through making an offline community of ADHDers that hopefully will grow to thousands of people. That's what, like, that is my goal right now is to grow that thing as big as possible because the more people we know and can relate to and share with, like, I think that just sets up our odds for success so much better. And even just our quality of life, feeling known and seen is going to be amazing. So that's like, that right now is like my hyperfocus is how can I stack this community and give each other the resources, like, to succeed, right? To feel known. So, um, yeah, that's me.

Hey, Ari.

So I know that I speak for pretty much everyone, I mean, confidently in this room when— and, you know, I was criticized the other day for idolization of, of, um, you know, my, my mentors. So it's not an idolization, it's that When you and Damon do what you do and come day after day for thousands of hours for free and provide that space and that service to us who are, you know, no different than you, just a little bit behind you in the path, you know, it's just— we're all very grateful and not just grateful Grateful. But it's, it's a matter of, you know, it's a matter of the phases or the, the process of, of learning. And, you know, maybe, Laura, you just are learning and I'm where you were, you know, you know, or you're where I was, you know, 6 months ago. And, and I just hope that, that, you know, in 6 months from now I can be where, you know, further along, closer to the success that in managing their ADHD that people like Val and Damon have. And to me, that's the point is that it's a process and we're never getting rid of it. We're just going to learn how to manage it. And so that's what I mean. And, you know, on behalf of— you know, speaking on behalf of the entire room, but I know that if people could clap down below, they would be saying the same thing. I just know it. And so, um, thanks for that. And wow, we're halfway through the month, and, um, can't believe the stamina. And thank you so much, Ari.

Oh my gosh, you guys, I'm so emotional.

If you think I made you cry now, just wait.

Yeah. Oh my gosh, I'm literally gonna cry, you guys. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. And don't be surprised if there's like an East Coast tour of Damon and Val hitting the— and Ari. I mean, come on, let's, let's do an East Coast tour, you guys. Let's get ADHD freaking on the road. Let's do this. Let's go. It will happen. It's going to happen. Damon and I will be on the same stage. I already know.

I'm 20 minutes from the city. Let's do it.

Yeah. What city? What city? The city. What's the city? I'm from Oregon. I don't know these things.

Look it up. The city, the city that never sleeps. New York City.

New York City. I've never been, so I need to go there. So, um, you guys, we do need to wrap it up now. But, um, thank you, Damon, so much. Thank you for everyone who has taken the time to be in this room and stay in this room and be active. And Damon, thank you so much for your time. I was selfishly— I think I took a lot of your time up today, but it's just been so great to get to know you and get to see you. And I'm right here with you shoulder to shoulder. I've got your back. I believe in you. And I know you're going to do— you are doing amazing things. And this is just the beginning. God is not done with you yet. And you are going to— I just can't even tell you how much I know you are going to do.

Thank you.

in this world. So thank you so much for having us here.

Oh, thank you. Don't— for me having you here? What? No, you invited me to this space to host this. And man, what the— I want to hit on what Aril just said about stamina, right? Like, you have shown, oh man, an immense amount of— a perfect example of what stamina looks like. And I cannot imagine, you know, all that you're giving away. It's just amazing. So what you're doing with the summit and stuff like that, like, it's just It's incredible. As hopefully all of you know, it's ADHD Awareness Month. So Clubhouse has really shown up when it comes to ADHD awareness. And Val has been a major part of that with this summit. So you should definitely give Val a follow. And I don't know if you've mentioned where you're having the rest of your rooms at, but maybe kind of like a schedule if you'd like to give that out before we close up too.

Yeah, absolutely. So next we are having a— speaking of stamina, okay, bad joke. We're having a pop-up Honey, Val, what would your pastor say?

Oh my goodness.

I am a pastor.

I'm a reverend.

So I think that we should just talk. I think that we shouldn't have shame around talking about sex, honestly. It's in the Bible. Let's go. Let's, let's talk about it. Why not? You know, but, yes. So we are having a 12 PM. We are having an ADHD and sex room that will be over in—

Pacific time.

Pacific time. Yes. Thank you so much. I actually was sending out emails with The wrong anyway, Pacific time. And then we will be doing ADHD Rise with Fallon Summer as well. That will be in the ADHD parenting room. We kind of kept things in there for the first two weeks. Can't believe we're halfway through this. And then at six p.m., we will have another spin-off room that is going to be incredible. My boy Bradley down there, who is literally my twin, we are going to be talking about. You know, ADHD and addictions. This is a very hot topic that we get a lot of requests about. And he is a hope coach, which with an organization called Rock Bottom Hope that is absolutely amazing and incredible. They are doing things across the country. I believe they're global now. He is like the global marriage hope coach with his wife Joy, who is amazing. I've gotten to know them so much throughout the last year. And we will be doing that at 6 PM Pacific time. So hop in with if you. Awesome. Have had addictions. If you wonder if you have addictions, or if you have a family member who has addictions, this is going to be a really powerful conversation. So join in on that. That will be in my business and brand secrets room in my clubhouse. So yeah, if you want to have more information, just check out ADHDrise.com. Sign up. You can get in the Facebook group, and I post all of the information in there. We're also getting all of the replays up. There was a little bit of a learning curve with. Clubhouse. I do a ton of online events, but I've never done one on Clubhouse with the audio conversions. And I just want to give a shout out to Ari and Brett, who helped me out so much the other night. I appreciate you guys. Brett was like, you're using the wrong language in your— what you're asking. And then I was able to get the website up after my assistants had been working on it for like 2 weeks. And then Ari really helped me as well with some audio stuff. And so I'm just, you know, this is a community effort, you guys. This is It takes a village and I'm so grateful. So check out adhdrise.com for all the information. We have 2 more weeks left. We've been talking about parenting. We've been talking about health and mental health. Now we're going to shift into relationships. Chris Conley is going to be in there talking about relationships and so will Trey. That will be very unfiltered and fun. So come check that out. I'm sure there'll be a lot of sexy talk in there as well. And then we're going to shift into some— entrepreneurial stuff too, as well, in building your business. So it's going to be great, you guys. I'm so excited to be here. And you know what? When we are— when you're an ADHD entrepreneur, you figure it out, right? Like, I've been taking calls with my clients at like 8 AM. I've literally been on stages and then hopped off, got in my car, and been doing this. So like, I am committed to this for you, for me, and for us. Because when I rise, you rise. And we rise together. And I think that is one of the biggest things we can take from Damon's share today is that we rise together. I'm so grateful for you guys. Thank you for being my family. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being my loves. Thank you, Damon, so, so much. You are incredible. You guys are all powerful. Thank you for holding this space for all of us today. With that, Any last words, Damon?

Thank you guys so much for being here. That's it. All right, you guys.

Well, I will see you if you're gonna join us for the ADHD and Sex Room. We will be live in about one hour, and then yeah, come hang out for the rest of the day. We're gonna be having lots and lots of fun. I might even hop in the Facebook group and go live as well. And Damon, we'd love for you to post if you're not in the Facebook group. Post how people can work with you. You can share your links in there, and we would love to support that. All right, guys, with that, let's breathe in all the positive energy, the love, the connection that we created in this room today because you sourced it, and breathe out anything that is holding you back because you are fearless, you are powerful, you are courageous. Confidence.

Confidence.

And go have a day where you are winning with ADHD. I love you and I'll see you soon. Bye. Thanks, Val.

Thanks, Damon.

Have a great Saturday.

Bye.