Day Three - Unstoppable Confidence Training- Believe & Become- Success Coach Val Nichols

Hi! Hey guys, it is day three. Day three, uno dos cuatro of the unstoppable confidence training. I will wait a couple minutes to see who else pops on or see who pops on. Do do do do do do do do do. In the meantime, I want to ask you guys how has the training been so far? What aha moments have you had? If you're watching on replay, put hashtag replay. Let me know what you've gotten out of it. What have been your takeaways? What have been your ahas? What new commitments have you made to yourself about your confidence and taking back your power? Because you guys, that is something we have talked a lot about in here over the last three days: is really standing in your own power. Standing in your confidence and becoming freaking unstoppable. So you guys, let's jump right into it. This is day 3 of the Unstoppable Confidence Training, and day 3 is titled Running with Confidence. So last night we talked a little bit, or yesterday we talked a little bit about really, you know, standing in your power and making choices. And then in the exercise last night, some of you guys were answering some super powerful questions that came through, and I'm really, really excited to, to hear about that and to be here reading your guys's comments. I'm so insanely proud of you guys. So I'll be talking a little bit more about how you can continue on this confidence journey with me if you choose to do that later on in this training. So let's jump right into day 3, running with confidence. We are if you are constantly running from your fears, if you're running, if you're avoiding, if you're numbing, you know, if you're getting on Netflix and just kind of numbing out to a series for a couple weeks at a time, or if you're you know reaching for food instead of facing your fears, sometimes the thing that can happen is. That it's kind of like, remember that boyfriend back in like 6th grade when you were— he was too nice of a guy, so you didn't really want to break up with him, but you tried to avoid him or you tried to run away, but he just kept getting more and more clingy? Yeah. So our fears are a lot like that. If you're straightforward with your fears and you choose to face them, head-on and you choose to look squarely at them and no longer allow them to hold power over you, the moment you make that decision to run towards your fears, the easier it gets, you guys. I mean, it might sound totally counterintuitive, but the moment you step up in courage and you decide that you are going to be unstoppable You face your fears head-on. That's the moment that makes the biggest difference from those who will continue to run and numb themselves out and avoid, and those who will step up into their full courage and confidence and become unstoppable. And who doesn't want to become unstoppable? Is there anyone here that struggles with imposter syndrome, or maybe the comparison game where you're online and you're looking at all the other coaches out there? You're looking at other moms wondering how they seem to have it all together, how they can look perfect. You feel like you're not creating the abundance and the impact that you truly want to create because maybe you have a business and you want to be the type of woman who is so fearless and so courageous. That you're able to create that impact in other women's lives, right? Is there anyone out there like that? I know there is. So give me some hearts and let me know. So an excuse is a an excuse is a challenge or an obstacle that you give your power to. When we make excuses, you guys, we can get stuck. Because we're giving our power away. An excuse is saying that, you know, whatever happened— and I'm not saying that you have to take full responsibility or admit guilt for something that's not yours. However, if you're still making excuses and you're stuck in that pattern, what ends up happening is you keep shoving your confidence further And further and further away. When you get stuck in that pattern of making excuses and giving yourself an out and pushing away responsibility, you can get stuck in that rut, you know, that I know so many women get stuck in. Just that rut of not feeling like you're able to do as many things as you wish you could do. You're not able to create the impact or the influence Or you know, make decisions that you need to make in your business, in your life, in your relationships. And you find yourself just being very you know, like we talked about yesterday, you're restless and you're sick and tired of being sick and tired. When really, our goal in developing our confidence is to be a finisher, is to be carefree. Is to be more relaxed and confident with the type of woman that we are. And if you want to shift from excuses, you might want to try like a mantra: I am fully capable and courageous despite the challenges and the fears that I face. So this is a mantra that I use a lot. You know, if I'm feeling fear, I might say something like. You know, even though I'm feeling this fear, I am still fully capable and fully confident and fully courageous, and I will see this through. You guys, acknowledging the fear helps us to not stay in that cycle of avoidance and pushing away and ignoring and, you know, all those things that we can do. When we name it and claim it, right? Name it and claim it. I think that's an old school like thing, but it works if you name it and claim it. So you name your fear. Yes, I'm feeling fear. Yes, I'm feeling like I may never be the online business person that I'm hoping to be. And even though I'm feeling this fear, I'm gonna still push through to the very end. Because I am confident and I am courageous. See how much of a shift that is, you guys? If you're constantly like beating yourself up, or your inner dialogue is saying that I'm fearful, I'm afraid, I'm nervous, I'm not good enough, all these things, then what can happen is that holds power. But if you say Even though you're there, fear, I see you. Fear, I know you're there. I'm gonna name you. I'm gonna acknowledge you. And even though you're there, I'm gonna choose to move forward because I am confident and I am courageous. If that's you, You are confident and courageous. Give me a heart, give me high fives, let me know. So this builds confidence as we keep practicing this, because it is a practice, you guys. I can't expect you to right away say it once and automatically just be fearless and, you know, unstoppable and, and never even, you know, have those, those thoughts and those things come up, because that would be setting you up for failure. So I am going to be honest with you about the fact that this is going to be a continuing practice that you guys will be practicing for some time. Some of you guys, it might take a week. Some of you, it might take 2 weeks. Some of you might need to practice for a full 21 days, maybe 60 days. You know, whatever it is, each one of us has a different set of false beliefs that are stuck in, in our inner consciousness that it's going to take a different amount of time for us to kind of crawl out of that and stop digging, right? If you hike 5 miles into the forest, it's going to take you 5 miles to get out. Whereas if someone's been trekking for 5 years into this journey, it's going to take them 60 days to get out, or, you know, however long it's going to take them to get out. So each one of us is at a different level. If it doesn't stick right away, you're going to notice your ego starting to You know, come up and maybe fight those. Just get curious. Ask yourself, I wonder why. So when I tell myself in the mirror that I'm confident and I'm courageous, I want to automatically say no, no, I'm not. I'm a coward. I'm not good enough. So I wonder why. I wonder why. My ego keeps popping up with resistance. I can tell you the most likely reason why is because your ego is just trying to do its job. It is just trying to keep you safe. It is trying to hold you safe and protected in what it knows. Hi, Michelle. Thank you for the hearts. So yes, trying to keep you safe. In that space that you know, when you have been telling yourself for so long that you are not courageous, that you're a failure, that you are not good enough, that you're not as good as other women, that you you know are constantly in that imposter syndrome or that comparison cycle, then your ego is going to resist. So that's when you just come at it with that mantra that okay. Even though I'm feeling scared, even though I'm feeling nervous, and even though I'm feeling like I'm not good enough right now in this moment, I am confident and courageous, and I'm gonna keep on going. Guys, that is one of the biggest things— the differences between someone who starts something and someone who's a finisher. The finishers are the people who are able to manage their minds And keep on going even when they don't know what the next step is or what it's going to look like or what the outcome is going to be. You know, I've heard that said that courage is showing up even when you don't know and you cannot control the outcome. Ladies, I'll say that again. Courage is showing up. Even when you don't know and you don't, you can't control the outcome. If you are a recovering Type A type of person like I am, that can be a little hard of a pill to swallow because not being able to control the outcome or not knowing what the next step is can really pull away our confidence. You know, if we don't have, if we're not assured, we're always looking for that assurance. We're always looking for something that is, you know, that we get some assurance and we kind of like know, you know, a lot of us are those type of people that kind of need, we need to know what's going to happen, right? Especially if you're a business owner, you're a leader, a lot of times we can get stuck in that. So, you know, realizing that we can show up regardless of what it is That is going to happen, and we can be okay with that outcome, because no matter what, we know we are going to be okay. That's when you can step out of the resistance of the ego and the doubt and step fully and 100% into the unstoppable, courageous woman that I know that that you are. So ladies, I want to challenge you today with a couple of questions. When you wrote last night what you would rather believe— so on day 1, the exercise was what are your current false beliefs? On day 2, I asked you what would you rather believe? So now on day 3, I'm gonna challenge you to ask yourself Why must? Why is it a must that you must make these changes? You must believe this new belief. Why must you? What will it feel like to live in this new belief? And really get into that. Feel the feelings. Feel exactly how you would feel If you truly believed that you are unstoppable and that you are fully confident to the best of your ability, how would that feel? How would you show up in the world? How would you carry yourself? How would you dress? What kind of car would you drive? How would your relationships— what would those look like? How would you show up in your business? How would you show up in your life? I mean, really take this time to just dive into that. And feel the emotions you would feel. Get excited and celebrate the things that you would celebrate if you really were in these new beliefs and you were living out these new beliefs. Why must you feel these? Really get into this exercise, you guys. Like, imagine the outfits you would wear. Imagine the house you would live in. How would your house look? Would it be cluttered? Would it be organized? Would you hire someone to do your laundry? This Think about it. If you are 100% fully in your most confident self, what would that look like in every single area of your life? Have fun with this homework, you guys, because your mind is your limit. You get to take this time and imagine and dream and celebrate. Everything that you can be, that you will be, that you will become. And I want you to, while you're writing this, just get so excited about it that each time you write down a new affirmation, like, when I'm fully confident in myself, I will make $100,000. I want you to just celebrate and say yes, yes, I am saying yes to that destiny. I'm saying yes to that future. I'm saying yes to have amazing relationships. I am saying Yes, and I am celebrating the abundance that's coming my way. Just get super into it. Feel all the emotions. Allow yourself. Allow your imagination to just go wild. You guys, your only limitation is you. The only limitation you have in this moment is you. I don't want you to get worried up in the or worried about the how. Trying to figure out, trying to reason with yourself whether or not that's a logical thing that can really happen. Allow yourself to get so lost in this idea and these ideals that you have, because the only limitation that you have is the limitation that you put on yourself. Ladies, I want to honor you so much for all of the courage and the bravery and the confidence that you've had to show up fully in this 3-day Unstoppable Confidence Challenge. I have had so much fun working with you ladies, reading your comments, just really vibing in this energy that you've created in this group. I have just been so insanely proud of all of you ladies stepping out, doing the work, commenting along, you know, really just showing up in and creating the best possible version of you that you can. I'm going to keep this group open because I'm so excited to hear your reactions and what your visions are. So I really encourage you to share those in the group, even share with us some of your insane, amazing things that you're believing for. I want you to proclaim them in this group. Go in and let us know that you are going to have a beautiful shabby chic country home that's $1 million. You know, show us a picture. You know, share with us the vehicle you're going to get. Share with us the Mercedes-Benz ML-Class 2020 version of the car you're going to get with black leather interior. Oh wait, that's my dream. Sorry. So share with us what your visions are, you guys, so that We can celebrate right along with you and create the momentum and the energy that you guys have already started in this group. And ladies, with that, I want to remind you, my hope and my intention is that we don't let go of this amazing, abundant, courageous momentum and energy that we've created. So So if you are not a part of my High Vibe Tribe group, I would love for you to jump in there, join in there, because we do share about manifestation, we share about confidence, we share about vulnerability, we share about— we share our businesses on Fridays. So there's a lot of stuff happening in that group where you could find an accountability partner. You can just jump right in, get involved with it, and be seen. That's an amazing group of women who are super high vibe, who are waiting to support you and get to know you. So I know a lot of you guys are already a part of that, but I would love for you to jump in to help you kind of get in the momentum. That is a free group. So jump in, get a part of that momentum. I would love for you to be a part of that. I'll post the link in the comments or above. But yeah, definitely connect with that. And then if you are looking for a deeper dive, you guys, I know that we've covered quite a few things in here, But I'm gonna be honest with you, the amount of time I've had with you in this group has been super limited. You know, it's only 3 days. We haven't been able to really deep dive into those really deeply rooted ideas and thoughts and patterns that each one of you is going through because I didn't have enough time to speak with each one of you and connect. However, if you are looking for that specifically, if you are looking for a deep dive into your specific patterns and behaviors that have kept you stuck, that have kept you in this place where you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, in this place where you are so riddled with imposter syndrome, if you are ready to get out of the imposter syndrome own your power and feel like you are completely on top of the world, if you are ready to shine more, to get greater results in your business and to make more money, if you are ready to create abundance and impact, if you are the type of woman right now who wants to have a thriving business so that you can empower other women to do the same, if you want to be fearless and more confident in your decision-making, and if you want to be not just a starter but a finisher, a leader, if you want to be carefree and relaxed instead of stressed out and feeling not good enough, I want to invite you to my next program. It is called the Unleashed Confidence. I'm sorry, Confidence Unleashed. I got a dyslexic moment right there. It's Confidence Unleashed, you guys. I'm going to be opening this up to the public on Monday, June 10th. I had to look at my calendar, sorry. So on Monday, June 10th, but I want to offer it to you ladies first. Because I have had so much fun with you ladies in this group with the energy and the vibe that we've created. I've had so much fun getting to know you guys and learning a little bit more about what your specific struggles are with confidence. So I want to invite you to join me in on that, and I am going to keep it open until Friday for this group. So you have 2 days. I know some of you need to make the decision, or, you know, maybe look at your finances, and that is totally and completely okay. I get that. I understand that. Um, so I will keep this open for you guys until Friday, and this program will be for the 4-week program where you're going to learn how to overcome your imposter syndrome so that you can create bigger results in your business. You're going to impact more women, impact the world. You're going to create Be more confident, be a leader, step into your power so that you can make definitive decisions and follow through. You know, there's so many of us that we're strong starters, right? We can get a great idea and run with it, and we can become such strong starters, but when it comes to finishing, we can talk ourselves out of it, or we can become discouraged, and we can just automatically shut down, and we don't finish, right? So if you want to become that woman who steps out, you know, who can walk into any room and feel 100% confident, can stand in front of a crowd of people and ask for what she wants and use her voice to empower the people around her, to make a huge impact in the world, to become an influencer— if you want to become that woman, then this program is for you. You guys, I'm going to announce it on Monday, June 10th for the public. The regular price for this program for the basic package is $197. So I'm going to announce it on Monday at an early bird price. I haven't quite set that price with my team yet. However, I want to offer it to you ladies today through Friday at $97. So if you want to sign up for that, it's going to be an entire supported program, um, 4 weeks on Zoom calls. So you're going to be able to interact with me live instead of just hearing me, you know, interact. You're going to have, um, a ton of exercises that you can go through. You're going to be supported by me. You're going to see me face to face. You can ask questions and we can deep dive into your specific reasons on what is keeping you stuck. I will be doing some hot seat coaching. I will, um, do results coaching with you, which is going to get to that root and pull it out. Because, you know, I always ask my clients, like, how long do you have it scheduled? How long is it scheduled in your life for you to not be fully confident, to not be making the impact that you want? How long is it scheduled for you to not be showing up as the confident, courageous woman that you want to be. And if you're ready to really pull that out, if you're ready to yank those false beliefs from the roots and pull that out and instead step into your power of being the most courageous, strong finisher, carefree, confident, courageous business owner that you want to be, Join in on this program. You have from today until Friday to make the decision, and then when I release it to the public, the price will go up. But for you ladies of the Unleashed Confidence, it is going to be only $97. You guys, this is a freaking steal. It is over half off. But I want to empower you women to make this decision that if you are ready to say yes, if you're ready to say yes, I'll post the link. Jump in. You have a couple of days to decide. You can also get a 4-week supported version for $222, and that is going to give you the 4 weeks supported live. You're also going to get 2 calls with me. So the Confidence Unleashed supported You'll get the 4-week program and 2 calls with me, 2 45-minute calls where you have just me, full attention, one-on-one. That is going to be $222. That's it, you guys. I— if I were to break down an hourly rate on my calls, which I don't do hourly rates, I do coaching packages. It would be way more than that just to get on one 45-minute call with me, you guys. So this is a huge steal. So if you want to do the 4-week Unstoppable Challenge or Unstoppable Confidence Program, which is going to start on June 17th, so you have that date. If you want to do the 4 weeks supported, you're going to get the 4-week program, 2 45-minute calls with me, And that's going to be $222 through Friday. Or your last choice would be the Unstoppable Confidence Program VIP package. And what you're going to get with that is the 4-week program, 4 calls with me to schedule anytime you want. And this will be a one-on-one coaching. We can deep dive into your business. I can give you very extensive business coaching, which again, you guys, those packages are huge, cost way more than that. If you want to do the 4-week VIP, you're gonna have 4 calls with me, lifetime access to all of those calls because I will record them and send them to you, and then you're gonna get some bonus content and also a 30-day Day follow-up plan. So after the 30-day program, you're going to have 30 days more of continual follow-up so you don't lose your momentum. You guys, the VIP package is going to be $333, and that is only through Friday, and that is a retail price of $597. So you're going to get it for like more than half off, you guys. So let me repeat those again. The Unstoppable Confidence Challenge starts on June 17th. You guys have the option through Friday to join in on that program. It's a 4-week program for $97. If you want to do the Unstoppable Confidence Supported Program, that's $222, and you're going to get the 4 entire— the entire 4-week program And 2 45-minute long calls with me. If you want to do the— I'm sorry, Confidence Unleashed VIP program, that is going to be the 4-week program, 4 calls with me that you can schedule anytime. You could do 2 during that month, 2 in July. You know, you could do one per month, one in June, one July, one August, one September. Those are going to be four accumulated calls with me that you are going to have at any time. I'm going to record those so you will have lifetime access to those calls to go back and re-listen and you know do your launch or whatever it is that you want to do. Like lather, rinse, repeat. You guys, until Friday, that is only. $333 for this group only. I am not offering that to anyone else. Once it goes public, the price goes up. So I'll post those links for you ladies. Don't forget to do your homework because I really want to hear what it is that is a must for you. I want to hear about your visions. I want to hear about your dreams. I want to hear all the things that you have, that you are believing for, and that you are standing in your confidence for. Ladies, I'm here to support you. I'm here to love you. I am sending you so much love. Each and every single one of you have become— have a place in my heart. That's why I wore my hearts, you guys. I wore my hearts just for you because you all have a place in my heart. I love you guys so much. Again, I will keep this group open for a couple days because I know some of you guys need to catch up, watch the replays, rewatch the, the days if you need to hear the information again. I hope that you will join me in my Confidence Unleashed program, whether that's the basic, the supported, or the VIP. I would love to have all of you in there. I would love to fill this program with you beautiful ladies, but I will be seeing you very, very soon. I am sending you so much love. I love you guys. I will talk to you soon. Mwah! Bye!